irc333 Posted November 4, 2014 Share Posted November 4, 2014 Not sure how often this said in both genders profiles, but I'm seeing it more and more prevalent said in online dating profiles, "If I didn't reply, chances are I wasn't interested." To the gentlemen, would this be off-putting to you and you wouldn't email her to begin with? Link to post Share on other sites
NJ123 Posted November 4, 2014 Share Posted November 4, 2014 Not sure how often this said in both genders profiles, but I'm seeing it more and more prevalent said in online dating profiles, "If I didn't reply, chances are I wasn't interested." To the gentlemen, would this be off-putting to you and you wouldn't email her to begin with? Honestly it would be because I'd assume they are extremely selective in who they choose to talk to, so I wouldn't bother. I deleted all the online dating sites now anyways. Best way to meet someone is in person since it's more natural that way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted November 4, 2014 Author Share Posted November 4, 2014 Honestly it would be because I'd assume they are extremely selective in who they choose to talk to, so I wouldn't bother. I deleted all the online dating sites now anyways. Best way to meet someone is in person since it's more natural that way. True, in person they really would feel an obligation to talk to you and not block you. lol. Gives them a chance to hear you out before you're out of the running before it's started. Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted November 4, 2014 Share Posted November 4, 2014 (edited) irc333, this thread is a rerun: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/transitioning/search/471554-if-i-don-t-reply-your-message Cripes bro. The way you keep repeating yourself on here writing the same thread over and over (in this case literally!). What's the definition of insanity again? Edited November 4, 2014 by Imajerk17 11 Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted November 4, 2014 Author Share Posted November 4, 2014 irc333, this thread is a rerun: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/transitioning/search/471554-if-i-don-t-reply-your-message Cripes bro. The way you keep repeating yourself on here writing the same thread over and over (in this case literally!). What's the definition of insanity again? That was done in April, for the new users it bears repeating. Dude, seriously ImAJerk17, get life and quit diggin' around in old threads to call me out. Kind a weird, man. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 To the gentlemen, would this be off-putting to you and you wouldn't email her to begin with? No, unless that's all her profile says in which case she falls foul of my "more negative stuff than positive stuff in her profile" rule. That was done in April, for the new users it bears repeating. Very public spirited of you! Here's my public service contribution: New users can also consider using the search engine to see if topics of interest have been covered recently. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 New users can also consider using the search engine . I see you are new to the internet 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 Wait, there's a search engine here? Link to post Share on other sites
Bumpin in My Trunk Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 Dude, seriously ImAJerk17, get life and quit diggin' around in old threads to call me out. Kind a weird, man. Butheisajerk17, he can't help himself. Badissssssss (rimshot) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ufo8mycat Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 True, in person they really would feel an obligation to talk to you and not block you. lol. Gives them a chance to hear you out before you're out of the running before it's started. Wasn't there a bunch of people talking about this and saying they use a standard cut-and-paste email to contact women on OLD? Maybe just as they don't have time for any personal pleasantries, women don't have the time to respond? If it is as common as indicated in another thread, what is there to hear out? A standard, inpersonal pre-recorded message? I can image that wouldn't interest a lot of people. Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 That was done in April, for the new users it bears repeating. Dude, seriously ImAJerk17, get life and quit diggin' around in old threads to call me out. Kind a weird, man. You can bump your own threads, as far as I know. The rest of us can't, after two months. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 You can bump your own threads, as far as I know. The rest of us can't, after two months. Or the mods could merge it as an 'UPDATE'. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted November 5, 2014 Author Share Posted November 5, 2014 You can bump your own threads, as far as I know. The rest of us can't, after two months. Yeah, that's an idea, I could just bump them. I would just have to remember what keywords to use to search for it. Link to post Share on other sites
sid3 Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 Yeah, that's an idea, I could just bump them. I would just have to remember what keywords to use to search for it. Stalker would be a good keyword, at least for bumping my personal favorite thread you've started. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 Well you could just use a certain keyword in every post. That would make searching for them easy. For example: floccinaucinihilipilification. Now I can find this post in years to come, by searching for that word. On topic: it would put me off. Not because lack of reply is some kind of insult or slight or I think she's being picky; but because pre-emptively giving excuses and showing off about popularity are weak character traits. I found that profiles using this line normally have other red flags as well, and the woman often has an attitude of entitlement and attention seeking. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted November 5, 2014 Author Share Posted November 5, 2014 Well you could just use a certain keyword in every post. That would make searching for them easy. For example: floccinaucinihilipilification. Now I can find this post in years to come, by searching for that word. On topic: it would put me off. Not because lack of reply is some kind of insult or slight or I think she's being picky; but because pre-emptively giving excuses and showing off about popularity are weak character traits. I found that profiles using this line normally have other red flags as well, and the woman often has an attitude of entitlement and attention seeking. True...but I've seen some profiles that are actually rather normal (Neutral) neither positive or negative. Some positive....but some I've seen actually ADD that line later on like after a month. So they just make it easy and just put it on the footer of the "About Me" section. It's like they are trying to be nice, but I think they just either. 1. Don't want to reply with "Sorry, thanks for the email, but not interested." 2. Get so many emails, they don't have time to do the "Sorry not interested." . . . . . Though, I've seen one woman say, "If you emailed me, and I didn't reply, please don't email me a week later again, if you can't remembered who you emailed, then that makes me not want to get to know you even MORE so." I get a kick out of that last sentence. So I take it she'd only be willing to get to know you if you didn't send a 2nd email the following weekend, even though she wasn't interested after the first email? Talk about the "Can't get credit, unless you have credit" when applying for credit. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 So I take it she'd only be willing to get to know you if you didn't send a 2nd email the following weekend, even though she wasn't interested after the first email? She'd only be interested to get to know you if she liked your profile. If not, then sending her a 2nd message wouldn't convince her because you're still the same guy that she is not interested in getting to know. Seems like common sense to me. But it's a pretty fruitless thing to write on a profile -- the guys who are likely to send multiple messages, are probably not the guys who read profiles anyway. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Lani Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 They've probably copped some nasty messages from guys when they haven't replied in the past, so feel the need for a disclaimer on their profile. Not really a double thread issue I wouldn't say. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 They've probably copped some nasty messages from guys when they haven't replied in the past, so feel the need for a disclaimer on their profile. Not really a double thread issue I wouldn't say. I can't even remember the last time you were nice enough to start a thread for us to post in. Nor any of the other people playing armchair quarterback. I'd probably still message her if I was interested. Who cares if she doesn't write me back. Link to post Share on other sites
Lani Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 I can't even remember the last time you were nice enough to start a thread for us to post in. Nor any of the other people playing armchair quarterback. I'd probably still message her if I was interested. Who cares if she doesn't write me back. It's because OP uses the LS quota of new threads every day. The rest of us don't stand a chance. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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