1st Time Being Dumped

[katiemiller]

My ex broke up with me very suddenly about 6 months ago. He's reasoning was that he just no longer wanted to be in a relationship. I am very good friends with his friends and they all said they didn't see it coming at all and he never said anything to them. My ex is a friendly guy, but likes his alone time and isn't one to talk about feelings.

 

I know our problems steamed from me wanting to always be doing something. I love trying new things and spending time with my significant other, where as he was more of home-body and preferred to have his alone time. We also live in the same neighborhood, so I think he just got tired of me. And he is the first guy to every dump me.

 

Right now, I am still single and feeling pretty good, except I can't stop thinking about my ex. I know we're not good together and I don't cry about him anymore, but when I see him, I still get butterflies. I am angry at him for breaking up with me and I wonder what I could have done better. I also get angry when I see him out, because he didn't do that with me. And it's a confidence crusher that he was able to just let me go without being upset.

 

I know I deserve someone better. And I was doing fine a last month, but all of sudden, he's creeped in again. He now tries to talk to me when he sees me, wished me a happy birthday, offered to babysit my dog, etc. But I know it's not because he wants to get back together.

 

Has anyone else harbor this much confusion and hate, without wanting to date your ex again? Especially with them being nice to you?

[Strength in Healing]

There's no protocol of how you're supposed to feel and how you're supposed to handle things every step of the way.

 

Clearly your ego has been hurt, that much is very obvious by this post. However, all we CAN really control is looking forward and moving on one day at a time. There are ups and downs, you will have days worse than others, even a year or more after a breakup sometimes. Stay strong, and move along.

 

 

A word to the wise to you and everyone reading your topic, however: do NOT trust their friends to tell you the truth. Doesn't matter HOW great of a mutual friend they are to you. Your ex probably did tell them lots of things, but out of loyalty to him or not wanting to hurt you, they played dumb.