lawbstar Posted November 6, 2014 Share Posted November 6, 2014 It has almost been 3 weeks since she broke up with me. Her sister and her sister's boyfriend tell me that she still has feelings for me, and might want to get back with me, but will do that slowly if it happens. I am not exactly sure if I can be with her again because her dumping me came out of nowhere for me. I never saw it coming, so I feel like if we did get back together, there might be a hole between us. At dinner, we just had small talk. We did not really talk about us. After NC for a little over a week, she was the one who called me out. Right after dinner, while I was driving her home, she got a text from a friend who asked her to meet at a dessert place. I dropped her off. Right after, I was flooded by emotions. I felt like it was too soon for me to see her because it felt weird seeing her while we were not together. Now, I am just trying to find out if I really want to be with her or not. I ended up calling her a little while ago and asked her to watch a movie with me, she basically said maybe. For now, I think I will try to go NC again. Does anyone else have any advice for me? I can not decide whether I want to be with her or not :/. Link to post Share on other sites
Mi7522 Posted November 6, 2014 Share Posted November 6, 2014 It's best you try to stay away from her for the time being. Get your head cleared and then see how you want to proceed. I bet you'll be singing a different tune sooner rather than later Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted November 6, 2014 Share Posted November 6, 2014 while I was driving her home, she got a text from a friend who asked her to meet at a dessert place. I dropped her off. Friend male, or friend female? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lawbstar Posted November 7, 2014 Author Share Posted November 7, 2014 (edited) I don't know if her friend was male or female. I am not exactly sure if my head is cleared, but after last night, I feel like I want to be with her more even though I feel like I still don't fully understand why she broke up with me. Do people who break up then get back together ever last? Also, after having seen her last night, the urge to contact her is a lot stronger now. I called her about an hour earlier too. We did talk for a little bit. I also asked her if we could watch a movie on Sunday. She said she could not. In my heart, it feels like I have more hope of us getting back together now, but that scares me, and I do not want to hope for too much in case it does not happen. I feel like seeing her might have messed with my head and slowed me down in my healing process. I will try my best to avoid her. However, if she does contact me, should I ignore her unless she says something about wanting to get back together? I don't want to be rude to her, but at the same time, I do not want to be lead on even a few weeks ago she told me that she still loves me. I don't know what to think. Edited November 7, 2014 by lawbstar Link to post Share on other sites
Lightitup Posted November 7, 2014 Share Posted November 7, 2014 If she didn't give you a straight reason for the breakup, she's probably moved on to someone else and doesn't want to hurt you. Regardless, time for you to NC and move on. She doesn't want what you want. Get going on building a great life without her! Link to post Share on other sites
CalvinM Posted November 7, 2014 Share Posted November 7, 2014 Don't spend any more time with her until she says she made a mistake and wants you back. I wish I'd listened to advice on here, but instead I met my ex for lunch and it reopened old wounds. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
EuTuBrute Posted November 7, 2014 Share Posted November 7, 2014 It will be easy to get back with her, but be warned you will be burned again Link to post Share on other sites
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