smackie9 Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 Didn't you suggest earlier in the thread that somebody in my position should just get a hooker? Now you're changing your mind? Why? Besides how would they know anyway? I mean if we should stay quiet about being a virgin why not about visiting an escort? Not sure why everyone takes me so litterally lol. I just throw stuff out there to see the reaction and assess. I have seen enough threads where someones sexual past ends up haunting their new relationship. Make your choices wisely is all I can say. Link to post Share on other sites
toscaroscura Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 Virginity means nothing to me. If it was the right guy and I loved him, AND he didn't have hang-ups about intimacy and was willing to learn, it would actually be a plus. No bad sexual habits to unlearn, no ex GF drama, etc. This view that you had to have "parties and girls" and you didn't and now you've missed out is frankly silly. Not every kid is a wild partier, and not every woman goes for that. I myself, and the few guys I have been with, were not partiers. I prefer a guy who has maybe had a few long-term GFs over the guy that partied and banged tons of girls. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 This view that you had to have "parties and girls" and you didn't and now you've missed out is frankly silly. Not every kid is a wild partier, and not every woman goes for that. I myself, and the few guys I have been with, were not partiers. I prefer a guy who has maybe had a few long-term GFs over the guy that partied and banged tons of girls. I do not think many (if any really) women are impressed by men who have "partied and banged tons of girls". Women tend to want to feel special, they do not want to be just another object on the conveyor belt. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
toscaroscura Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 I do not think many (if any really) women are impressed by men who have "partied and banged tons of girls". Women tend to want to feel special, they do not want to be just another object on the conveyor belt. I agree with you completely! But I've noticed a lot of guys online seem to think that you'll only impress a woman if you've been with gobs of women, even better if she feels like she must compete with all those women and win his affection. This line of thinking genuinely puzzles me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 I agree with you completely! But I've noticed a lot of guys online seem to think that you'll only impress a woman if you've been with gobs of women, even better if she feels like she must compete with all those women and win his affection. This line of thinking genuinely puzzles me. I believe it is the influence of porn, a "real man" has sex with loads of hot women, and the rise of the PUA culture. PUAs can have any woman they want, woman are putty in their hands. Therefore sleeping with hundreds of women is the goal and is seen as something women see as an accomplishment... Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 Women don't want a guy that has had "gobs" of women, but we don't mind a guy that has something under his belt, mainly LTR experience. I have dated a lot, and I find anyone who had little to no experience with relationships, was a bit of a challenge. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AVarma Posted December 12, 2014 Author Share Posted December 12, 2014 Well but i wonder this, as you have not slept with any girls before, what would you expect sex to be like? As you would mostly be watching porn & those girls have nice bodies/good skills, would you have higher expectations of sex/partners? I can reassure you I don't think real life sex is like porn. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted December 12, 2014 Share Posted December 12, 2014 I can reassure you I don't think real life sex is like porn. Hah! Sometimes real life sex is just like porn Link to post Share on other sites
Author AVarma Posted December 12, 2014 Author Share Posted December 12, 2014 Hah! Sometimes real life sex is just like porn Aren't you a virgin? Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted December 12, 2014 Share Posted December 12, 2014 Aren't you a virgin? Absolutely not. Heck, I had sex a few times yesterday. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AVarma Posted December 12, 2014 Author Share Posted December 12, 2014 Absolutely not. Heck, I had sex a few times yesterday. Reading some of your responses on this thread I just assumed you were. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 You don't tell someone you are a virgin, show some self confidence. I can't remember a time where a woman asked me if I was a virgin, those days passed when I was a teenager. At your age the assumption coming from the woman's end is that you aren't a virgin so she wouldn't ask.. Now get out there and start asking some women out... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AVarma Posted December 13, 2014 Author Share Posted December 13, 2014 Lastly, don't see a hooker... Why did you include this last sentence as part of your advice? I ask because I've considered paying an escort to lose my virginity. Link to post Share on other sites
E-Squared Posted December 14, 2014 Share Posted December 14, 2014 You don't tell someone you are a virgin, show some self confidence. I can't remember a time where a woman asked me if I was a virgin, those days passed when I was a teenager. At your age the assumption coming from the woman's end is that you aren't a virgin so she wouldn't ask.. Now get out there and start asking some women out... I don't know about that. I remember talking to this girl two years ago, and she asked me if I was a virgin. My guess is probably because I didn't play along with her flirty text messages she sent me with sex jokes. Yes, it was only two years ago, so it was a while, but still, and I was only 26 then. Link to post Share on other sites
E-Squared Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 I read some question answers on OKC regarding women's preferences. When a woman says that she prefers a guy to be "very experienced" in the sex department, or when asked if she would date a guy who is a virgin at 25, and she said no, it makes me feel more inadequate that I want to punch the wall or throw something towards. Talk about being judgmental. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AVarma Posted December 17, 2014 Author Share Posted December 17, 2014 I don't know about that. I remember talking to this girl two years ago, and she asked me if I was a virgin. My guess is probably because I didn't play along with her flirty text messages she sent me with sex jokes. Yes, it was only two years ago, so it was a while, but still, and I was only 26 then. Not responding to sexual text message made her think you're a virgin. Link to post Share on other sites
E-Squared Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 Not responding to sexual text message made her think you're a virgin. But how? Just because I didn't play along? Just because I was a little uncomfortable by her flirty messages? That, in my opinion, is stupid. So I was uncomfortable in receiving those types of messages. I am sure that some non-virgins feel uncomfortable when receiving those types of messages. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AVarma Posted December 17, 2014 Author Share Posted December 17, 2014 But how? Just because I didn't play along? Just because I was a little uncomfortable by her flirty messages? That, in my opinion, is stupid. So I was uncomfortable in receiving those types of messages. I am sure that some non-virgins feel uncomfortable when receiving those types of messages. Actually I was asking you, I accidentally put a period instead of a question mark. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 But how? Just because I didn't play along? Just because I was a little uncomfortable by her flirty messages? That, in my opinion, is stupid. So I was uncomfortable in receiving those types of messages. I am sure that some non-virgins feel uncomfortable when receiving those types of messages. If a woman is sexual in her message, it means that she is considering the possibility of having sex with you. Absolutely play along. If you do, you may end up having sex with her. Sooner than later. Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 Sure, ladies can dig that. If I liked a guy and felt a connection with him then I'd date him, even if he was a virgin, yes. But if the guy was squeamish about affection (kissing...) and after a while of dating me still not being intimate in the bedroom with me, then I would stop seeing him. /= Affection is very important to me. I second this I would also stop dating if he was unwilling to experiment passed the basic missionary. Link to post Share on other sites
E-Squared Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 If a woman is sexual in her message, it means that she is considering the possibility of having sex with you. Absolutely play along. If you do, you may end up having sex with her. Sooner than later. Are you insinuating that I was wrong for feeling uneasy about those messages? Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 I would. If I went off to dates, I'd look for a relationship. And when I look for a relationship, I'm trying to find someone who clicks with me, not someone who's mastered the kama sutra (although I guess we could try it together ). Link to post Share on other sites
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 Women go for compatablility and chemistry regardless of sexual history. I know a group of woman who compare sexual stories with people they've slept with because they've all slept with the same people so they know whose good in bed and who isn't. Instead of concentrating on the social stigma of late virginhood, concentrate on what the positives are. You're free of STD's, you don't have some secret kid you're not telling your dates about, while people are complaining about the misery of their ex girlfriends you have no ex baggage to complain about. Your heart, soul, mind and body are completely devoted to the woman your with so sexually helping her and making her happy is your absolute priority. And plus virgins can become pros in bed! I know this from experience. I have been single for years and this is almost the same as being a virgin. Some guys a put off by it. They think it's weird and walk away. Some men are super in to it. Okay it's different but then different is sexy. And guys want different. When they settle down to marry the one even if they've been with loads of heartbreaker women who have slept with others and they've slept with others etc... as soon as you say I'm a virgin, or I've only had one boyfriend or I've been single for more than 10 years they think it's weird for about five minutes before they're interested in meeting you. The idea of an untouched man or woman entices them. I know of a woman who had been with loads of guys who then one day prayed to god asking God to bring a man into her life who was a virgin. Someone who wouldn't compare her to anyone else. And that's exactly what happened. I've got more baggage I've realized being a long term single than someone has having loads of previous relationships. All because I'm convinced no body wants me. And when someone does display an interest I get scared and confused and feel like pushing them away and running away. My singlness don't scare men away my self image does. Don't let your virginity corrupt your self image which may ultimately destroy your chances with women. Link to post Share on other sites
SomeDude16 Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 I'll restate what I said in a previous topic here: When your talking about something such as sex with another person, only talk about it with people you trust comfortably. Personally, my advice would be to avoid the subject of virginity until after sex, then if you feel inclined to discuss it feel free.I will restate what others have said and urge you to play along, it will benefit you immensely. People these days act like sex and sexual experience is some extremely difficult and godly trait that only the genetically gifted can preform, when in fact its not difficult and nothing to be worried about. Link to post Share on other sites
Danda Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 No. Being an at least somewhat experienced with a virgin man has its own slightly kinky appeal, in my opinion. As long as you have a playful and eager attitude, it'll be chill and fun. Link to post Share on other sites
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