Author AVarma Posted December 20, 2014 Author Share Posted December 20, 2014 That's a question of your morals boss, if you feel inclined to after sex then go for it. When I say after I don't mean while still laying in bed with her, I mean a date or two after. I honestly doubt you will want to though, afterwards you will be looking back laughing about all this. It's funny, if you read the comment by psychethos on this article http://www.xojane.com/it-happened-to-me/it-happened-to-me-i-ended-up-in-bed-with-a-27-year-old-virgin, she waited 5 YEARS before telling her then husband that she was a virgin when they first had sex. Just something to think about. Link to post Share on other sites
E-Squared Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 In her case, I wonder how her husband took it that she took that long to tell him. Link to post Share on other sites
Trenton100 Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 not a deal-breaker in my eyes. It can be fun to teach. oh snap!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AVarma Posted December 20, 2014 Author Share Posted December 20, 2014 oh snap!!! Only class I can imagine getting an A in. Link to post Share on other sites
E-Squared Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 I guess I should take into account that not all women mind that guy hasn't laid the pipe yet. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AVarma Posted December 22, 2014 Author Share Posted December 22, 2014 Here's the ideal strategy for a guy. Don't volunteer but lie if asked. 5 minutes after having sex for the first time tell her. She may be very angry and run out of your place. If she does laugh at her for being an idiot. You're not a virgin anymore. I'm fascinated at how your brain functions. Link to post Share on other sites
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted December 24, 2014 Share Posted December 24, 2014 I'd personally love to be with a virgin. I'd feel really special that they chose me to lose their virginity to. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted December 24, 2014 Share Posted December 24, 2014 Unfortunately for me it's come to this. I'm 28 and a virgin. I've never even kissed a girl or been on a date. So I guess I was wondering how many of you ladies would date a guy like me? Somebody my age who you knew hadn't experienced these things? I know it's weird but would it prevent you from dating a guy like me? No, I'm too old for a 28 year old. But, if I was younger, I wouldn't actually know he was unless he told me. I might guess, I suppose, if I was very experienced, but what decent person would make an issue of that with a guy? I suppose I might be curious as to why you'd left it later than many (but not all by any means). I think saying you just hadn't met the right person would be sufficient, if the question came up. I'm sure there would be plenty of women who would be pleased you haven't been sleeping around casually for years. Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIvy Posted December 24, 2014 Share Posted December 24, 2014 Unfortunately for me it's come to this. I'm 28 and a virgin. I've never even kissed a girl or been on a date. So I guess I was wondering how many of you ladies would date a guy like me? Somebody my age who you knew hadn't experienced these things? I know it's weird but would it prevent you from dating a guy like me? If he's good looking, educated with similar goals, etc then yes. Not trying to be mean but I would assume if a man was a virgin at 28, then something must be wrong with him, which in itself is off putting. Because getting laid isn't hard for anyone to do, even for people who aren't that attractive. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AVarma Posted December 24, 2014 Author Share Posted December 24, 2014 If he's good looking, educated with similar goals, etc then yes. Not trying to be mean but I would assume if a man was a virgin at 28, then something must be wrong with him, which in itself is off putting. Because getting laid isn't hard for anyone to do, even for people who aren't that attractive. I think you're contradicting yourself. You say that it would be off-putting and you would think there is something wrong with him but you would still date him? Link to post Share on other sites
E-Squared Posted December 24, 2014 Share Posted December 24, 2014 If he's good looking, educated with similar goals, etc then yes. Not trying to be mean but I would assume if a man was a virgin at 28, then something must be wrong with him, which in itself is off putting. Because getting laid isn't hard for anyone to do, even for people who aren't that attractive. That just sounds weird, in my opinion. First off, you said that you would date him if he was good looking, educated, etc. But then you say that it would be off-putting? Sounds rather contradictory, not to mention hypocritical. Link to post Share on other sites
katlover Posted December 24, 2014 Share Posted December 24, 2014 My man.. What are you doing here asking dumb questions.. Go out and find out.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AVarma Posted December 28, 2014 Author Share Posted December 28, 2014 We ended up breaking up because of incompatibility - I found him to be very controlling and manipulative. It went in a downward spiral from there on, he harassed me about how I was his "one true love" and how I was his first so I meant so much to him. Apart of the controlling issue was clinginess, it's almost as if he wanted to be around me non-stop, I could barely go to work without getting 10 text messages - sometimes he would show up randomly at my office! I would never do it again knowing the results I got last time. I would be too afraid of the guy having unhealthy attachments. To be fair these seem to be psychological issues rather than anything to do with him being a virgin. A man who has had sex could behave this way as well. In fact many abusive men who have had sex with many women do behave in this way. Well but i wonder this, as you have not slept with any girls before, what would you expect sex to be like? As you would mostly be watching porn & those girls have nice bodies/good skills, would you have higher expectations of sex/partners? Most of the porn I watch is from recordings of real people having sex rather than mass produced porn. So I guess I would expect it would be like that. Link to post Share on other sites
greenman77 Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 Dude, just get out there and start talking to women. If not just try using online dating sites. I'm 22 and had never even gone out on a date with a girl less than 2 months ago. I just put myself out there with a "f**k it" attitude, so I started asking girls out and since then I've had many make-out sessions, gotten a few BJs and gave a girl oral. After doing all these things, sex is the least of my worries, I know it will come soon enough. Right now I just want to be as relaxed and comfortable as possible, gain experience, and get better at doing all these things before moving on to sex. Just ask girls out, don't tell them you're a virgin and see if things progress naturally. If they do, great! If not, well move on to the next. Just go for it man! Good luck! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AVarma Posted December 28, 2014 Author Share Posted December 28, 2014 Dude, just get out there and start talking to women. If not just try using online dating sites. I'm 22 and had never even gone out on a date with a girl less than 2 months ago. I just put myself out there with a "f**k it" attitude, so I started asking girls out and since then I've had many make-out sessions, gotten a few BJs and gave a girl oral. After doing all these things, sex is the least of my worries, I know it will come soon enough. Right now I just want to be as relaxed and comfortable as possible, gain experience, and get better at doing all these things before moving on to sex. Just ask girls out, don't tell them you're a virgin and see if things progress naturally. If they do, great! If not, well move on to the next. Just go for it man! Good luck! Makeouts, Bjs, and oral sex in two months? What exactly have you been doing? Link to post Share on other sites
greenman77 Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 Makeouts, Bjs, and oral sex in two months? What exactly have you been doing? What do you mean? I've been going out with the same girl for weeks now and we've been moving forward little by little. From first base, to second base to third base. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AVarma Posted December 28, 2014 Author Share Posted December 28, 2014 What do you mean? I've been going out with the same girl for weeks now and we've been moving forward little by little. From first base, to second base to third base. Oh I see. I thought you meant you were getting these things from multiple women. My mistake. Good for you though. You're finally going to have the experience! Link to post Share on other sites
greenman77 Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 Oh I see. I thought you meant you were getting these things from multiple women. My mistake. Good for you though. You're finally going to have the experience! All that from multiple women would be quite the accomplishment after less than two months! Haha! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
snowflakepua Posted January 1, 2015 Share Posted January 1, 2015 You need to not tell her your a virgin. No matter what the women here say, most women don't like virgins. By most I mean 90%+ If you are asked directly about your sexual history, feel free to lie. I would strongly encourage you to pay absolutely NO attention to what women say they want or don't want. Women get turned off and leave when they find out a guy is a virgin no matter what they say ahead of time. I speak not only from personal experience when I was one many years ago but also the experience of several other older male virgins / former older male virgins. So I am speaking from a point of authority on this subject. They just get massively turned off by this. It is just like a girl being grossly obese. Of course you wouldn't want to hurt her feelings and say that 90%+ of men are turned off by a grossly obese women. You want to be kind. But the overwhelming number of men ARE turned off by this. Yes there are a small number of men who are turned on by HUGE women, but they are in the minority. Same thing with being an older male virgin. Unfortunately for me it's come to this. I'm 28 and a virgin. I've never even kissed a girl or been on a date. So I guess I was wondering how many of you ladies would date a guy like me? Somebody my age who you knew hadn't experienced these things? I know it's weird but would it prevent you from dating a guy like me? Link to post Share on other sites
Eddy Street Posted January 1, 2015 Share Posted January 1, 2015 Probably very few, except maybe cougars... which personally make me want to barf. I'm right there with you, but probably worse of since I'm only 5'8'' and if the universe is what I think it is, you're at least 2 inches taller and have darker hair and eyes. Joking aside, I'm sure it has more to do with who you are as a person, how strong you are and how stable you are rather than how much experience you have. If you can provide the former, the latter will be as important as the infamous "size" deal. Link to post Share on other sites
snowflakepua Posted January 1, 2015 Share Posted January 1, 2015 No Eddy. If all factors are the same, a woman will be massively attracted to the guy who has slept with tons of women versus the one who has slept with none or only a few. Another thing that turns on women is men who are taken. A good way to pickup women is to give women the idea you are a player who is already in a relationship. If asked tell the girl you are in a relationship even if you are not. Probably very few, except maybe cougars... which personally make me want to barf. I'm right there with you, but probably worse of since I'm only 5'8'' and if the universe is what I think it is, you're at least 2 inches taller and have darker hair and eyes. Joking aside, I'm sure it has more to do with who you are as a person, how strong you are and how stable you are rather than how much experience you have. If you can provide the former, the latter will be as important as the infamous "size" deal. Link to post Share on other sites
Eddy Street Posted January 2, 2015 Share Posted January 2, 2015 No Eddy. If all factors are the same, a woman will be massively attracted to the guy who has slept with tons of women versus the one who has slept with none or only a few. Another thing that turns on women is men who are taken. A good way to pickup women is to give women the idea you are a player who is already in a relationship. If asked tell the girl you are in a relationship even if you are not. But then I see Robert Pattinson's female equivalent with some short, fat, video game nerd wearing an old stained t-shirt, sporting massive protruding teeth and thinning hair that hasn't been trimmed in at least a year and I'm reassured that even I have the chance, all I need to do is get my ducks in a row. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AVarma Posted January 2, 2015 Author Share Posted January 2, 2015 No Eddy. If all factors are the same, a woman will be massively attracted to the guy who has slept with tons of women versus the one who has slept with none or only a few. Another thing that turns on women is men who are taken. A good way to pickup women is to give women the idea you are a player who is already in a relationship. If asked tell the girl you are in a relationship even if you are not. Dude the question was addressed to ladies, let's let them answer it. Link to post Share on other sites
aggie382 Posted January 2, 2015 Share Posted January 2, 2015 I would, if I wasn't told beforehand. Link to post Share on other sites
E-Squared Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 I would, if I wasn't told beforehand. And if you were told, you would not date that guy? Link to post Share on other sites
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