What is the main reason girls reject guys?

[you_can_not_see_me]

I have personally always held the belief that the main reason a girl will reject a guy (if she's not already taken) is because she is not physically attracted to him.

 

But, some of my friends keep trying to convince me that in a lot of cases being awkward, shy and non assertive with a girl can make her reject you after a while, they say its true because a lot of girls have many options and they would rather go with another guy who wasn't awkward and didn't make her uncomfortable, even if they might have initially been physically attracted to the guy.

 

I can't really figure out who is right without actually reading women's mind, but getting some opinions, especially from women might shed some light.

[Purepony]

Its all about looks son.

Why do you think they go out with broke attractive guys?

 

Looks looks looks

[you_can_not_see_me]

Its all about looks son.

Why do you think they go out with broke attractive guys?

 

Looks looks looks

ok but him being broke or not has nothing to do with what I mentioned.

[you_can_not_see_me]

Also can everyone state whether they are a guy or a girl!!!

[KatZee]

I have to be attracted to a person I'm dating.

 

If a guy sits down and I have zero sexual attraction to him, there's no point. Doesn't matter how nice he is, it would be a friendship, not a romantic relationship.

 

Also, the guy doesn't have to be gorgeous, I just mean that I NEED to find him attractive.

 

Also, if I find a guy attractive and he turns out to be a totally d-bag? Dismissed.

 

I'll also pass on guys that I have absolutely nothing in common with. I just went on a date with this guy and he was a very nice guy, but literally everything I expressed interest in, he was like "oh I'd never do that." So what's the point? I want a guy that I can do things together with.

[Lernaean_Hydra]

I'm either not attracted to him physically or his personality turns me off. But let me make this clear, when I reject guys because I'm not attracted to them it doesn't mean they're ugly or even just "not attractive enough" aesthetically. NOR does it mean I'm holding out for someone better looking. It just means I PERSONALLY did not find them attractive.

One woman's hottie is another girl's nottie.

[you_can_not_see_me]

I have to be attracted to a person I'm dating.

 

If a guy sits down and I have zero sexual attraction to him, there's no point. Doesn't matter how nice he is, it would be a friendship, not a romantic relationship.

 

Also, the guy doesn't have to be gorgeous, I just mean that I NEED to find him attractive.

 

Also, if I find a guy attractive and he turns out to be a totally d-bag? Dismissed.

 

I'll also pass on guys that I have absolutely nothing in common with. I just went on a date with this guy and he was a very nice guy, but literally everything I expressed interest in, he was like "oh I'd never do that." So what's the point? I want a guy that I can do things together with.

You totally missed the point of this thread!!!

 

I am asking if you ever were in a situation where you found a guy physcially attractive but because he was persistently awkward around you, you lost interest.

 

This thread is simply asking whether being awkward can turn a girl off who was otherwise physically attracted to the guy. Personality and common interests are not the question here.

[Lernaean_Hydra]

You totally missed the point of this thread!!!

 

I'm sorry but your thread title is a bit misleading since in it you simply asked what can make a girl reject a guy.

 

But anyway, to answer the secondary question. YES. Awkwardness can be a very unattractive quality in a guy. While in a few it can actually be endearing, if you come across as a bumbling idiot or easily flustered around me my attraction to you diminishes real quick. It's lame. It makes you seem like a guy who'd potentially be a doormat.

[PogoStick]

Why does there have to be one answer? If you're sufficiently lacking in any area a girl may reject you.

[newmoon]

initial rejection would be looks. he just isn't my type. he doesn't have to be an exact match to my dream vision, but you have to be physically attracted.

[AnnieRose]

I've rejected guys I just didn't "feel it" with. I can't say it was one particular trait that did him in. Just an overall feeling that he wasn't a good fit for me!

[you_can_not_see_me]

I'm either not attracted to him physically or his personality turns me off. But let me make this clear, when I reject guys because I'm not attracted to them it doesn't mean they're ugly or even just "not attractive enough" aesthetically. NOR does it mean I'm holding out for someone better looking. It just means I PERSONALLY did not find them attractive.

One woman's hottie is another girl's nottie.

You also kinda missed the point. Did you ever reject a guy you were originally physically attracted to because he was consistantly awkward around you? the answer can be a simple yes or no.

 

You don't need to tell me the old "but other women might have other taste in men" since that's not what I m asking.

[KatZee]

You totally missed the point of this thread!!!

 

I am asking if you ever were in a situation where you found a guy physcially attractive but because he was persistently awkward around you, you lost interest.

 

This thread is simply asking whether being awkward can turn a girl off who was otherwise physically attracted to the guy. Personality and common interests are not the question here.

 

Your thread title is: What is the Main Reason Girls Reject Guys

 

I answered the thread title.

 

Perhaps you should have focused your question more directly to what you wanted answered.

 

[you_can_not_see_me]

Your thread title is: What is the Main Reason Girls Reject Guys

 

I answered the thread title.

 

Perhaps you should have focused your question more directly to what you wanted answered.

 

Ok you have a point about the thread title, but this is the real question I asking.

[me85]

Why does anyone reject someone period?? Because they're not attracted to them. Plain and simple. It's the same for girls and guys alike.

[Lernaean_Hydra]

You also kinda missed the point. Did you ever reject a guy you were originally physically attracted to because he was consistantly awkward around you? the answer can be a simple yes or no.

 

 

Well anyway, I answered the question in post #14

[you_can_not_see_me]

I m kinda feeling frustrated (I know its probably partly due to the topic title) that I want an honest answer to a specific question, but everyone is trying to answer it in a very generic way that almost feels like they purposefully want to leave it ambiguous.

 

 

I feel even more frustrated because I keep getting rejected by girls who I think are attracted to me but eventually when I come around to asking them out after a few months and admittedly being occasionally awkward around them. My friends keep telling me that its because I was awkward and waited too long and also because these girls have a lot other options, but I just have this gnawing feeling that all these girls only rejected me because they didn't find me physically attractive and it wouldn't have made a difference if I was the smoothiest guy on the planet. This is in spite the fact that I think I look decent, it just seems that reality or women don't agree with that.

[me85]

I m kinda feeling frustrated (I know its probably partly due to the topic title) that I want an honest answer to a specific question, but everyone is trying to answer it in a very generic way that almost feels like they purposefully want to leave it ambiguous.

 

 

I feel even more frustrated because I keep getting rejected by girls who I think are attracted to me but eventually when I come around to asking them out after a few months and admittedly being occasionally awkward around them. My friends keep telling me that its because I was awkward and waited too long and also because these girls have a lot other options, but I just have this gnawing feeling that all these girls only rejected me because they didn't find me physically attractive and it wouldn't have made a difference if I was the smoothiest guy on the planet. This is in spite the fact that I think I look decent, it just seems that reality or women don't agree with that.

 

Then ask them out in a more timely manner.

[you_can_not_see_me]

Then ask them out in a more timely manner.

I would if I could, but I have a really hard time working up the courage to ask a girl I like. My friends say this is why I get rejected, cause I act awkward, or don't engage girls consistently and assertively and wait a long time to ask them out.

 

If this were the case I could try to work on it, but I m not sure a girl would simply reject me because of the above reasons.

[Tayken]

@OP...because they are intimidated by that guy, that they can't keep up, that they won't bow to their conniving ways????

[you_can_not_see_me]

@OP...because they are intimidated by that guy, that they can't keep up, that they won't bow to their conniving ways????

I don't understand, can you explain more

[todreaminblue]

I reject guys when i see malice towards others,especially prostitutes, hateful behaviors towards others,non acceptance of my family even if it is dysfunctional , rude comments directed at females or males, aggression towards me, lack of respect to me and to others, a let someone else handle it attitude,throw people under the bus to save their own skin sort of attitude,i will reject a guy if he cannot stand up for himself, unstable behavior and most assuredly deceit early on, i let go......

i just want a guy who is true to himself who for the most part does the right thing...and who can be true to me ...for sure have a bit of fortitude in his character,that is really important to me..has nothing to do with looks....at all....i knew it was over with a guy i dated early this year by him being overwhelmed by my family who are loud and overbearing at times...but they accepted him immediately they could even tell he didnt accept them they were "too much for him".. i really do need to have a guy who can have some strength there..i can honestly say...when i reject guys....it has been for one or more of the above reasons...not looks driven at all...they becoem unattractive to me because of their character .......deb

[me85]

I would if I could, but I have a really hard time working up the courage to ask a girl I like. My friends say this is why I get rejected, cause I act awkward, or don't engage girls consistently and assertively and wait a long time to ask them out.

 

If this were the case I could try to work on it, but I m not sure a girl would simply reject me because of the above reasons.

 

You're friends are right. We as females don't want to have to wonder if a guy likes us or not. We don't want to be options. If a guy is acting weird around us after seemingly hitting it off previously then we're thinking, "WTH?" So once you feel those positive vibes ... act on them right away and see what happens.

 

Rejection is tough. I'm sorry you're feeling that way but it could all be turned around with a little more effort on your part if you're willing to improve in that area.

[newmoon]

I m kinda feeling frustrated (I know its probably partly due to the topic title) that I want an honest answer to a specific question, but everyone is trying to answer it in a very generic way that almost feels like they purposefully want to leave it ambiguous.

 

 

I feel even more frustrated because I keep getting rejected by girls who I think are attracted to me but eventually when I come around to asking them out after a few months and admittedly being occasionally awkward around them. My friends keep telling me that its because I was awkward and waited too long and also because these girls have a lot other options, but I just have this gnawing feeling that all these girls only rejected me because they didn't find me physically attractive and it wouldn't have made a difference if I was the smoothiest guy on the planet. This is in spite the fact that I think I look decent, it just seems that reality or women don't agree with that.

 

your friends are probably right. you're taking way too long to express interest if it's taking you a few months to make a move. that probably does come off as lack of confidence, so when you do - finally - make a move it's lack of confidence coupled with (perhaps) no attraction for why you're getting rejected. if you try right away and get rejected it's likely looks. if you're waiting so long it might be a few things at that point. act faster and with confidence and you'll know the reason for the rejections a bit better.

[smackie9]

Women are like snowflakes, not one is the same. Me confidence and a positive, easy going attitude sweeps me off my feet.