What is the main reason girls reject guys?

[Phoe]

I can count on one hand the number of rejections I've given, and these were the reasons:

 

Already seeing someone or just recently got out of a relationship

The guy was a pervy sleaze about asking. Eww.

[BlueIris]

I'm sorry but your thread title is a bit misleading since in it you simply asked what can make a girl reject a guy.

 

But anyway, to answer the secondary question. YES. Awkwardness can be a very unattractive quality in a guy. While in a few it can actually be endearing, if you come across as a bumbling idiot or easily flustered around me my attraction to you diminishes real quick. It's lame. It makes you seem like a guy who'd potentially be a doormat.

 

Completely agree. Sometimes it can also feel draining, like you have to walk on eggshells because they seem so sensitive and in their own heads.

 

And on your original question, "What is the main reason girls reject guys?" there are many reasons but for the most part, I reject men who are more difficult than enjoyable. I see no point to being in a relationship unless it/he is a positive addition to me, my life is better because he's in it. I think that's true for everyone, though.

 

 

but chemistry is just another word for physical attraction, Its the positive vibe you get when there is mutual attraction.

 

Not at all true. There are other ways that people have positive vibes or feel chemistry. There's an eastern european saying that men fall in love with their eyes and women fall in love with their ears. Conversation is absolutely essential to chemistry for me and many women I know. A dumb, boring, or jerky man, as determined by what he says and does, can be absolutely unattractive and you can feel zero chemistry with him.

Edited November 8, 2014 by BlueIris

[smackie9]

I have rejected because of a lot of reasons. One I recall is because he had emotional baggage....weakness/vulnerability is a turn off.

[smackie9]

Completely agree. Sometimes it can also feel draining, like you have to walk on eggshells because they seem so sensitive and in their own heads.

 

And on your original question, "What is the main reason girls reject guys?" there are many reasons but for the most part, I reject men who are more difficult than enjoyable. I see no point to being in a relationship unless it/he is a positive addition to me, my life is better because he's in it. I think that's true for everyone, though.

 

 

 

 

Not at all true. There are other ways that people have positive vibes or feel chemistry. There's an eastern european saying that men fall in love with their eyes and women fall in love with their ears. Conversation is absolutely essential to chemistry for me and many women I know. A dumb, boring, or jerky man, as determined by what he says and does, can be absolutely unattractive and you can feel zero chemistry with him.

 

 

insecurity

lacks confidence

attitude

[sagetalk]

I can't really figure out who is right without actually reading women's mind, but getting some opinions, especially from women might shed some light.

 

I'm a man and men are who you should be getting advice from in a situation like this.

 

Women reject men for all kinds of reasons. Once you get past the physical attraction barrier (and it's the first barrier), the next biggest reason would be getting more feelings for her than she has for you. Never fall for her before she falls for you, it is 100% guaranteed doom.

 

If you get past those two, you are well on your way.

[michellew]

I have personally always held the belief that the main reason a girl will reject a guy (if she's not already taken) is because she is not physically attracted to him.

 

But, some of my friends keep trying to convince me that in a lot of cases being awkward, shy and non assertive with a girl can make her reject you after a while, they say its true because a lot of girls have many options and they would rather go with another guy who wasn't awkward and didn't make her uncomfortable, even if they might have initially been physically attracted to the guy.

 

I can't really figure out who is right without actually reading women's mind, but getting some opinions, especially from women might shed some light.

 

Your friends are right...no matter how good looking a guy is, if he is socially awkward and non-assertive, most girls would not stick around. I am not speaking for all women though; there are some who prefer the shy type. Different strokes for different folks.

[Art_Critic]

It's all about attraction....

[OwMyEyeball]

For a lot of guys the main reason is whatever best preserves their ego.

[Kav]

Its all about looks son.

Why do you think they go out with broke attractive guys?

 

Looks looks looks

 

NO NO NO NO NO

any woman will tell you this

[smackie9]

Even the most attractive guy can be the most unattractive guy I have met the min he opens his mouth.

[Kav]

YEP

Seen many a hunk go down in flames and a regular guy scoop up the chick

[Kav]

I think some guys want to believe it's just looks so they don't have to take a hard look at their personality....

[Mister Zen]

The only reason women reject men is because they don't see value in them.

 

Women only seek out men who have something they want. If she doesn't believe you have something she wants.. she will reject you.

[PogoStick]

I think some guys want to believe it's just looks so they don't have to take a hard look at their personality....

 

ooo deep! Plus, one has less control over looks than personality and behavior. If they attribute it to something they can't change then they feel ok with not taking responsibility for change and success.

 

Many guys CHOOSE failure but admitting that would be painful to their ego.

[Tayken]

The only reason women reject men is because they don't see value in them.

 

Women only seek out men who have something they want. If she doesn't believe you have something she wants.. she will reject you.

 

Hallelujah......

 

1. a door stopper

2. puppet on a string

3. provider for them and their kids from elsewhere (that they are already getting CS for)

4. Supplementary pension / health coverage

5. sex (when convenient for them)

[stillafool]

but that's what my friends tell me, they say most attractive women do have are approached by other attractive men who are more assertive and so they say that if a guy is awkward the girl will cross him off after enough awkwardness.

 

I've seen women chase guys who never say a word to them. I think if he's attractive enough they don't care if he's assertive or awkward. They will be the aggressor.

[Mister Zen]

Hallelujah......

 

1. a door stopper

2. puppet on a string

3. provider for them and their kids from elsewhere (that they are already getting CS for)

4. Supplementary pension / health coverage

5. sex (when convenient for them)

 

All older women...over age 25-27 seek security and resources above all things. Provisioning.

 

This usually translates into at least a 2X salary ratio to a man...ie a woman making 50K only feels secure with a guy making around 100K.. anything less is viewed with contempt because women believe they are entitled to multipliers of what they themselves can provide for themselves from a man.

 

Once a woman hits her early 30's her biological clock is ticking like a jackhammer...she is looking for that guy with a 5 series BMW, a paid house, and the willingness to give these things to her hassle free because she 'deserves' it. She is NOT looking to pay for groceries or half the rent...she believes she is better than that.

 

I actually have a friend who's older sister is trying to marry this rich old guy 20 years older than her. She works at Target.

[Tayken]

I've seen women chase guys who never say a word to them. I think if he's attractive enough they don't care if he's assertive or awkward. They will be the aggressor.

 

 

Add to that...even if he physically / verbally abuses them.

[smackie9]

Add to that...even if he physically / verbally abuses them.

 

I have seen guys that stay with women that do the same thing, and come on here to whine about it.

 

I know guys who are only it if for sex

 

I know guys who stay in it because they have a roof over their head and dinner on the table.

 

I know guys who only date women with big tits.

 

If it's under the sun, it's all the same for everyone.

[Tayken]

All older women...over age 25-27 seek security and resources above all things. Provisioning.

 

This usually translates into at least a 2X salary ratio to a man...ie a woman making 50K only feels secure with a guy making around 100K.. anything less is viewed with contempt because women believe they are entitled to multipliers of what they themselves can provide for themselves from a man.

 

Once a woman hits her early 30's her biological clock is ticking like a jackhammer...she is looking for that guy with a 5 series BMW, a paid house, and the willingness to give these things to her hassle free because she 'deserves' it. She is NOT looking to pay for groceries or half the rent...she believes she is better than that.

 

I actually have a friend who's older sister is trying to marry this rich old guy 20 years older than her. She works at Target.

 

Bold 1: I once had a date over at my house (me in a 4 bedroom house), and as soon as she turned up you can see it in her eyes that she liked the setup. She gave "it up" and even left her panties behind. On her way out she made the point to tell me that..."it" is mine anytime I want to hit it

 

Bold 2: We aren't saying she is a gold digger

[smackie9]

Attractive people in general have everything given to them, they have better jobs, better opportunities, doors are open to them, better looking partners, more successful partners, etc. So what was your point again?

[Tayken]

Attractive people in general have everything given to them, they have better jobs, better opportunities, doors are open to them, better looking partners, more successful partners, etc. So what was your point again?

 

You mean like porn stars?

 

I know guys who only date women with big tits.

 

And I only like women with a small bubble bum. If a woman has a flat bum, am not interested. I have never been one for big tits..I honestly think they are useless and an eyesore to me.

[fortyninethousand322]

What is the main reason girls reject guys?

 

Um...because they aren't interested? What kind of question is this...

[Kav]

Right but WHY aren't they interested?

[smackie9]

I know a ton of guys that won't date a woman with red hair....my husband is one of them.