What is the main reason girls reject guys?

[ThaWholigan]

A combination of comfort and friction.

 

Is that like going up to a girl and giving her a deep kiss. And then slapping her?

 

Uhhhhhh.......you could say that

 

No, it's not quite that extreme, although some women go for that in bed (I know, I've done it).

 

Comfort and friction is something I'm definitely sure I've explained to you before, but to summarize:

 

The things we like about our partner, the pleasant things about them, the ones that are either the same as us, or completely complementary/supplementary to us, they are recognized as comfort. The friction comes from the things that drive us crazy, the things that perhaps aren't quite to complementary, but give you fire, the things you might have a slight difference on, either superficially or on a gut level. That's friction. That's where you get your "spark" with some women.

 

Now there are people who thrive more on the comfort. And people who thrive more on the friction. I have already recognized that I - like pretty much everyone - like variations of both, but I do require a nice little bit of friction. Keeps the blood warm, makes the bacon sizzle .

 

This ties into the whole chemistry thing aswell. If you have a difference of opinion with a girl, a different POV, different lifestyle or whatever - doesn't mean you can't have chemistry with one another. That friction might just bring you closer like magnets. "That f*cking girl drives me crazy but can't stop thinking about her".

 

You seem like a person of comfort, but I also guess that's by default in a way.

[browneyes88]

I'm either not attracted to him physically or his personality turns me off. But let me make this clear, when I reject guys because I'm not attracted to them it doesn't mean they're ugly or even just "not attractive enough" aesthetically. NOR does it mean I'm holding out for someone better looking. It just means I PERSONALLY did not find them attractive.

One woman's hottie is another girl's nottie.

 

I think this is true, but there have been a number of guy's I've been involved with that over time, I slowly became very attracted to, even if I initially wasn't. Not that he wasn't cute, or attractive, but just not anyone I thought much about...at first. Over time, I fell hard. This happened to me a couple times. Once it was mutual, once, it wasn't...

[somedude81]

Uhhhhhh.......you could say that

 

No, it's not quite that extreme, although some women go for that in bed (I know, I've done it).

 

Comfort and friction is something I'm definitely sure I've explained to you before, but to summarize:

 

The things we like about our partner, the pleasant things about them, the ones that are either the same as us, or completely complementary/supplementary to us, they are recognized as comfort. The friction comes from the things that drive us crazy, the things that perhaps aren't quite to complementary, but give you fire, the things you might have a slight difference on, either superficially or on a gut level. That's friction. That's where you get your "spark" with some women.

 

Now there are people who thrive more on the comfort. And people who thrive more on the friction. I have already recognized that I - like pretty much everyone - like variations of both, but I do require a nice little bit of friction. Keeps the blood warm, makes the bacon sizzle .

 

This ties into the whole chemistry thing aswell. If you have a difference of opinion with a girl, a different POV, different lifestyle or whatever - doesn't mean you can't have chemistry with one another. That friction might just bring you closer like magnets. "That f*cking girl drives me crazy but can't stop thinking about her".

 

You seem like a person of comfort, but I also guess that's by default in a way.

 

Trying to create friction seems counter productive, and game playing.

[ThaWholigan]

Trying to create friction seems counter productive, and game playing.

In the vast majority of cases, yes. The friction has to actually exist between you first. Its akin to creating drama to spice up the activity.