joca Posted November 9, 2014 Share Posted November 9, 2014 Hi everyone new to this forum anyway I met an Italian woman who is in my country on holidays maybe to start a new life I met her 6 months ago and have been doing everything together going to bars beach etc except having sex. She moved 3 hours drive away from where I live recently but has always invited me to visit her which I have done. I have fallen for her we share so many things in common and can talk to her nonstop about anything anyway the dreaded friends word appeared about 4 weeks after meeting her at the start usually I would just walk away but for some reason I didn't maybe its because she is from another country and a little exotic and in the back of my mind I am thinking one day I will sleep with her which hasn't happened. Last time I visited her a couple of weeks ago she told me she likes this older man(14 years older than me) after seeing pictures of this guy I cant see what she finds in him over me a lot older and not attractive , when she told me it never really surprised me or affected me 2 weeks later I am a depressed and cant stop thinking of her sleeping with this other man. It didn't help the last time I was with her we went nude swimming. I am trying to break all contact but it is hard resisting I will not initiate any messages or calls and am trying to hide any items that belong to her. The thing is I would like to keep her as a friend to find how she gets on in life but I don't want to relapse into this state again if I meet her. I did tell her I liked her but my biggest problem is I procrastinated for to long as I know she did like me at the beginning. What to do? Link to post Share on other sites
OwMyEyeball Posted November 9, 2014 Share Posted November 9, 2014 Italian woman From a land renowned for sexually aggressive men If you weren't coming onto her from day one it's likely she just assumed you weren't interested, had a partner or are gay Link to post Share on other sites
Author joca Posted November 9, 2014 Author Share Posted November 9, 2014 I think you are right eyeball I wasn't aggressive enough, her frolicking around nude in front of me I didn't consider much of a signal as she says that were she comes from being nude on the beach is common. although now ive got a picture in my head of her naked. I think what really hurt me is that this older man she is with now, she never found attractive or ever considered dating him but after getting to know him over a couple of months they are in love. Its like he was in the friendzone but managed to escape, they are in a situation where they see each other everyday for work its her boss. I think this situation has almost hurt me more than when I have actually broke up with a girlfriend that's how much I liked this woman. Link to post Share on other sites
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