Grevensteiner Posted November 9, 2014 Share Posted November 9, 2014 So, she's 19 years old, I'm 21. For two months already we've been meeting about 3-5 times a week, she calls me everyday, texts all the time. Just like in the relationship...well, but I feel like there's something wrong here, like I might get dumped some beautiful day. First of all - I didn't sleep with her. She was on a sleepover in my house, I was at hers two times, it's just that everytime my hand lands in her pants I get STOP, "access denied", ...Kissing, cuddling, boob/ass grabbing, basically everything except for penetration. She tells me she has sex only in relationships, and we're oficially not in one. Second of all, she's confident, very attractive...yet sometimes she behaves like she's really needy. Argues with me when I don't text her for 2 hours, when I wanna go to sleep after the day at work and wanna stop texting her, when I'm late calling her, etc. And third of all, sometimes, very rarely yet it happens...well, sometimes it seems hard to invite her for a sleep over, or a meeting, I feel like she agrees because she doesn't wanna make me sad, or something like that. I tried pushing her away a little, but it results in her arguing with me about ignoring her etc, or saying that I don't care. I feel like I'm a second option, like she keeps me there until she find another guy. Yet I know how much she invests in our relation, so there's that hope that it might just be that she's young and has a mess in her head. What should I think about it? Link to post Share on other sites
MargeryFlower Posted November 9, 2014 Share Posted November 9, 2014 Tell her she is either all in or move on. Sounds like she wants you but she doesn't Link to post Share on other sites
Author Grevensteiner Posted November 9, 2014 Author Share Posted November 9, 2014 I did, a month ago, and she was like "I am, don't you see that? But if you want just sex then we should end it. Don't pressure me." Link to post Share on other sites
MargeryFlower Posted November 9, 2014 Share Posted November 9, 2014 I did, a month ago, and she was like "I am, don't you see that? But if you want just sex then we should end it. Don't pressure me." So my understanding if she was then you guys would be in a reltionship but you aren't?! Honestly, she needs to be straight forward with you and decide if you are going to be in a relationship or not and i don't believe that has anything to do with pressure. It has been 2 months. If she can't give you a straight answer, stop wasting your time and investing in something that could be a relationship but isn't because she is keeping you in limbo. She might eventually turn around and say she doesn't want a relationship after you have invested in something that was never going to happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Grevensteiner Posted November 9, 2014 Author Share Posted November 9, 2014 So what should I do, talk to her about that? Won't this sound like "Let's **** or I'm out"? Link to post Share on other sites
Tabitha87 Posted November 10, 2014 Share Posted November 10, 2014 So, is there any particular reason that the two of you aren't "official"? Maybe it's her way of trying to have you make it official by asking her to be your girlfriend?! That's what it seems like to me anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Grevensteiner Posted November 10, 2014 Author Share Posted November 10, 2014 That's what I'm trying to figure out. I was asking her about that, a lot. And she says she doesn't want to YET. Sometimes she just doesn't even wanna kiss with me, I don't know, I have no idea what could be the reason for her to be in such relation. Link to post Share on other sites
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