Skeered Posted March 15, 2005 Share Posted March 15, 2005 Recently I became friends with someone going through a tough breakup. And since I'm going through my stuff to (even though I am having a much easier time dealing with the issues I'm facing, then he is) we kinda hit it off. This guy can make me laugh harder than most people I'm around, his genuine sense of humor is so comforting. But recently he has been fading into this darkness because of his recent break up with his GF. I try so hard to help him through this and I know that I'm an outsider looking in and my help can only do so much if anything at all. But I feel so upset that I can't just wipe away all his hurts. Recently he stopped communicating with me because he needs alone time and I totally understand that but yet a selffish side of me really wishes that he needed someone to talk to and that someone would be me. I kinda pushed things in the beginning in the fact that I do like him and I was hoping for something more but he made it quite clear that he wasn't ready, didn't want a relationship wasn't sure if he ever would that type of thing...well I can honestly say that that is fine..but now I lost my buddy..someone I could be just "me" around, no false hopes no pressure that type of thing..I miss his friendship in a bad way.. So how do I let it go and do I just let it go? Should I just walk away and hope that one day he wants to open up again and be my friend? The last thing I ever wanted to do was push this friendship (that could be potentially one of the most fun ones I've had) aside. I miss him but I don't want to upset him, nor do I want to loose his "friendship" forever.... What to do? What to do? Link to post Share on other sites
alicia24 Posted March 15, 2005 Share Posted March 15, 2005 Give him time and space. If you are still in his thoughts and he really likes you, then he will remember you and find any way he can to contact you. If its been a long time, drop him an email to just see how he is. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Skeered Posted March 21, 2005 Author Share Posted March 21, 2005 Thank you alicia... Seems weird that my 10 year marriage ends and I can get over that but havin no closure in this what I thought was a start of a fun friendship still hurts. Maybe because with my marriage I knew all my efforts were for nothing after a while but with this friendship I tried again in trying to make it a little easier for him and again got my hand stepped on... Guess it's back to the drawing board for me...this time I'm keeping my hands and heart out of the line of fire...it hurts to much.. Link to post Share on other sites
alicia24 Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 Sometimes keeping your heart out of things is the best thing to do. Link to post Share on other sites
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