Should I ask her out again? wait? or just forget it?

[James82]

I'm new to this site and have read a few posts so I thought I would see if anyone could help with my problem. Thanks in advance for any advice you can give. Sorry this is a little long to.

 

Ok well, here it goes

 

My cousin was dating/living with this girl I had never met her the entire time they were together. I finally met her a couple days after her and my cousin broke up he kicked her out, she was visiting my mom to talk and things she has remained friends with a few members of my family.

 

So anyways we met and became friends and everything now we usually talk on the phone every day or so, and hang out around 3 or 4 times a week. We usually hang out at my place or her place an just watch tv, listen to music, or just talk. One day when she was babysitting we took the little girl to a McDonald's playhouse and then to chuck e cheese (if you don't know what that is its a place for little kids to play lots of games and they have some rides like you would find outside of a store) anyways after all that we took her home and made some dinner then ate and went back to my house and talked for like 4 hours we spent around 13 hours together that day. She has told me a few times that she enjoys my company and likes spending time with me.

 

I really like her and I finally decided one day to tell her how I felt and she said that was sweet and she was flattered but that she would be uncomfortable being more than just friends after being with my cousin and everything. So I thought ok well now I know I can stop thinking about it and just be friends, everything was going fine again. Then a couple days later she was talking to my uncle (not my cousins dad but another person that she has remained friends with) anyways she tells him that she likes me but doesn't know how my family would react if something were to happen with us. I know that I wasn't supposed to hear any of this but he told my mom about the conversation and she then told me.

 

So the problem is now I don't know what to do, I don't want to find someone else I wasn't looking for anyone when I met her it just happened and now she's all I can think about. She told me she would be uncomfortable being more than just friends and then tells my uncle she likes me but doesn't know how my family would react...I don't understand what's going on. I guess what I'm trying to ask is should I ask her out again? Should I wait and see what happens? or just forget about it all together?

 

Some other info I don't know if it helps with any advice but she calls me asking me to go places with her like the store or something like that. When were talking she's always smiling at me or laughing and she likes to touch when she talks like my hand, or arm, or leg. I don't know if any of this matters though.

[Illusion24]

Maybe Destiny brought her to your cousins life so you 2 can meet??

 

But no matter how you look at it you have to realize that your cousin went out with her...The only person in your family you should care whether it bothers them or not is you cousin...Remember blood is thicker than water and he might not be comfortable with you dating a girl he was with before...As far as the girl I would feel uncomfortable being in a family and dating different people within the family...It's a hard situation for everyone but you can't put your feelings aside either...So talk to your cousin and see how he feels about it and then talk to her and let her know how you feel...Then take it from their

 

If worse comes to worse...you found a good friend...

[Quintana1985]

I would definately talk about the situation with my cousin. you may find that your cousin is totally ok with it. But, if he seems rather upset, just leave the whole situation alone.

[EIN]

It might be too early to get into a relationship with her when she just broke off with your cousin. You might be a transitional guy before the one she really wants to date. Guys and girls tend to jump for rebounds after a breakup just to feel that they were not on the receiving end of the relationship and to show to themselves they can find someone else when in fact they are fooling the other person. My advice is to remain her friend and keep doing the things you both are doing. Through time, your cousin will feel less bitter about it and then approach him about it in a light conversation. If she is interested in you, she can accept the fact that you guys progress slowly and surely through time (in consideration of your cousin) to transition from friends to more. Estimate time I advice (which I have done myself) is 2-3 months so she has a clear head to decide if you are the one she wants to take the next level with. Keep us updated.