Time for a break

[oberkeat]

So, I had a date with a girl last week. She seemed like a good person, but I just didn't feel attracted to her the more I got to know her. Maybe she was extremely shy, or maybe I didn't ask the right questions. But she didn't have much depth, in terms of long-term aspirations, hobbies, etc. She mostly wanted to talk about her job, and didn't seem to have much going on in her life outside that. I don't mean to bash her at all; I just didn't feel a spark and don't plan on a second date. Bottom line, this was the 5th date I had this year (some with girls I wasn't that into, some vice versa) and I feel it might be a good time to take a break. I can focus on classes and exercising and seeing movies for a while, and share what I've learned in dating on these boards. I'm not admitting defeat. Just that for whatever reason, I haven't met the right girl yet.

 

Thanks for listening.

[Redhead14]

So, I had a date with a girl last week. She seemed like a good person, but I just didn't feel attracted to her the more I got to know her. Maybe she was extremely shy, or maybe I didn't ask the right questions. But she didn't have much depth, in terms of long-term aspirations, hobbies, etc. She mostly wanted to talk about her job, and didn't seem to have much going on in her life outside that. I don't mean to bash her at all; I just didn't feel a spark and don't plan on a second date. Bottom line, this was the 5th date I had this year (some with girls I wasn't that into, some vice versa) and I feel it might be a good time to take a break. I can focus on classes and exercising and seeing movies for a while, and share what I've learned in dating on these boards. I'm not admitting defeat. Just that for whatever reason, I haven't met the right girl yet.

 

Thanks for listening.

 

This is perhaps the time you are most likely to meet someone. When you're not thinking about it and relaxed. As much as you may think you're relaxed and cool, etc. when on dates or approaching women, it comes through in other ways.

 

Enjoy your life. Things come to you in strange ways sometimes

[deathandtaxes]

Breaks are good and all, but if you're not actively looking, you won't find the right girl. Five dates in a year isn't ****, imo. I've been out with almost 40 women in the past two years. Some were one and done, some made it to two dates, and a few had the potential for some seriousness. One even lasted for three months. I do take breaks. But I get back on that horse. I have learned a lot about myself in the process.

 

 

Don't be demoralized, OP. Not every date has to be wham bang fantastic super spark chemistry!