LisaSmith_1970 Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 I just want to get a guys opinion on this. I've gone on first dates dressed in casual clothes. Jeans, causal top, make-up, straight hair. Nothing sexy. Plain Jane. However, sometimes I see my date checking other girls out-usually because they are wearing a skirt and are dressed more sexy. Should girls wear a short sloth and hot top on the first date to get a second date? Since it's just dinner, I don't go all fancy, unless we were hitting a club on a first date-I do vamp it up a bit, but clubbing and first dates don't usually happen. 1
Keenly Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Don't change who you are based on the actions of other people. 2
Author LisaSmith_1970 Posted November 12, 2014 Author Posted November 12, 2014 Don't change who you are based on the actions of other people. Yeah, but someone suggested I need to work on my appearance in order to get second date and it got me thinking....
Keenly Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Yeah, but someone suggested I need to work on my appearance in order to get second date and it got me thinking.... I don't think what you are wearing has that big of an effect on whether or not they want a second date.
fred123 Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 what if you dont like him? if you go to a club on a first date and he makes a move and you dont like him? is it reasonable for you to then chat to other guys in th3 club?
Emilia Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 You should dress in a way that makes you feel good about yourself and projects your personality. As a woman it's best to dress according to what suits you, not always a short skirt although showing off legs can be very sexy in a classy way. I always make an effort for the men I'm with though, I don't dress for a date the same way I'd dress for my friends. Sure as hell I want him to think he is damn lucky to sit there with me 3
Redhead14 Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 (edited) You should dress in a way that makes you feel good about yourself and projects your personality. As a woman it's best to dress according to what suits you, not always a short skirt although showing off legs can be very sexy in a classy way. I always make an effort for the men I'm with though, I don't dress for a date the same way I'd dress for my friends. Sure as hell I want him to think he is damn lucky to sit there with me You should dress for Him, but in a classy way that accentuates your best/favorite features. If you have nice legs, wear a skirt, it can be short, but then don't wear a blouse or shirt that shows off cleavage. If you want to wear jeans, wear a pair of nice maybe colorful low pumps or heels with a nice blouse or shirt that is off the shoulder or a little low cut and some accessories that match. The idea is to show off something, but not everything or just be colorful and interesting, well put together In addition, you should make an effort to look your best at all times. It doesn't take much time to put something together, even if it's casual, that makes you look and feel good. You never know who is looking and who may be or get interested in asking you out. It shows that you care about and are happy with yourself. Edited November 12, 2014 by Redhead14
Tayken Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Anything but jeans and hooker boots...a huge turn off for me. Again, why has jeans along with yoga pants become everyday attire for most women? I hate jeans with a passion.
d0nnivain Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Every man is going to have a different opinion. As a woman I always advocated the wear something that makes you feel confident / sexy. I once read that you should wear something touchable: a soft sweater, a silk blouse . . . something that makes a man want to initiate contact (in a respectful way). We're not talking FMPs here. 3
Assasda Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 I just want to get a guys opinion on this. I've gone on first dates dressed in casual clothes. Jeans, causal top, make-up, straight hair. Nothing sexy. Plain Jane. However, sometimes I see my date checking other girls out-usually because they are wearing a skirt and are dressed more sexy. Should girls wear a short sloth and hot top on the first date to get a second date? Since it's just dinner, I don't go all fancy, unless we were hitting a club on a first date-I do vamp it up a bit, but clubbing and first dates don't usually happen. If dressing sexy is what you have to offer to get a 2nd date. There is a particular kinda guy that will be interested in you. You should dress in what makes you comfortable, especially on a first date. Just be clean, and that should do it. BTW comfortable is relative - So if your comfortable being in short shorts, do so. If youre comfortable in a dress, do so as well. - Being comfortable, just keeps girls in their naturally element
insert_name Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 For me, dressing in order to make a good impression is part of a first date ritual. If I cant be bothered to dress smartly for it to make myself look presentable then I dont consider myself to be that interested. The best first date I ever had I could see the girl had gone to some effort, as a guy it was nice to see that she was trying to accentuate her figure without being too revealing. It really felt like being on a date and she was making sure that if it went well I was damn well going to be attracted to her enough to warrant a second date- thats how it should be imo. Contrast that with a girl who turned up in leggings and a baggy jumper looking like she had been lying round the house in it all day. I did pause to wonder whether she would turn up to a date with David Beckham dressed like that. Didnt make a very good impression really, as harsh as that sounds. Just my opinion of course. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 I honestly do not care. You're on a date with me, that's way more than I can expect or hope for.
Ruby Slippers Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 I almost always wear a cute dress or top + skirt on a first date. Men love it. 1
BluEyeL Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 I heard on the radio that you should wear a red top at the first date. And never a brown top. I used to have a "date" uniform. Skirt and a fitted V neck top, not too plunging, not too tight, but not baggy either. Sometimes I wore a wrap dress, knee length.
Looking Outside In Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 I just want to get a guys opinion on this. I've gone on first dates dressed in casual clothes. Jeans, causal top, make-up, straight hair. Nothing sexy. Plain Jane. However, sometimes I see my date checking other girls out-usually because they are wearing a skirt and are dressed more sexy. Should girls wear a short sloth and hot top on the first date to get a second date? Since it's just dinner, I don't go all fancy, unless we were hitting a club on a first date-I do vamp it up a bit, but clubbing and first dates don't usually happen. Quite honestly, I could care less so long as she looks feminine. I never understood this emphasis on what to where when, etc. It makes absolutely no logical sense to me at all.
somedude81 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Fitted jeans and a top that shoes some cleavage. 1
Gloria25 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Ok, I since other females responded here, I guess the green light is on for females to respond here? Ok, I think jeans, a top, and make-up is cool. But, it depends on "what" jeans, top, shoes, etc you wear. For example, to a club, I wouldn't wear a pair of jeans I'd wear to work. The jeans would be very form fitting, and the top would be shimmery, probably showing some cleavage, arms, back, and even belly ring. I'd also wear some sexy boots, or heels with the jeans - while to work I'd wear flats or Sketchers. See the difference? Going out with a guy, I'd probably lean towards the more "feminine" sexy/jeans combo than something I'd wear to work. Make-up wise? To work, I just wear a little foundation and maybe some blush - little or no lipstick. For a date, I'd have eye shadow, maybe eyeliner, mascara, and lipstick. Again, see the difference between work and play? Then, for the hair....at work, a ponytail in more of a bun. Out with a guy, if I do a ponytail, I'd probably poof the end of it and wear it loose, complement it with some really sexy earrings...while at work I'd just wear basic ball earrings. All and all, if I'm going out on a date or just "out" with my guy. I wanna look cute. I wanna "doll up". Oh, and for the underwear beneath? At work, granny panties and bra I wore like ten times...Out on date? Lace bra, thongs and/or low rise underwear.
Els Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 However, sometimes I see my date checking other girls out-usually because they are wearing a skirt and are dressed more sexy My thoughts on this is that if he's blatantly ogling other women while out on a date with you, you really don't want to be in a relationship with this particular guy, regardless of what you are or aren't wearing on your first date. I'd consider it a bullet dodged. That being said, I have a relatively newfound love for dresses. Not super-skimpy-and-tight club dresses, just normal ones. You can certainly wear them to dinner, and they're actually as comfy as jeans. Sure you can't necessarily go hiking in them, but it's unlikely that would be on the agenda after dinner...
normal person Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 It really depends on where you live and where you're going out, doesn't it? Here in Manhattan the girls always look well put together the first night out, and subsequent ones. I like it, it's sort of nice thinking that she put in the effort to impress you. Occasionally if I go out with someone younger (23 ish), they sometimes go a little overboard and wear a sexy dress or something. I actually don't like that, it makes it feel like she's trying too hard or that the interaction is way more important than it is. I imagine it's less of a big deal out in suburbia, but girls do like to dress up, don't they?
somedude81 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Ok, I since other females responded here, I guess the green light is on for females to respond here? Ok, I think jeans, a top, and make-up is cool. But, it depends on "what" jeans, top, shoes, etc you wear. For example, to a club, I wouldn't wear a pair of jeans I'd wear to work. The jeans would be very form fitting, and the top would be shimmery, probably showing some cleavage, arms, back, and even belly ring. I'd also wear some sexy boots, or heels with the jeans - while to work I'd wear flats or Sketchers. See the difference? Going out with a guy, I'd probably lean towards the more "feminine" sexy/jeans combo than something I'd wear to work. Make-up wise? To work, I just wear a little foundation and maybe some blush - little or no lipstick. For a date, I'd have eye shadow, maybe eyeliner, mascara, and lipstick. Again, see the difference between work and play? Then, for the hair....at work, a ponytail in more of a bun. Out with a guy, if I do a ponytail, I'd probably poof the end of it and wear it loose, complement it with some really sexy earrings...while at work I'd just wear basic ball earrings. All and all, if I'm going out on a date or just "out" with my guy. I wanna look cute. I wanna "doll up". Oh, and for the underwear beneath? At work, granny panties and bra I wore like ten times...Out on date? Lace bra, thongs and/or low rise underwear. IMO, showing off the navel/midriff is a bit too much. Everything else is cool.
Leigh 87 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 (edited) I have a good fashion sense. I wear: a nice white blouse (designer, stylish not a boring work blouse), black skinny designer jeans, black boots (stylish but comfortable), and a vintage lace cardigan I got overseas over my white blouse. I then add colour with a nice statement bag and a pretty necklace. I show off my figure without exposing boob or leg. Admittedly, I have a sort of knock out figure (slim but very curvy), and therefore my tight jeans show case my legs and curves, and the tops I wear also show the outline of my chest very nicely yet without exposing too much boob. Another nice outfit is to wear a pretty dress that covers your cleavage but still shows your curves off. It could be pretty lace, a graphic print, a plain black bag (that you liven up with cool accessories and/or a bag or shoes). But yeah, my go to date outfits are: a nice dress or nice jeans and tee shirts/or blouses. As adults, I do think it is important to have a few quality pieces - I worked and saved up for some designer, well made clothes that I wear mostly on dates. Edited November 13, 2014 by Leigh 87
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