any insight guys

[onelove26]

Hey guys I need your help.I was dating a girl for 3 years we were really happy until last Jan we broke up.I was devastated.as usual I would try everything running back to her again and again. Nothing worked.so I decided to let it go and focus on myself up until this sept we both atend the same school.my ex was more close with my brother who was my identical twin and she would hang out with him alot and ask how I was doing.she asked if I found someone else and he would tell her no.weeks kinda passed and I would brush her off not knowing what to expect.one day when I was studying she came and tapped me on the shoulder and asked if she could study with me.I said yea sure this happend several times up until last week when she came and sat by me again and she was telling me she wasn't happy and all I didn't know what she was trying to do.then while I was looking she flipped one of her note books and rose pedals fell out.these were rose pedals that I gave her months ago.I knew she planted it there but why.I still continued being civil.we would take the bus together but not talk that much.this week I found out through a mutual friend that she was very I'll. And I was worried so I texted her she responded about 9 hours later asking if I msgd I said yea heard you were sick did you go to the doctors. I told her to eat well and take care of herself. She kept saying thank you i will thank you for checking up why be so formal.I know there's still a bit of spark left but what is she trying to do.I can use all the guidance I can get.just feels like there's a bit of games.so I just want it to get better and us to work on the relationship.I'm just confused as in what is going on I still love her and I'm hoping she does to.what can i do at this point.thanks for reading my post guys

[d0nnivain]

She may be trying to reconcile but I would not make assumptions & I'd let her lead. Until she says she wants you back assume she does not & act accordingly.

 

Since she is friends with your brother (which I think is a slap in your face by him) I'd ask him if she said anything. N.B. if he wasn't your brother I would never tell you to involve a third party.

[xUnknown]

I think she wants to reconcile. She's finding ways to get back into your life (studying). And that rose pedal move, yeah, that was definitely on purpose. She wanted to show you that she still had something you gave her, wanted you to see that she was still hanging on.

 

She's afraid of you rejecting her if she flat out comes to you, so, she's trying to get you to bring it up to her. She's trying to feel out if you're interested.

 

If you are, ask her to study once more time. Then, next time, ask her to get a cup of coffee or something. I say go study one more time to let any emotions that are flaring up on your end, some time to cool off.

[me85]

This is what I never could understand...even with myself. Why do we hesitate so? Why are we so prideful and afraid of being rejected? Why do we hold things in when we want to shout it from the rooftops? Someone has to be the adult and bring up the conversation about what you two want from each other. Why not you? Regardless of who BU with who. If you and her are in contact then it must mean you are both still interested in giving it another chance. OR at least being friends and remaining a part of each others lives.

 

Why should anyone have to wait for someone to get off their @$$?? Go with what you feel. Otherwise, you're only torturing yourself. Talk to her. Ask her if she still loves you. Ask whatever questions you need answers for. If the outcome isn't what you wanted, or something you feel would only hurt you and that you just couldn't do, then end all communication between you and her.