Age Gaps.....How far would you go

[StanMusial]

PS: In terms of pop references, while i get the ones from my age group, i'm not a big fan of pop culture.

I don't watch TV's, i'm not a fan of advertising, i like to read science fiction, i'm completely divorced from social media, and i love old movies and music.

Kinda hard to find a woman who actually likes metal/industrial rock.

 

Yeah, I was never concerned with pop culture while I was dating... I like a lot of older music from bands that had their heyday before I was born (and I'm pushing 40). I don't watch much TV or movies either... so far as I can tell pop culture these days seems to be a lot of "reality" people that I have no interest to know anything about. There is enough drama in the real world without having to witness it play out in some contrived storyline on some random TV show.

 

The biggest concern to me when dating someone older was that the girl was just further along in life... kid(s), ex-husband(s), etc. She probably lives a lifestyle that wouldn't gel with mine.

 

The biggest concern for dating someone younger was that the girl wasn't serious about finding someone, maybe she was more into partying or just directionless or was generally "all over the place" in terms of attitude or outlook. Also, probably a lifestyle that would be incompatible.

[Cheshire]

Yeah, I was never concerned with pop culture while I was dating... I like a lot of older music from bands that had their heyday before I was born (and I'm pushing 40). I don't watch much TV or movies either... so far as I can tell pop culture these days seems to be a lot of "reality" people that I have no interest to know anything about. There is enough drama in the real world without having to witness it play out in some contrived storyline on some random TV show.

 

I think social media and the internet has made these things more important than they ought to be. It's much easier for a 35 year-old who loves sitting down with the box-set of Breaking Bad to find other people who do the same, then they can sit down and vegetate in front of the box together. Dating sites seem to imply music and tv taste is a major factor now for many. Maybe that's sad, because it keeps people in their comfort zones, and opposites aren't attracting anymore.

 

But I realise I'm guilty of that myself. I mentally switch off if I'm in some social situation where a load of 30-year olds are rabbiting about the latest tv show as if it's the major thing in their lives. They say things like 'oh, it's so dark' and I think 'kill me now'.

 

When I was younger, I think we tended to see tv shows like Hart to Hart and TJHooker much for what they were - an enjoyable way to pass the time, a good laugh and something to look forward to next week, but not as basis for dating someone. Maybe that's because TV wasn't as pretentious then as it is today.