Age Gaps.....How far would you go

[writergal]

How did you know I had a feisty neko side to me? *Epiphanic gasp* Oh dear lord I need to date an older woman.

 

Because I am wise beyond my years young obi-jonsnuh. The force is strong with me.

[writergal]

lol Eminem? Even though he's technically not young anymore.

 

And yeah it's hilarious that he tried to change his image like that. But some of the songs like "The Wrath" & "Roll Em Up" are actually pretty good.

 

Sad how all the 80s male stars resorted to weird hair as they got older. I mean, poor Limahl and his two-toned wigs. Too Shy FOREVER!!!! Kaja poo poo for dumping him (the idiots!) If Limahl wasn't gay I'd date him.

[NJ123]

Sad how all the 80s male stars resorted to weird hair as they got older. I mean, poor Limahl and his two-toned wigs. Too Shy FOREVER!!!! Kaja poo poo for dumping him (the idiots!) If Limahl wasn't gay I'd date him.

 

Well, hey there's always Billy Idol. He still has the same exact hair style.....Why not look him up? I'm sure he'd be willing to date you.

[writergal]

Well, hey there's always Billy Idol. He still has the same exact hair style.....Why not look him up? I'm sure he'd be willing to date you.

 

Yes! Then I could really have a White Wedding!

[Cheshire]

For thirteen years I was seeing someone who was ten years older than me. The age gap presented no problems at all, the only challenges came from the fact that a) we worked together and b) she was married.

 

Going the other way, I'm on a college course at the moment where the majority of people are in their early 20s, and that's convinced me that I certainly wouldn't want to date anyone under 30 (I'm 45 btw).

 

Even 30s is a bit iffy, not least from the pop culture standpoint ha ha... I mean, those in their 30s had their teenage years in the 90s and probably like Blur/Oasis, Spice Girls, Buffy etc... I hated 90s pop culture and music, so we wouldn't have much in common on that point of view! I'm more attuned to this....

 

I want to date someone who I won't have to explain my pop culture references to, i.e. MTV VJ Martha Quinn, Who's The Boss, Donkey Kong Atari, Solid Gold, Where's the Beef?, Dallas (Who Shot J.R.?), Dukes of Hazzard, Gremlins, Jelly Shoes, Madonna (ok that's a give away), Izod alligator, Stacey Q, Wham!, St. Elsewhere, Weekend At Bernies, Weird Science, Pac Man, The Breakfast Club, Zuba pants, MC Hammer, Vanilla Ice, USA for Africa, Different Strokes, The Facts of Life, Alf, Frank Zappa, Roller skates, Phone Booths, Flash Dance, Bruce Springstein, Merlin, Trivial Pursuit...the list goes on.

 

LOL. Add Vega$, Hart to Hart, Depeche Mode, The Professionals (UK only). But come on, Wham!? Duran Duran and A Flock of Seagulls were way better for a start! I have the instrumental hook of FoS 'Wishing' as the ringtone on my mobile phone. If someone smiles when they hear it, that's a start lol.

[Xiang]

Just for sex, as long as you are not under 20 i'm okay with that and it will probably stay that way till i am 100.

For a partner. 4 years max +/- difference from my age.

Maybe with time it will change.

[Tayken]

Sad how all the 80s male stars resorted to weird hair as they got older. I mean, poor Limahl and his two-toned wigs. Too Shy FOREVER!!!! Kaja poo poo for dumping him (the idiots!) If Limahl wasn't gay I'd date him.

 

 

Thanks for hijacking my thread to show your love for the 80s

[Got it]

Unfortunately my father falls into this category. He is in his 60s and has dated as young as 20. His girlfriends end up being a bit older, the one he has been dating for a while is a few years older than I am which is pleasant when they aren't younger than you.

 

But, yes, the arrangement for most has little to do with "love" and more of an exchange arrangement.

[skydiveaddict]

63 yr old man and 21 yr old girl. They call each other sugar daddy and sugar babies.

 

Well maybe they deserve each other.

 

But for a real gentleman (like myself), according to Emily Post (Miss Manners), the acceptable lowest age range for a man to date a woman is half his age plus seven.

Edited November 14, 2014 by skydiveaddict

[central]

I had a FWB for two years who was 27 years younger. It was a very equal relationship - for example, she took me out to dinner as much as I took her out. It was all about the friendship - and the sex, of course.

[Lady2163]

If you want to view paradise all you got to do is do it. The Greatest America Hero was a Katt and Mork (RIP) Totally, like gnarly ruled the world.

 

So, I'm a few years older than most people who answered.

 

I'm at that awkward age where men younger than I am still want kids or have kids that live at home. So, I really can't go much younger. I don't want someone a lot older and most of the men I am interested in are still trying to score the 30 something....just for fun, not to marry or commit to. I want to whisper to these women, "don't give him these years of your life. He will just leave you."

[RedRobin]

I am at the awkward age where most men in my age group are perma bachelors or scared and paranoid about relationships after a divorce and seem to believe every woman is out to get his $$ or lock him into another marriage. They are spending many years post divorce reliving their adolescence... Without the perks of having the young man's body or looks, I might add.

 

That said, I would take a 20 something man who had his stuff together and had a few relationships under his belt. Because I would rather have an immature man with the younger package than lots of these older guys who never grew up and really have little to offer me. They look to the woman to provide all of the emotional support, but really, have very little emotional resources of their own to share. A big lose lose for any woman not looking for a cash cow or someone to help her climb some career ladder.

 

Won't go older (more than five years). Already lost a fiancée at a young age.

[hotpotato]

Im 27. Im open to men ages 20-45.

[gaius]

I am at the awkward age where most men in my age group are perma bachelors or scared and paranoid about relationships after a divorce and seem to believe every woman is out to get his $$ or lock him into another marriage. They are spending many years post divorce reliving their adolescence... Without the perks of having the young man's body or looks, I might add.

 

That said, I would take a 20 something man who had his stuff together and had a few relationships under his belt. Because I would rather have an immature man with the younger package than lots of these older guys who never grew up and really have little to offer me. They look to the woman to provide all of the emotional support, but really, have very little emotional resources of their own to share. A big lose lose for any woman not looking for a cash cow or someone to help her climb some career ladder.

 

Won't go older (more than five years). Already lost a fiancée at a young age.

Did you break up with that younger guy Red?

 

I don't have a top age limit but I'd be very uncomfortable dating anyone under 18. =/ I already feel pervy just engaging any girl under 21 in conversation. Don't think I'd go under 25 at this point.

[thefooloftheyear]

There was a woman next to me on the elevator over last summer. Sassy old brawd commented favorably on the size of my arms and my tattoos...

 

She looked about 70-75 years old.....eh....

 

 

TFY

[Shining One]

I'm willing to go 8 years younger and 12 years older. I'm 33. It's hard dating younger women after dating older women.

[Lady2163]

I'm willing to go 8 years younger and 12 years older. I'm 33. It's hard dating younger women after dating older women.

 

I think I heart you.....

[carhill]

Age Gaps.....How far would you go

 

At my age, no younger than 40. On the high side, doesn't really matter. I've met some pretty vivacious widows and would have no issues dating upwards into the 60's-70's if there was synergy, as I don't see relationships as a 'you and me forever and ever' type thing anymore. If we had a few good years, or even months, OK. That'll be the criteria if I ever choose to date again.

[RedRobin]

Did you break up with that younger guy Red?

 

I don't have a top age limit but I'd be very uncomfortable dating anyone under 18. =/ I already feel pervy just engaging any girl under 21 in conversation. Don't think I'd go under 25 at this point.

 

I did, but we are still talking. I'm not ready to date again yet. I will also not let this segue into a FWB.

 

It was tough, but I just couldn't get over the dishonesty and secrecy.

 

It is a shame... The coping mechanisms some people employ while single really do make it a lot harder for them to bond with someone again when they get out of their hot mess period.

[fortyninethousand322]

I'm 26. I'd date as young as 18, as old as 40. Prefer to keep it between 21 and 30 though.

[still_an_Angel]

I've gone 15 years younger and older. I prefer going with an older guy, more comfortable all around. I was always conscious of the younger guy's age even though he was super cool about it.

[Cheshire]

Thanks for hijacking my thread to show your love for the 80s

 

To be fair, though, this pop culture thing is more important than you'd think, at least in establishing initial rapport.

 

A few weeks ago, I went on one of those dating sites out of curiosity. Being 45, I set my age range between 35 and 55, and I guess it's natural selection that you end up clicking on the pics of those you find most physically attractive. So I was clicking on 35 year olds, but put off when reading their 'profiles'. They listed amongst their interests music by bands I'd either never heard of, or actively didn't like. Also films and tv that I would have no interest in seeing.

 

Music, films and tv these days are often made with particular age groups in mind, witness the proliferation of 'niche' radio stations... a listener to 'KAHM' beautiful music is unlikely to also want to tune into a rap station and vice versa. This seems to be encouraging a greater separation between age groups... thirty years ago, the 'Generation Gap' seemed simpler, people who bought into the liberalisation of the sixties and those who didn't. It enabled pop groups like the Who and the Rolling Stones to remain popular for 20 years even amongst generations coming behind their original fans. I certainly liked both those groups when I was a teenager, even though their early hits had been before I was born.

 

But there seem to be so many 'generation gaps' these days, even within those age groupings that advertisers love for their demographic surveys: 25-34, 35-44 etc. I, for instance, find I have little in common with the 'Millennial' generation who seem obsessed with their DVD box sets and their music festivals.

 

I was born in 1969, they in around 1982 and later - a couple of decades ago, that wouldn't have been regarded as such a major gap. So maybe that's part of what makes age gap relationships more difficult to start now.

Edited November 15, 2014 by Cheshire

[Tayken]

I think I heart you.....

 

Wow.....his he supposed to go ga-ga over that half supposedly compliment? If you are not going to fire the weapon, don't load it. Talk about head games

[Radu]

I'm 32, i won't do older and will definitely need to do significantly younger.

 

One of the main reasons is that i don't have my **** together yet, which i find something that morally stops me from dating.

So on a corespondence scale, i'm closer to a 21-22 yr old girl who wants a family and is serious about it, than with any girls/women that are older than that.

 

PS: In terms of pop references, while i get the ones from my age group, i'm not a big fan of pop culture.

I don't watch TV's, i'm not a fan of advertising, i like to read science fiction, i'm completely divorced from social media, and i love old movies and music.

Kinda hard to find a woman who actually likes metal/industrial rock.

Edited November 15, 2014 by Radu

[Tayken]

To be fair, though, this pop culture thing is more important than you'd think, at least in establishing initial rapport.

 

A few weeks ago, I went on one of those dating sites out of curiosity. Being 45, I set my age range between 35 and 55, and I guess it's natural selection that you end up clicking on the pics of those you find most physically attractive. So I was clicking on 35 year olds, but put off when reading their 'profiles'. They listed amongst their interests music by bands I'd either never heard of, or actively didn't like. Also films and tv that I would have no interest in seeing.

 

Music, films and tv these days are often made with particular age groups in mind, witness the proliferation of 'niche' radio stations... a listener to 'KAHM' beautiful music is unlikely to also want to tune into a rap station and vice versa. This seems to be encouraging a greater separation between age groups... thirty years ago, the 'Generation Gap' seemed simpler, people who bought into the liberalisation of the sixties and those who didn't. It enabled pop groups like the Who and the Rolling Stones to remain popular for 20 years even amongst generations coming behind their original fans. I certainly liked both those groups when I was a teenager, even though their early hits had been before I was born.

 

But there seem to be so many 'generation gaps' these days, even within those age groupings that advertisers love for their demographic surveys: 25-34, 35-44 etc. I, for instance, find I have little in common with the 'Millennial' generation who seem obsessed with their DVD box sets and their music festivals.

 

I was born in 1969, they in around 1982 and later - a couple of decades ago, that wouldn't have been regarded as such a major gap. So maybe that's part of what makes age gap relationships more difficult to start now.

 

 

Cheshire cat...I hear your point, but please trust me when I tell you that there are women in our age group, who due to having become friends with their daughters, listen to a lot of these pap also and think they are "cool" because of it

 

I read a profile last month, and this 40 something woman wrote in her profile..." message me if you are about the bass". I nearly fried my keyboard with the tea I was drinking. She mentioned she has 2 daughters, and it's no surprise how she arrived at writing that.

 

There is nothing more annoying than listening to a grow woman talking as if they are a teenager...i.e. "it's like, awesome, did you really, like serious"

 

Turns me right off