DayzedNConfused Posted November 14, 2014 Share Posted November 14, 2014 When my husband and I first started dating, he was very open about his feelings. We would talk for hours about our feelings. I know this is what happens in new relationships, and that over time you get comfortable with your spouse and you stop talking about your feelings. I have really been trying to bring this back into my marriage. I know that after focusing on our kids for so long we both lost sight of each other. But now that they are grown, I want to get us back. I have another thread started about being hurt by a couple of things my husband did. I had turned my phone off on Tuesday afternoon, and left it off until Thursday evening. I was just so hurt and frustrated that I didn't want to talk to him, or anyone else for that matter. He got worried and sent our daughter to check on me. (he has been out of town all week for work) Early this morning, I sent him a good morning text. He didn't respond. So an hour later I sent him this text: "I'm sorry. For turning my phone off and making you worry. For not telling you every day how much you mean to me. I love you. I respect you. I cherish you. I want you. I'm counting the minutes until you walk through the door and I can wrap my arms around you." His response ............................ "We're good. Love you." I understand that he is very busy at his job right now, and he has a lot going on, and not a lot of free time for texting. But that response was - well, it wasn't what I had hoped for. Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedH Posted November 14, 2014 Share Posted November 14, 2014 He needs to hear what you just told us. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 14, 2014 Share Posted November 14, 2014 Texting is the worst way in the word to communicate. To expect a busy man away on business to send you a novel is unrealistic. He communicated his commitment to you & the marriage in few words but that doesn't mean they weren't sincere. My husband has been away for a month & communication hasn't been voluminous. That doesn't mean it's unimportant just short. When your loved one is out of town turning off your phone for 2 days is dangerous & a bit childish. What if something had happened & he couldn't reach you? When he comes home go on a romantic date. That is a much better way to reconnect. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted November 14, 2014 Share Posted November 14, 2014 "I'm sorry. For turning my phone off and making you worry. For not telling you every day how much you mean to me. I love you. I respect you. I cherish you. I want you. I'm counting the minutes until you walk through the door and I can wrap my arms around you." His response ............................ "We're good. Love you. I am not sure what you expected, but your declaration of undying love at 9am may be a bit over the top, especially if he was already angry at your stonewalling him in the days before. His response was thus curt and slightly dismissive IMO. Basically to him, you caused a drama about him going hunting with your son's ex-gf, you sulked, then you profess love and devotion, and he is supposed to go all gooey. If you as a couple, are not now used to discussing "feelings", then too much sugar can to some, be a bit embarrassing, and a bit of embarrassment is what I get from his text to you, sorry. "We're fine, woman, cut the cr*p." As regards the hunting trip, I am not sure if he just so pleased anyone and I mean anyone, wants to go hunting with him, or if he is just some frustrated "teacher" who loves the thought of a willing "pupil", or if he feels he has some sort of father/daughter relationship going on with your son's ex, or he is contemplating or is actually having an affair with her. That is for you to decide and find out really. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Davey L Posted November 14, 2014 Share Posted November 14, 2014 Sometimes after an argument my wife won't speak to me for several days. This is upsetting especially if I'm leaving for a business trip. then suddenly she'll be all nicey-nice and expect me to be the same. The trouble is it comes across as though she's forgiven me so we can move on again, and ignores the fact that I'm angry about being given the silent treatment. It would mean more to receive an apology first, and only an apology, to which I might respond by explaining my anger and also apologising myself. Then she can do the declarations of love. Instead I end up feeling like it's an attempt to put blame on me and rug sweep my anger. I suspect that this might be the issue here with your husband. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted November 14, 2014 Share Posted November 14, 2014 Early this morning, I sent him a good morning text. He didn't respond. So an hour later I sent him this text: "I'm sorry. For turning my phone off and making you worry. For not telling you every day how much you mean to me. I love you. I respect you. I cherish you. I want you. I'm counting the minutes until you walk through the door and I can wrap my arms around you." His response ............................ "We're good. Love you." You need to be more realistic about the communication style of most men in general and working men in particular. If you're expecting him to type sonnets with one hand while the other is driving the forklift, not gonna happen. I thought his response was loving and appropriate... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
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