duckrodgers Posted March 16, 2005 Share Posted March 16, 2005 I am back. My elder sisters boyfreind has theatend to hurt my younger sister and her baby which at the momet is disturbing me something rotten. To be honest it's bringing memories back for me, how I so much wanted to protect my mother and I feel guilty for not doing anything, when I was 18; I just stood thier and let my step-dad do the things he did. The more I see this so called boyfreind of my sister the more I hate him and reminds me of my step-dad. Does this make sense? do I have the right to feel like this? This person thinks he has the power to hurt the people I care about, he can think again because there is no way on earth I would let him do that or let happen again. I really hate people like that who think they can trapped people and belittle them through fear. Often the cats get kicked in the head and that really hurts me because they are so defenceless against a attacks like that. Sorry for the harshness of the post Link to post Share on other sites
agnf666 Posted March 16, 2005 Share Posted March 16, 2005 You have all the right to feel the way you do. I know you can tend to feel guilty but, you also have to realize that you could have been indanger yourself if you protected your mom. You don't want anything to happen to your sister. You should ask your sister if this relationship is really worth putting your life and your childs life at the hands of someone who is abusive. If anything happens someone needs to call the police or something. He is going to be a scary guy to watch out for though because he will not let her get away from him. So, becareful. Talk to your sister when he's not around. May I ask? What happen to your mom's step dad? did he get introuble. Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted March 17, 2005 Share Posted March 17, 2005 duck, why haven't you called the police? I think you should call the police and tell them what you know. You need to do this to have a record of threats made by this guy. If the police don't do anything now, they will if the threats continue. No one should have to live in fear and that is what is happening here. It's time to get strong and take control back from this abusive faq-r. Whatever you do don't confront this guy yourself though, you need to have the police involved. Right away! Link to post Share on other sites
Nine Posted April 14, 2005 Share Posted April 14, 2005 Hi Duckrodgers, You DO have a right to be angry, VERY angry. Angry about what is going on right now with your sister and angry about events from your past. Chances are that you couldn't have stopped your step dad from doing what he was doing. Also, you were so conditioned to the abuse that even at the age of 18, it would be normal to still feel powerless to change the situation. I can relate to that in my own life. Now, you can talk to your sister about her boyfriend. It would be great if she calls the police herself. She may not want to and then it may be a good idea if you do. Although, you may want to contact a battered women's organization for advice since these situations can be tricky. Let us know what you decide. Take Care, Nine Link to post Share on other sites
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