Would you be okay with your boyfriend/girlfriend going on a vacation without you?

[rester]

Tell your gf/so/wife that you are going on a "guys only" trip to Vegas and see what she says......

 

OTOH, a hunting trip or something along those lines and I dont think there would be a problem..So factors weigh in...I am not an insecure type...Go ahead..Ill find something to do while you are gone...But honestly, Ive never been in that situation...shrug....

 

TFY

 

I'm actually part of an annual "guys only" trip to Vegas. There are about 20-30 of us depending on the year and it's been taking place for over a decade. As far as I am aware, none of the wives or girlfriends have had a problem with it.

[anika99]

If my girlfriend has an inclination to cheat then it makes no difference whether she stays here or goes away on vacation. The chances of her cheating are the same regardless of location. She could be having an affair with the neighbor next door when I am away at work for all I know. So the fear of her cheating would not worry me if she wants to go on vacation.

 

I totally agree with you, however I have met a person or two who seem to have that "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" mindset. They would never (or at least they say they wouldn't) cheat with neighbor because that would be far to0 risky and messy. They really behave like totally devoted loyal partners while at home and they only indulge their cheating behaviours when they are away and the chance of getting found out is very low.

[NJ123]

I totally agree with you, however I have met a person or two who seem to have that "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" mindset. They would never (or at least they say they wouldn't) cheat with neighbor because that would be far to0 risky and messy. They really behave like totally devoted loyal partners while at home and they only indulge their cheating behaviours when they are away and the chance of getting found out is very low.

 

This is exactly what I mean. Some people are sneaky as ****, where to them being on a vacation is they have an "all bets are off" mentality. And cheat & "live it up" while away from the husband/wife. Than come back & don't cheat until they go on another one of their vacations.

[Nikki Sahagin]

An ex of mine used to go to a party island called Zante and although he didn't cheat on me, I was unhappy with a lot of his behaviour that I found out about whilst he was there. So for me it would depend on where the holiday was. For me, people who are happy in relationships DON'T need to go to party islands. I wouldn't be happy with that. I couldn't stop him but it might make me re-evaluate if we were on the same page relationship wise. I know for me I wouldn't want to go to a party hook up island whilst in a relationship, or even if I was single actually, so I wouldn't be comfortable with my bf doing so.

 

He could of course go on vacation without me, although I do have trust/dependency issues...although I have been on vacation without him so it would only be fair!

[acrosstheuniverse]

Yeah, wouldn't bother me at all. I'd encourage him to go on a boy's only vacation if he got chance, I've had my girls vacations and he's never done a boys trip! I know it's super fun to have time away with friends. I wouldn't be concerned about cheating, as everyone else has said it's just as likely to happen at home as away. I'd wave him away and look forward to hearing his stories when he got home. Wouldn't mind even if it was a crazy party island, as I know that I'd be able to resist cheating in that scenario no matter how much temptation there was around so I trust him to do the same.

 

Having said that we're going on a vacation with my friends over NYE which is going to be awesome, as much as I love time with my friends I would hate to be away for him for the midnight bells and I'm super excited to hang out with all of my friends and him at once, we've only been together since January so it's the first time we'll have spent days on end with either of our friends together!

[Toodaloo]

Oh blimey - if you can't spend a week on your own what can you do?

 

No problems what so ever with them going away. When I go on my own I am not going to pick up some random bloke - I am going to visit another country/ friends/ do something... No time to be looking elsewhere, too busy having fun!

 

Besides its great to have the bed to yourself for a few days too!

[Els]

I technically wouldn't have a problem with it. However, I'm also typically incompatible with guys who enjoy going to places like Vegas without their partner, so the point is moot.

 

Other types of travel are fine, as long as he keeps some leave days for us to go on a holiday or two together.