Art_Critic Posted November 18, 2014 Share Posted November 18, 2014 I happen to know a woman who has a few kids, got divorced and her Exh took care of the household, bills so she could stay at home and raise THEIR children, even though they are not married, If I recall correctly he got remarried too.. Obviously that isn't the norm and the Exh must've made a really good income to be able to do it but there are people out there that are raising the children for both still... Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted November 18, 2014 Share Posted November 18, 2014 I am a bit concerned that we have a thread here designed to bash SAHM. Obviously someone here has had a bad experience, but surely we could start a thread targeting workaholic men or obsessionally geeky nerds, or misogynist creeps, or guys on benefits or ex prisoners, none of these could be seen as being ideal partners for some women. But if there is no law that forces anyone to date people that they don't want to, then why single out SAHMs? Many of whom are decent folk and many of them have often been sh*t on from a great height anyway by men. I agree, If its a deal breaker, the end. Not sure why people are being so judgemental and harsh on stay at home parents. Children from age 0-5 i would probably choose to look after if i was in a position to do so. Child care is expensive and i dont trust others to raise my possible future children. The only problem would be breaking back in to the workforce. Link to post Share on other sites
insert_name Posted November 18, 2014 Share Posted November 18, 2014 I agree, If its a deal breaker, the end. Not sure why people are being so judgemental and harsh on stay at home parents. Children from age 0-5 i would probably choose to look after if i was in a position to do so. Child care is expensive and i dont trust others to raise my possible future children. The only problem would be breaking back in to the workforce. Its not the decision to stay at home, I have no issue with that, they are the parent so they can do what they like. The OP placed this in the context of OLD so what I wonder is what makes them an attractive prospect on OLD bearing in mind that (typically) their profile will make clear in no uncertain terms that the child (who is not yours) comes first and add to that that the mother does not even have an income so its likely the man will be paying for everything when dating and beyond perhaps even including paying for things for the child. Fair play to any man who can do that (I am sure they are out there). I for one draw the line at getting involved with another man's child. Sorry if that sounds harsh, just how I personally choose to roll. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted November 19, 2014 Author Share Posted November 19, 2014 IN the "Intentions" section, she has, "Looking for someone to marry". That's rather telling. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted November 19, 2014 Share Posted November 19, 2014 IN the "Intentions" section, she has, "Looking for someone to marry". That's rather telling. It tells us that she does not want to have a string of casual relationships. It tells us that she is after a committed relationship. It tells us she is after a stable relationship. Is that a bad thing for somebody to want now? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted November 19, 2014 Author Share Posted November 19, 2014 It tells us that she does not want to have a string of casual relationships. It tells us that she is after a committed relationship. It tells us she is after a stable relationship. Is that a bad thing for somebody to want now? I'm saying, it gives me the impression she's looking for someone to support her and her kids. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted November 19, 2014 Share Posted November 19, 2014 I'm saying, it gives me the impression she's looking for someone to support her and her kids. Seeing as she has not actually said that plus you do not know anything about her financial arrangements then you are just jumping to conclusions with no evidence at all to support this. Just leave her alone. Nobody is forcing you to date her and I am sure she would not be happy dating someone who is so quick to judge. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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