Lernaean_Hydra Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 For example I don't like it when girlfriends keep in contact with exes on Facebook. Now I am not going to tell her what to do. She has every right to keep in contact with whoever. But it concerns me what reason she would have to keep in contact with exes. So I just end the relationship instead and say I think our relationship has run its course. Hopefully I will find someone who comes to her own conclusion that there's no reason for her to keep in contact with exes. I'm not one for saying constant I love yous and such either (though I'm also not a fan of hearing it that often) however this bit I quoted above is nonsensical bulls*t. You say expressing your feelings verbally is "unmanly" but what I'd find to be the most "unmanly" of all is a guy who is so passive agressive and self-absorbed that he feels his partner should just know he doesn't like her doing certain things without ever having the balls to tell her. Lol, it sounds like a whiny little brat on the playground who, rather than saying he's upset, just packs up his toys and goes home. What kind of "man"...ugh. No. Men don't do this, or at least they shouldn't. PS, people shouldn't usually write guides to anything unless they've put their theories into practice and actually had some success; otherwise it's just lip service and flawed ideologies. I guess by your logic I should write a guide on how to become a millionaire. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Giggle Posted November 18, 2014 Share Posted November 18, 2014 Well to me the reasons people feel the way they feel are just as important as what they are feeling. About 2 years ago I met this one lady on Facebook who became really attracted to me and loved my posts on Facebook and notes and my insight on some subjects. It was a short term light casual dates. No sex. I didn't let it get to that point. Then one day she texted me and said she loved me very much but didn't know why she loved me. Told me she felt drawn to me and that we are kindred spirits. When she voluntarily added "I don't know why I love you but I do" that was a red flag for me. After that I just stopped talking to her. If you don't know why you love me then what that tells me is that you can't find any good reason to love me but you do anyway. That bothers me and it bothers me so much that I quit communicating with her. So yeah if you can't think of a reason why you love someone then it is time to rethink the I love you. That past experience is what enabled me to put together this guide. I find that very very sad. I find /reasons/ for loving somebody weird. Just because it's romantic you have to have a reason? Does a friend love have to have a reason? I don't have reasons for loving anybody. I love my bf just because of who he is. I have a rule about love too.. If you care for somebody, make sure they know it. Love is a beautiful thing, don't hide it. Link to post Share on other sites
NoMoreJerks Posted November 18, 2014 Share Posted November 18, 2014 So if she tells me she loves me I am not going to blindly parrot back with I love you too. Instead I can change the subject or tell her a funny story or a joke. Or if she says she loves me I can respond with "Why?" Why is always a good question. Especially if she says it for the first time. I can ask "Why?" Any guy who replies like that to me, especially if I catch wind that he did it on purpose in order to keep me on my toes or manipulate me, is HISTORY. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted November 18, 2014 Share Posted November 18, 2014 Because it is not manly to talk about my feelings too often. who did you learn that from darren? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darren2013 Posted November 18, 2014 Author Share Posted November 18, 2014 who did you learn that from darren? Doc Love dating system. Link to post Share on other sites
Badsingularity Posted November 18, 2014 Share Posted November 18, 2014 My wife and I tell eachother I love you every day. We are happy and have a lot of sex. Been together for 7 years. Your theory needs some work. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted November 18, 2014 Share Posted November 18, 2014 Doc Love dating system. Have you ever been in a sexual relationship Darren? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayken Posted November 18, 2014 Share Posted November 18, 2014 Have you ever been in a sexual relationship Darren? You've just opened up a pandora's box there mate. Be specific, are you asking if it's a hetero one or otherwise? "Sexual relationship" comes in all forms...Bill Clinton will tell ya. I guess by your logic I should write a guide on how to become a millionaire It's a free world...what is stopping ya? Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted November 19, 2014 Share Posted November 19, 2014 Er, nobody said anything about checking with anybody or freedom or whatever other stuff you just said. I just think it's hilarious to hold up making someone dinner two hours early and then heading on out the door just as she arrives home as the ultimate in expressing love. :lmao: I am seriously lol'ing. This kind of made my afternoon, thanks. Yup, this is an awesome thread - totally made my evening. Thanks, Darren! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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