benjamn12 Posted November 19, 2014 Share Posted November 19, 2014 I'm 28, never had party, sex, women and fun as most of all others (except a few times sex at prostitute). My problem now is i dont feel equal to all those who had sex already in highschool and regular sex in years to follow. I just can't and therefor i dont have any will to live anymore. Can't find motivation for anything if i know all people had so much more from youth then me [IMG] Now a girl on facebook told me about how on her school trip all guys had sex with the teacher, 2 years ago. I am crying for half hour now, because it hurts too much... I will never be on the same level as those advanced women who are capable of those things. I will never have such success in life to tell about as all those guys at their 18... It seems my last worth got lost... i cant live with those facts anymore... i am so behind and not equal to other people... Link to post Share on other sites
Andy_K Posted November 19, 2014 Share Posted November 19, 2014 What are you doing to improve yourself and change your situation? Link to post Share on other sites
Author benjamn12 Posted November 19, 2014 Author Share Posted November 19, 2014 What are you doing to improve yourself and change your situation? I tried to talk with several girls on facebook in last months. All of them would go with me on drink. But at the end reality comes in me, when i realize they are too much over me and that its useless all. They are on different level, far more experienced and i will never be equal to them:( Also i tried to go to a few parties but next day i was at home crying all day, because you see so many beautiful women there, which i cant have, because of their experience... i cant take it anymore... There is no way out of this, because the race is over Link to post Share on other sites
Andy_K Posted November 19, 2014 Share Posted November 19, 2014 If you're getting dates from talking to girls on facebook you're already doing better than a lot of guys! Avoid mentioning your lack of experience and see where it goes. Then with the next girl, you'll have a bit more experience. Everyone has to start somewhere. Link to post Share on other sites
mercuryshadow Posted November 19, 2014 Share Posted November 19, 2014 No one needs to know details of your lack of experience!! In fact, though, not every woman is looking for a guy that has had sex with tons of women. If I were dating a guy and he told me he'd banged an indiscriminate amount of women, that would send me running. If you are looking for sex over companionship, there are adult sites geared at that. Facebook is probably not your most promising source. Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted November 19, 2014 Share Posted November 19, 2014 Get help ASAP, there's nothing to be ashamed about. A *good* tgerapist will help you unvoer some wounds yiu may not know about and help you heal/cope. On the flip side, look at how many people are divorced, in sexless marriages, in dead end R's. Sex feels great but itw not the be all end all of life. Us guys who don't get it often tend to "mystify" sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Author benjamn12 Posted November 19, 2014 Author Share Posted November 19, 2014 (edited) I know most of women doesnt care about lack of experience. This is not even my point. I know this doesnt matter. I could meet at the moment with around 10 girls if i could, but i cant because of facts. Its pure facts what matters, the statistics, what they have, and what did i have and where i am compare to them in numbers. A sportsman who is on 237 ranking is not so much worth as the ones in top 10. Its the same in life with sex and how much fun you had. And i cant live with this anymore. All young people who had sex since youth are too much over me... i cant deal with this anymore, sorry Edited November 19, 2014 by benjamn12 Link to post Share on other sites
kolleamm Posted November 19, 2014 Share Posted November 19, 2014 You will be okay I promise you that. Surround yourself or make a good network of friends through some of your hobbies. If you Don't have any you need to make some. Get yourself in shape, your body makes a huge difference. If your already in shape get in better shape. I used to think life was hopeless for me, but then I realized a few experiences are not going to dictate the rest of my life. Remember it's not a race. It doesn't matter at what age you find the one because when you do you'll believe it was worth it. The very fact you wrote this thread makes me believe you want a positive change. Link to post Share on other sites
Author benjamn12 Posted November 19, 2014 Author Share Posted November 19, 2014 This is all worthless to me. I tried but its all childish wasting of time, compare to sex. Sex is the hightest thing in life. I cant be equal anymore, therefor death is all that can save me of pain Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 19, 2014 Share Posted November 19, 2014 You need to talk to a therapist. Your perceptions are screwed up. But they can be fixed. Half the crap you hear about what people say they did when they were 18 is a lie. People brag to make themselves look better. Nobody has the world on a string that young. If they do they are curled up in a ball by 30 wondering where the glory days went. Look at all the child stars who die young because there is nothing left for them when they are no longer cute Yes, the person who came in last at the Olympics lost but OMG do you realize how many millions of people can't compete. Most people are not world class athletes. For years I compared myself to people at the pinnacles of what they did: Nobel Prize winners, major league sports professionals, Supreme Court Justices etc. You know what? Only an infinitesimal percentage of people get to be them. The rest of us are just ordinary folks & that's OK. When you can make a clean break from your past & stop letting it drag you down or prevent you from enjoying the present the world will look much brighter. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author benjamn12 Posted November 19, 2014 Author Share Posted November 19, 2014 Todays generation of kids is different. They have sex since young age. The more wild and crazy things you alived more worth you are. As i told. One girl told me all guys had sex on their trip with math teacher. This is reality! 20 guys, which i can never reach in my life and they are not famous people or something. Just regular persons... Today all youth has wild stories. At least those who look good and are therfor something worth in life Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted November 19, 2014 Share Posted November 19, 2014 It seems my last worth got lost... i cant live with those facts anymore... i am so behind and not equal to other people... Please call the Samaritans or a similar organisation. Now would be a good time to do this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NJ123 Posted November 19, 2014 Share Posted November 19, 2014 Todays generation of kids is different. They have sex since young age. The more wild and crazy things you alived more worth you are. As i told. One girl told me all guys had sex on their trip with math teacher. This is reality! 20 guys, which i can never reach in my life and they are not famous people or something. Just regular persons... Today all youth has wild stories. At least those who look good and are therfor something worth in life wtf . They all had a gang bang on the teacher? That's ****ing nasty. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
the tank Posted November 20, 2014 Share Posted November 20, 2014 I met many guys who told me how good they were with woman and in party they couldnt even talk to a girl...! Actions speak louder than words ! I second d0nnivain , go see a therapist . It would only benefit you! Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted November 20, 2014 Share Posted November 20, 2014 I'm sorry, but what you see as exciting and all that, I see as sad... There's chicks in their 20's that have more notches on their belts than I have... And, you know what? They more than likely aren't good in bed. They just let X amount of men "mount" them. I mean one time I heard a gf of a gf - who wants sex all the time and was in her 30's say how she never gave a bj - EVER. So, how can you want sex so much and you can't even perform a bj? So, what do you do? just lie there? I didn't party and all that growing up. I finally started going out to parties and/or nightclubs in my mid-20s and really didn't go that much. I was full time in the military, working extra jobs, busy with school, volunteering, family. Last time I went to a club was last year with my siblings and they took me to some club full of college kids (they're in their 20's) and I was like "nooooo, take me to the club that was for 30's and older" and actually there was a club titled '30's and older'...lol. Anywho, the kids are just there clueless. They are just getting smashed and drunk and can't even freakin dance. Lemme just say I was jumping up and down and got them excited - yes, when I arrive and get tipsy, I bring the fire. What I'm trying to say is, what you "think" you're missing out on is just a bunch of kids drinking, getting smashed, and mounting each other. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Nyc_user Posted November 20, 2014 Share Posted November 20, 2014 I know most of women doesnt care about lack of experience. This is not even my point. I know this doesnt matter. I could meet at the moment with around 10 girls if i could, but i cant because of facts. Its pure facts what matters, the statistics, what they have, and what did i have and where i am compare to them in numbers. A sportsman who is on 237 ranking is not so much worth as the ones in top 10. Its the same in life with sex and how much fun you had. And i cant live with this anymore. All young people who had sex since youth are too much over me... i cant deal with this anymore, sorry I'm deeply confused Link to post Share on other sites
carly75 Posted November 20, 2014 Share Posted November 20, 2014 You don't have to compare yourself to others. There is a one thing that somebody had and someone don't have. Don't lose hope you are still young, it is happier to have to sex for the one you love and I know you will find that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author benjamn12 Posted November 20, 2014 Author Share Posted November 20, 2014 I dont want love, i want numbers. I would like to have something nasty to tell about my youth and i will never have because of that. Therefor i can never be equal to others And people have sex all the time, for me its science fiction... this tells about their and my worth Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 20, 2014 Share Posted November 20, 2014 I dont want love, i want numbers. I would like to have something nasty to tell about my youth and i will never have because of that. Therefor i can never be equal to others And people have sex all the time, for me its science fiction... this tells about their and my worth Your priorities are warped. Why do you want "something nasty" to tell about your youth? That's awful & gross. The fact that you admire people who are bragging about skanky behavior is frightening in & of itself. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted November 20, 2014 Share Posted November 20, 2014 I dont want love, i want numbers. I would like to have something nasty to tell about my youth and i will never have because of that. Therefor i can never be equal to others And people have sex all the time, for me its science fiction... this tells about their and my worth Do you watch porn? Link to post Share on other sites
bebe23 Posted November 20, 2014 Share Posted November 20, 2014 You are obsessed with this, and it probably shows in your attitude to women. You are actually jealous of a group of schoolboys who let their TEACHER take advantage of them? She needs to get her arse fired. That is disgusting! Being a virgin should have no bad effect in your dating life if you don't ALLOW it! No one forces you to wear a big 'VIRGIN' sign out in public. And if a woman does ask, after you've dated awhile and have gotten closer, if you tell her and she rejects you that is HER problem. I think many women would find it sweet and admirable. I know I would. I think they would enjoy being someone's first. You need to think about other things in your life. Hobbies, intellectual interests, career, helping the less fortunate, anything! When you do that and stop the bitterness, it will make you the kind of guy that NICE women want to meet. But if you only want slutty nasty partners, it's your choice too. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author benjamn12 Posted November 20, 2014 Author Share Posted November 20, 2014 Do you watch porn? Offcourse. How could you not watch natures most beautiful creations...women. For me those girls are the winners of life. Link to post Share on other sites
NJ123 Posted November 20, 2014 Share Posted November 20, 2014 Offcourse. How could you not watch natures most beautiful creations...women. For me those girls are the winners of life. than why not become a porn star..... Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted November 20, 2014 Share Posted November 20, 2014 I dont want love, i want numbers. I would like to have something nasty to tell about my youth and i will never have because of that. I am guessing you have to be a troll. If not, you need therapy NOW. Still- assuming you are serious... You can't change the past, but you can change your present. You want something nasty but don't want love? Stick to the prostitutes and get as nasty as you want. Pay for 3 of them at once and have the nastiest night of your life and have stories to tell...to WHO I have no idea... that nobody can beat. If you only want nasty and don't want love, don't even try to waste the time of the normal girls you meet. There's no point. Stick to the hookers, who I guess in your view are life's winners anyway. (No offense to hookers.) 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author benjamn12 Posted November 20, 2014 Author Share Posted November 20, 2014 You are obsessed with this, and it probably shows in your attitude to women. You are actually jealous of a group of schoolboys who let their TEACHER take advantage of them? She needs to get her arse fired. That is disgusting! Being a virgin should have no bad effect in your dating life if you don't ALLOW it! No one forces you to wear a big 'VIRGIN' sign out in public. And if a woman does ask, after you've dated awhile and have gotten closer, if you tell her and she rejects you that is HER problem. I think many women would find it sweet and admirable. I know I would. I think they would enjoy being someone's first. You need to think about other things in your life. Hobbies, intellectual interests, career, helping the less fortunate, anything! When you do that and stop the bitterness, it will make you the kind of guy that NICE women want to meet. But if you only want slutty nasty partners, it's your choice too. I know all this. But everybody has different views and norms. I tried running, music, tennis, meeting with some friends for walk and stuff, which i love all, but its all worthless if you dont have beside that main thing in life - sex. Its like you would play with child toys at old age and think your life is full. I dont have will for all this childish stuff anymore. Believe me, many women want to meet me. People like me at job, think i am funny. Sometimes i am quiet, but sometimes i can tell funny stuff and most people like me. I can go on date tomorrow with probably 10 different womens, but its all useless, when its fact they are all over me in numbers and statistics. I dont feel the same worth to them and nothing can change that To me the most worth women are the ones that had slutty life and had much sex partners, because it means they took in life what is important. I would not find a women attractive if she had only 1 or 2 partners, even if she is the most beautiful women on the world by look or great person. I know many people dont think like me, but i cant help. Thats me. Sex is for me the biggest thing in life. And btw, teacher did not take any advantage. It was a trip at the end of school, where they go on a trip for a few days, have party and stuff. Al students were 18-19. I admire this teacher. Link to post Share on other sites
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