WomenWubber Posted November 26, 2014 Share Posted November 26, 2014 The past is the past, dude. That ship sunk a long time ago, so thinking about it and let it go. You should worry about your future, because it doesn't look too promising for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author benjamn12 Posted November 26, 2014 Author Share Posted November 26, 2014 With such past as my, everybody would give up long time ago. Yes, i was just not brave enough in the past, but this doesnt matter now. The arrears are here and i cant do nothing, even if i would be brave enough to meet women now. Women have won, i have lost... they are to big humans with all of their amazingly beautiful bodies and sex with famous and important men. And they desirve every of this xperiences, because of their wonderful look. Link to post Share on other sites
MercuryMorrison1 Posted November 26, 2014 Share Posted November 26, 2014 Women have won, i have lost... It's not a competition...It never was. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 26, 2014 Share Posted November 26, 2014 Women have won, i have lost... they are to big humans with all of their amazingly beautiful bodies and sex with famous and important men. And they desirve every of this xperiences, because of their wonderful look. You probably are not going to get to have sex with the kind of women who are having sex with famous men. Those women are dating those men because they are famous. Even if the man in Q had your sexual experience, a certain kind of woman would still date him but not you, solely because he is famous. If you are "losing" now, it's only because you are not trying. We have all suggested therapy because of your steadfast refusal to see any perspective other than your own on this subject. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author benjamn12 Posted November 26, 2014 Author Share Posted November 26, 2014 And i told i was already at 4 therapist who all tried to do the same thing. Convince me i am equal to others, where statistic numbers and experiences of others says other truth. So its useless and no way out. Link to post Share on other sites
evanescentworld Posted November 26, 2014 Share Posted November 26, 2014 Jeesh... It hacks me off. people come here for solace, support and help, but every time anyone extends a feasible solution, it's "I cant! I tried it! Nothing works! But *this* happens! But *that* happens! I'm always unlucky! Nothing ever goes right for me!" Good grief man, get a grip! The fact that you're upright - breathing, walking, seeing hearing, touching feeling, tasting and living - is miraculous in itself! You're a human being! the most extraordinary evolutionary achievement known on the planet! QUIT Whingeing! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author benjamn12 Posted November 27, 2014 Author Share Posted November 27, 2014 Also rapist and murderers are human beings (miracles like you would say). And that doesnt mean they are not equal to other people in society anymore. So cant be i anymore, because i am too much behind. All women you talk with on fb have some sex friends and i cant deal with this, that they are so advanced and me not Link to post Share on other sites
evanescentworld Posted November 27, 2014 Share Posted November 27, 2014 Would you like us to agree with you? Because apparently, nothing we say to the contrary is getting through. And frankly, it's becoming tedious trying to pull you out of the hole, particularly as you're the one with the shovel, who just keeps digging yourself deeper.... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted November 27, 2014 Share Posted November 27, 2014 YOU keep saying you can't, but really it is because you won't, no-one can help you until you turn that mindset around. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author benjamn12 Posted November 28, 2014 Author Share Posted November 28, 2014 Turning mindset around means lying to yourself. Believing something you really dont believe... Damn, even 16 year old kids go on dates, make out and have sex :( Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted November 28, 2014 Share Posted November 28, 2014 Jeesh... It hacks me off. people come here for solace, support and help, but every time anyone extends a feasible solution, it's "I cant! I tried it! Nothing works! But *this* happens! But *that* happens! I'm always unlucky! Nothing ever goes right for me!" Good grief man, get a grip! The fact that you're upright - breathing, walking, seeing hearing, touching feeling, tasting and living - is miraculous in itself! You're a human being! the most extraordinary evolutionary achievement known on the planet! QUIT Whingeing! What lovely and productive advice. I'm sure it made his day. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
evanescentworld Posted November 28, 2014 Share Posted November 28, 2014 As it received 'likes' it seems I'm not the only one to think like this. When people revel and wallow in misery, it gets very difficult to keep bringing them up for air, particularly when they appear to be more inclined to WANT to drown. I'm sorry my post doesn't appeal to you, but not all input can be sugar-coated and softly-softly. occasionally, a "get a grip" is more appropriate. Link to post Share on other sites
evanescentworld Posted November 28, 2014 Share Posted November 28, 2014 Turning mindset around means lying to yourself. Believing something you really dont believe... No, it doesn't. it means facing life more positively and adopting a more congenial attitude. As Henry Ford once said: "Whether you believe you can, or whether you believe you can't - you're right." Damn, even 16 year old kids go on dates, make out and have sex Yes, and always live happily ever after.... You and I both know, from being on this forum, that 16-year-olds have it just as bad as anyone else. Worse, because hormonally, they're simply not mature or ready enough to actually cope with the requirements of a solid and fulfilling, long-term relationship, so really, that protestation makes little sense.... Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted November 28, 2014 Share Posted November 28, 2014 In the time you have spent whining on here, had you applied yourself, you could have had more sexual encounters, with more partners, than some of the folk on here giving you advice. But you have chosen the "woe is me" path and that leads absolutely nowhere. Good luck with your ready made meal for one, as that is your future, if you do not do something about it now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author benjamn12 Posted November 28, 2014 Author Share Posted November 28, 2014 It doesnt matter what i would alive now. It matters what you alived in young youth. I can never compete with the kids that had sex already in high school and until today regulary :/ It the same as with sports. The ones which are capable doing something first are the winners of life... Link to post Share on other sites
MGX Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 I dont want love, i want numbers. I would like to have something nasty to tell about my youth and i will never have because of that. Therefor i can never be equal to others And people have sex all the time, for me its science fiction... this tells about their and my worth Look for quality relationships, not the quantity. It's better to have one wonderful relationship than 50 empty ones. Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 Turning mindset around means lying to yourself. Believing something you really dont believe... No, it's the opposite. Your beliefs are irrational; this is your real problem. They cause you to have thoughts that are not true. Feelings are not evidence of truth. Everyone here is telling you that but you seem to be unable to hear it. If you want anything to change, then must open yourself to other perspectives. The right therapist can help you. Find a good therapist, and seek truth rather than stubbornly reinforcing the irrational and erroneous beliefs that are causing you so much grief. Link to post Share on other sites
feelymcfeel Posted December 29, 2014 Share Posted December 29, 2014 Look for quality relationships, not the quantity. It's better to have one wonderful relationship than 50 empty ones. So much this. Having been on both ends of the spectrum, I can assure you 1 amazing relationship is much better in every possible was than 30 one night stands. Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted December 29, 2014 Share Posted December 29, 2014 I feel very sorry for you if you have built up the idea of meaningless sexual encounters as the holy grail meaning of life. I would suggest a change in perspective. There are more meaningful things than pumping away on women in high numbers. Link to post Share on other sites
Timshel Posted December 29, 2014 Share Posted December 29, 2014 OP, you are wrong. Girls are not having sex all the time. Women are not having sex all the time. They do not want sex all the time and would be hurt if they had sex with someone they did not want to. I work with teenagers and I am telling you that what you think is not correct. 90% of the girls have never had sex or have only had one partner. You have incorrect information. Girls/Women flirt with men, but they do not want to have sex with them. They are being friendly and welcoming a conversation to be friends and to be nice. They are not saying they want sex. You value sex that it determines your self-worth. You think you are only a man if you have had a lot of sex when you are a teenage boy. You think all women have sex all the time but not with you. Women want love. You have made a mistake to believe that girls/women want to have lots of sex. You have made a mistake to decide that you are only worth how much sex you have had. If you decide to believe that you are worth nothing because you do not have sex, then you will need to change your mind. If you decide to believe that girls and women only care about sex then you need to change your mind because you are wrong, wrong, wrong. Even hookers and porn stars don't care about sex. Link to post Share on other sites
missliss908 Posted December 30, 2014 Share Posted December 30, 2014 I work with teenagers and I am telling you that what you think is not correct. 90% of the girls have never had sex or have only had one partner. You have incorrect information. I work with kids and teens as well..the sooner OP realizes how much teenagers lie (especially teenage boys), the better off he will be. Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted December 30, 2014 Share Posted December 30, 2014 Since the member who started this thread logged out over a month ago and hasn't returned, I'll thank members for their contributions and close this up. Link to post Share on other sites
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