gwennebe Posted March 17, 2005 Share Posted March 17, 2005 I broke no contact last night but... I'm glad I did. I am lucky in my situation that with my ex he isn't a huge mean jerk. lol. He's a nice jerk. He has no problem giving me closure which I am lucky for. I called him just because I needed him to say "I don't want to date you" He then said "I don't want to date anyone right now" (but he wants to sow some oats) That was it that is what I needed. When people dump you it is because "they don't want to be with you" At least not at this time. I am starting no contact as of today. No contact is very necessary because it lets them live without you and it lets you slowly start to feel better about yourself. I am glad I called him because I feel much better now. It's not my fault he doesn't want to date me. It just is what it is. I should be happy because now I am free to find someone that does want to be with me. Hope this helps anyone that is contemplating No Contact. Link to post Share on other sites
BrotherAaron Posted March 17, 2005 Share Posted March 17, 2005 That's awesome that it can work out for you like that. Everything's about the attitude, really. My strategy has been to call someone else when I feel the urge to contact my ex. I see her occasionally, she lives very very close (I can throw things out my door and hit her window), so I can't go absolutely no contact. I don't think that's necessary; the point is to end constant contact. I spoke on the phone with her for a couple minutes the other day, but I didn't really say anything. It didn't hurt the way it used to. Maybe limited contact is a more appropriate term. You're right about breaking up. It is what it is. But love is also a difficult thing to give. It exposes you to the other person, and gives them to ability to hurt you. It hurts to have such a gesture rejected. You've just got to realize that when someone leaves out of the blue sky, and you've been treating them well and loving them whole, then that means that they have issues that need to work out. You can't be blamed that mutual love isn't enough for them - what more could someone want? Go meet some new people. Each relationship in your life will take up just a little bit more of your time. If you meet enough people, you'll have new best friends before you know it. Nothing can ever fully replace the love of your life, but you can be happy without them. It took me a while to realize that I can be happy without her, but it's only been 3-4 weeks and I'm already smiling more than not. Sometimes that's the reason people break up. They don't think they could be happy without, and they need to prove to themselves that they can. Best of luck to them. Link to post Share on other sites
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