rob1703 Posted November 23, 2014 Posted November 23, 2014 I have been on/off with my GF for the last 3 years. The off has mainly been my doing as I was bit of a commitment shy. From June of this year I have treated her pretty poorly by shunning her not communicating and basically treating her like a doormat. During the off periods I have been on dates while she has practically being begging for me back. After we have got back together there I go again finish with her literally dragging her out of my apartment on her knees in a broken hearted state. All of this behaviour I am appalled at and I cannot understand why I treated her like this , it makes me feel so sick How I have treated somebody who just happened to love me unconditionally. We split finally at the beginning of October. After 3 weeks of no contact I started to miss her dearly and realised that she was THE love of my life and soulmate. I miss her so much. So I went about making contact via facebook after unblock in her only to find her pictured and in a relationship with somebody else. Now I know all you reading this will say good for her and I deserve everything I get and your right I do. After making contact she breaks it off with her new partner and gets back with me for 2 days and she finishes with me to go back to her new partner. I am absolutely heartbroken. Now we have had no contact for 3 weeks until yesterday she contacts me after putting what's app status' saying soulmates are forever no matter what and if only I could have one more hug from you x. These messages were intended for me because a conversation takes place through what's app status bizarrely. She contacts me saying she wanted to talk. I agree and she apologises for everything and all pain she caused. She states she still loves me and agreed we are soulmates. She says she misses her best friend (me) and would like to meet up to go out etc. She then says it has to be a secret at the moment as she is still with the other guy and wants to be friends. She states that that relationship will never be as good as us but he makes her feel safe. I love her dearly more than anything in this world and will do absolutely anything for this girl and to make up for my bad ways. I am so devoted to her I will do anything just to see her. She still has to be interested to make contact I'm so confused and it's tearing me apart she's with someone.
Author rob1703 Posted November 24, 2014 Author Posted November 24, 2014 And on top of all this she wants to meet up for a 'hug' today and we practically cannot keep our hands off each other. We stopped short of doing anything as she is in a 7weeks in 'relationship' with this other guy. She is adamant we have no chance of a relationship and she just wants to be friends as she is missing me. So freakin confused it's killing me this I can't go on. I'm absolutely shattered
StrongLass Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 Oh my lord...this isn't the description of love let alone a healthy adult relationship.This is a description of crack. You need to quit each other FOR GOOD or this is going to go on and on and on... She's in a relationship. LEAVER HER ALONE. If she contacts you wanting to *hug* or whatever other BS 'reason' say NO & STICK TO IT. You two aren't in love you're addicted.
AlexfromBoston Posted November 26, 2014 Posted November 26, 2014 Rob, it seems like you played your hand one too many times and in the end, you got burnt. It happens to the best of us and unfortunately, if you truly care about her, you would let her live her life. It doesn't seem like you want to commit and it wouldn't be fair for you to pull her away from a proper relationship if you are only going to use her to heal your damaged pride. And the term "soulmate" is absolute nonsense too. You have tunnel vision and you are probably a bit jealous that she found happiness with another man. Its ok, it happens. Just move on and meet a new girl. 1
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