Kylie609 Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 Hello, I met this amazing guy online about 4 months ago. He lives in Australia and I in canada. We both really like each other. We text daily and will talk on the phone occasionally too. We send pictures regularly. We've been talking for 4 months now and nothing is happening... Is it unreasonable to ask if he wants a relationship with me since we haven't met in person yet? By this point should we have plans to meet one another? Whenever I bring it up he tells me we'll see in a couple months. But I need to know if I'm wasting my time. He won't make plans to visit each other and it is frustrating! How long should I wait? Or should I try talking about it again? Where do we go from here? Thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 (edited) Sounds like he is unavailable. Make him fly to you or pay for your airfare. google his name and city to see what you can find out. Check Facebook. Edited November 24, 2014 by FitChick Link to post Share on other sites
mariekatie Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Hello, I met this amazing guy online about 4 months ago. He lives in Australia and I in canada. We both really like each other. We text daily and will talk on the phone occasionally too. We send pictures regularly. We've been talking for 4 months now and nothing is happening... Is it unreasonable to ask if he wants a relationship with me since we haven't met in person yet? By this point should we have plans to meet one another? Whenever I bring it up he tells me we'll see in a couple months. But I need to know if I'm wasting my time. He won't make plans to visit each other and it is frustrating! How long should I wait? Or should I try talking about it again? Where do we go from here? Thank you! I'm almost the same situation with you. But maybe it scares him to fly a long way to meet you after just 4 months. It's hard to judge whether it's unreasonable or not but i would think it's reasonable and i would prefer to have a relationship even though we didnt meet yet. I feel like if you resent the fact that he's avoiding the topic, you should bring it up to him. My guy also does that, i figured it is out of fear. I feel like the guys should visit first though. If you think you're wasting your time, maybe you should reconsider your feelings for him. I know your frustration. My guy didn't make any plans to visit me till we are deeper into the r/s. Firstly, it's not cheap to fly over. 2ndly, he don't know you that well and he's afraid. I think you should talk to him and ask him about the plans, but be calm and understand that he might have fears. I've been through your situation months ago. Now i know he's visiting me next year, sometimes it still frustrates me that he didn't book any tickets yet. But i think you shouldn't force it, give him time. BUT! Give yourself a time limit as well. Let him know what you're thinking and leave it there, do not pressure him to visit you. But it's kinda contradicting but i do agree with how you feel on some days. I feel like he's just "pushing it back" instead of making real plans. Link to post Share on other sites
fred123 Posted November 25, 2014 Share Posted November 25, 2014 its great to hear a story like this from a girls point of view. its great to know how a girl feels and acts when she is interested and you certainly are. i was in a similar situation like you but i dont think she was interested. i tell you why. im not sure your guy is into you. maybe he likes you just as a friend. as a guy he should come see you first. that was what i was going to do until she changed her mind. just be careful. my girl turned around to me when we finally met and me thinking she liked me i made a move on her and acted like more than friends she was annoyed and uncomfortable and said we were only ever friends. i wqsted 2 months talking to her on facebook and i developed feelings. just be careful i dont want to see you heartbroken Link to post Share on other sites
yokaze Posted November 25, 2014 Share Posted November 25, 2014 Fitchick says it best. Be mature, rest your emotions and engage your intellect for a moment. It will serve you. I'm the guy who made the investment. I'm the gent who traveled to tell her she's worth it. I'm the guy who adored her enough to love her. A man will make that decision. A player will give you all the excuses in the world... Be strong. Link to post Share on other sites
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