The Christian girl

[somedude81]

So I'm starting to get closer to a girl at my school who is a serious Christian. She was "Lunch Girl" in my other thread.

 

There are some things she's doing that is starting to give me the impression that she may be starting to like me.

 

I'm not that sure what I want from her other than I'm extremely attracted to her. Honestly I see the Christian thing as a bit of a hindrance, though it is something I can deal with as I am Christian, but have some issues religion right now. I may have to explain them to her.

 

We were joking and playing around over text for a while Sunday night for at least an hour and she is very responsive. Then she suddenly texts "somedude, what inspires you?

 

!!!

 

I told her that it was a deep question and why she asked. Her reply was

 

"Idk just curious

And want to see how u would respond.

Is that ok?"

 

Am I correct in assuming that she's starting to like me? I asked a female friend and she said that it's highly likely that this girl is either into me or considering it.

 

I told the Christian girl that it's too much to say over text and that I'd tell her when we meet in class in a couple of days.

 

If this does mean that she's starting to like me, I'm not sure how I should answer her. There is no way I can give her response like, "I'm inspired by the glory of God and want to spread his word to everyone."

 

What is she looking for?

[Rejected Rosebud]

That's an odd question to be asking us, I'm pretty sure she wants to know what inspires you and you should tell her!

[Els]

I think you should answer her honestly, instead of looking for an answer that would please her.

[sillyanswer]

What is she looking for?

 

She's trying to find out what inspires you.

 

What does inspire you?

[xxoo]

She's looking for deeper understanding of who you are. It's a common part of the getting to know you process.

 

You should answer honestly. Tell her what inspires you, and ask what inspires her.

[Frank2thepoint]

She was asking you what inspires you. Since she is Christian, she is probably looking for a "Christian" or "godly" answer. Such as "the good Lord inspires me everyday to do good, by blessing me with good fortune, so I can help the less fortunate." Or something along those lines.

[thefooloftheyear]

You should ask yourself if you would be willing to wait until you put a ring on her finger(or even later) to be able get more than a cuddle and a peck on the cheek......Because that is a distinct possiblility...

 

if you can patiently wait for that....then go ahead and really tell her what inspires you...

 

TFY

[organizedchaos]

That is a positive sign she's in to you. And yeah, a lot to answer over text. Doesn't mean she's looking for an answer related to God although she could be digging if you guys haven't had a conversation about religion yet. Just tell her what inspires you.

[serial muse]

Agree with organizedchaos - I don't think you need to give a religious answer, but you should give an honest one. This is definitely a getting-to-know-you/are-we-compatible question.

[Imajerk17]

Well, what does inspire you? This is what we all have been talking about for years how you need to have goals in life besides getting a girlfriend. Its something women wonder about and you are just seeing this directly for yourself.

[somedude81]

I know that if I were to ask her the same question she would give me a religious answer. It's also a question I would never ask in the first place.

 

This question seems to have a right or a wrong answer.

 

Also, I'm not even sure what inspires me. I'm just trying to get by and enjoy life.

 

Yes I heard that women care if a man is passionate about anything, but honestly I felt that it was just nonsense. I never expected a woman to actually ask.

[Allumere]

If this young women is a devote Christian of a more conservative nature and you are not at this point, I'd be very cautious in thinking this will go very far. She is looking for someone that puts God first and foremost in their life. If that is not where you are or if that is not how you live your life it will show fairly quickly...it isn't something you can fake.

 

Don't give the answer you think will get you in the door. Give the honest answer from your heart and see how she responds.

[Rejected Rosebud]

Also, I'm not even sure what inspires me. I'm just trying to get by and enjoy life.

Boobs? :laugh: Hahahaha don't be mad I'm joking with you!

 

Yes I heard that women care if a man is passionate about anything, but honestly I felt that it was just nonsense. I never expected a woman to actually ask.

 

SD, why would you think that was nonsense, it's a great question for getting to know somebody, there is NOT a right or wrong answer unless you are hoping to manipulate her, she wants to get to know you! The REAL you. And it kind of pisses me off that you think caring about other people's passions in life is "nonsense," it's the thing that I love MOST about people including my friends or random people I hear about on the Internet or whatever - people who have passion and act on it in their lives are the best!

[Omei]

Boobs? :laugh: Hahahaha don't be mad I'm joking with you!

 

 

 

SD, why would you think that was nonsense, it's a great question for getting to know somebody, there is NOT a right or wrong answer unless you are hoping to manipulate her, she wants to get to know you! The REAL you. And it kind of pisses me off that you think caring about other people's passions in life is "nonsense," it's the thing that I love MOST about people including my friends or random people I hear about on the Internet or whatever - people who have passion and act on it in their lives are the best!

 

This is very true and us woman care and vise versa if the roles switched.

 

If you want to see someone without passions and goals and inspirations look like you can find them prob begging for cash downtown.

[sillyanswer]

Also, I'm not even sure what inspires me. I'm just trying to get by and enjoy life.

 

Why was this too much to say over text? How are you going to turn it into an entire conversation when you see her?

[somedude81]

If this young women is a devote Christian of a more conservative nature and you are not at this point, I'd be very cautious in thinking this will go very far. She is looking for someone that puts God first and foremost in their life. If that is not where you are or if that is not how you live your life it will show fairly quickly...it isn't something you can fake.

 

Don't give the answer you think will get you in the door. Give the honest answer from your heart and see how she responds.

 

Yes. This probably won't go far.

 

It's frustrating how I got to this point with one girl and not the one I really liked. And now religion of all things can actually get in the way.

 

I'm afraid of giving her the wrong answer and blowing this one chance, which I've waited a long time for. Not with her, but with women in general.

[sillyanswer]

I'm afraid of giving her the wrong answer and blowing this one chance, which I've waited a long time for. Not with her, but with women in general.

 

"A man that flies from his fear may find that he has only taken a short cut to meet it." -- J.R.R. Tolkien

[somedude81]

"A man that flies from his fear may find that he has only taken a short cut to meet it." -- J.R.R. Tolkien

 

Does that have something to do with the giant eagles?

[d0nnivain]

It's a ridiculous thing to ask over a text -- it's too deep, too big, just too much. It'd be an awesome actual conversation but it's a bad text.

 

It does show she's trying to get to know you on a deeper level which I see as a good sign.

 

If you haven't already answered her, I'd reply the Q is too much for a text but you'd love to discuss it with her in person. They use that to determine when she's available to chat.

[organizedchaos]

I know that if I were to ask her the same question she would give me a religious answer. It's also a question I would never ask in the first place.

 

This question seems to have a right or a wrong answer.

 

Also, I'm not even sure what inspires me. I'm just trying to get by and enjoy life.

 

Yes I heard that women care if a man is passionate about anything, but honestly I felt that it was just nonsense. I never expected a woman to actually ask.

 

Most of what we tell you here about women you dismiss as nonsense. You never expected a woman to ask due to your very limited experience. Maybe you should start listening to us when we tell you to have more things going on in your life to prepare you for situations like this.

[ThaWholigan]

"A man that flies from his fear may find that he has only taken a short cut to meet it." -- J.R.R. Tolkien

A better one is

 

"The caves you fear to travel the most holds the great treasures you seek"

 

(I replied damn it *facepalm)

[sillyanswer]

Does that have something to do with the giant eagles?

 

No eagles. It's about the folly of failing to try through fear or cowardice.

[somedude81]

Boobs? :laugh: Hahahaha don't be mad I'm joking with you!

 

Oh God! Please don't bait me into talking about boobs, especially concerning this girl.

 

SD, why would you think that was nonsense, it's a great question for getting to know somebody

 

Why is it a great question? Not everybody is passionate about something in life.

 

If they are, then great. It does show what they really care about. But if there isn't anything, then it's not fair to use that against them.

 

That's why I feel that this question, especially coming from this girl can have a wrong answer.

 

I feel like she just said, "Impress me."

 

I don't want to jump through hoops for her.

 

I absolutely do not want to manipulate or mislead her. I'm trying to think of what I can honestly say that she would accept.

[d0nnivain]

Why is it a great question? Not everybody is passionate about something in life.

 

If they are, then great. It does show what they really care about. But if there isn't anything, then it's not fair to use that against them.

 

That's why I feel that this question, especially coming from this girl can have a wrong answer.

 

I feel like she just said, "Impress me."

 

I don't want to jump through hoops for her.

 

I absolutely do not want to manipulate or mislead her. I'm trying to think of what I can honestly say that she would accept.

 

It's a great Q -- for an in person discussion -- because it gives insight into what makes the other person tick. If you have a passion, OK. If you are still looking for one, that's fine too.

 

It's not about finding an answer she will accept; it's about the truth. The fact that you have taken so long to answer means any answer you give will be artificial. You have already over thought the whole thing.

 

If she had a litmus test & was looking for a right answer, like God, you two may not be compatible. As much as you want a GF, it's still better to find out now that you won't work.

[MidwestUSA]

It's not about finding an answer that she'll accept. It's about giving her the truth.

 

What does inspire you? What are you passionate about? What makes you want to get out of bed in the morning? What little acts do you perform during the day for others that make you smile inside, knowing you did the right thing? What about love for your family?

 

 

What takes you to a peaceful level of being? Quietly playing the guitar? Cooking your favorite dish and letting the aroma fill your apartment? Scrubbing the bathroom until it gleams?

 

 

Seriously, this is what everyone has been asking you for years. If you truly have nothing, it explains why you target the age group that you do. You'll be less likely to be pestered by such deep *cough, cough* thoughts.