b52srock Posted March 30, 2005 Share Posted March 30, 2005 After reading all these posts I just felt I had to put my two cents in too! While my STBex hasn't pulled the "I love you but I'm not IN love with you" line yet, he has said a couple of other things that have bothered me no end. 1. "I love you. You're the mother of my children." (whoopee!! ) 2. "I never thought you could be in love with two people at the same time." (yeah, right ) When he first moved out his excuse was that he "didn't feel loved". Well, after thinking about that statement for a few days I was furious. At first I thought maybe there was something else I could have done to make him feel loved. Then I realized there really wasn't anything more I could have done. I left him little love notes in his work-out bag, left him chocolate kisses in his travel bag, made his favorite meals, always brought him water when he was working in the yard or in the garage, took care of the house, worked full time, and always took a little extra care in seeing that he was relaxed and not innundated with things he had to do at home. Big mistake I think. Not to say that LadyJane isn't correct when she says we should do these things. I agree whole-heartedly. Its just that sometimes, no matter what you do, its never going to be enough for some men. Take mine, for example (please! ). I had done everything for him and he still took up with the town wh*re (hence the "love two people at the same time" nonsense). I know now, that no matter what I had done for him it never would have been enough. Not to blame it on his family, but truly, his mother is a selfish wretch and his father only saw him for a few weeks each summer. He made the comment more than once that he never knew who he'd be having breakfast with on Saturday morning because he never knew who his mother was going to be bringing home Friday night. Hard to show a man what true, honest-to-goodness love is or what a faithful marriage is when you have those demons to fight against. Link to post Share on other sites
Ladyjane14 Posted March 30, 2005 Share Posted March 30, 2005 Originally posted by b52srock When he first moved out his excuse was that he "didn't feel loved". Well, after thinking about that statement for a few days I was furious. At first I thought maybe there was something else I could have done to make him feel loved. Wasn't he already cheating on you by the time he moved out? 'Cause nothing I said to Fyrwyfe would apply AFTER your man's cheating on you. If you can catch them in the unhappy phase before they start, then great....but if it's afterwards....EVERYTHING out of their mouths is hormone-driven bullsh*t. My opinion. It's a rare adulterer with any part of the truth on his lips that isn't twisted all to hell in self-delusion. And there's not much you can do to impress them until the new-car-smell wears off the OW. Link to post Share on other sites
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