Author Helen A Posted November 28, 2014 Author Share Posted November 28, 2014 I don't really I would. I just won't reply again, it's all nonsense. I was so rude last night that I doubt he'll contact me again which can only be a good thing. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted November 28, 2014 Share Posted November 28, 2014 Why won't you block him Betsy? Why do you leave the door open for him? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 28, 2014 Share Posted November 28, 2014 I don't really I would. I just won't reply again, it's all nonsense. I was so rude last night that I doubt he'll contact me again which can only be a good thing. But by not blocking him, you'll still be reading his messages, so that tells me you still want contact on his end towards you. BLOCK HIM. There's absolutely NO reason why you can't. You just don't want to. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Helen A Posted November 28, 2014 Author Share Posted November 28, 2014 Ok then guys I will. He already is on my social media. Insensitive jerk. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted November 28, 2014 Share Posted November 28, 2014 Ok then guys I will. He already is on my social media. Insensitive jerk. Seriously Betsy, do you still want this man? Why on earth is he on your social media too? He is not the only one who could be described as insensitive here. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Helen A Posted November 28, 2014 Author Share Posted November 28, 2014 I meant he already is blocked on that Anne. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted November 28, 2014 Share Posted November 28, 2014 I meant he already is blocked on that Anne. My misunderstanding - sorry Just get all other means of him contacting you blocked. Don't waste any more time on this man. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Helen A Posted January 7, 2015 Author Share Posted January 7, 2015 Out of the blue, me & my hubby get a text ( I think that it was typed when drunk) about a week ago, saying that they have split up - my friend & her husband. I haven't heard from her in ages and not seen them since April, so I messaged her to see if she was ok, she tells me she's left the house/ renting her own place, is so glad it is over that she's asked him to leave for months and he wouldn't etc. They've split up I never thought that they would. Since that drunk message, to which I said I'm sorry to hear that take care and cut it off, he is being a right nuisance. I have NO interest in him now, it's been ages, he messages me Friday morning I didn't see it til lunch, by which time he had sent another one saying are you not replying to me or cutting down on your texting. I ignored Friday's messages. Sunday I get another one saying you haven't answered me. I ignore it. Later the afternoon I get another one. I just reply and say I'm busy today sorry. He starts trying to chat and I cut it off. Last night then AGAIN I get you're quiet lately. I didn't reply. I know that he's having a tough time because he's split up but I REALLY don't want this and it's harassment. So last night I blocked his number. What does he think he's doing? What a cheek, haven't seen him in nearly a year & he thinks he can just start stalk texting me. He's lost the plot. Link to post Share on other sites
IfWishesWereHorses Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 So why not tell him that you have no desire to communicate whatsoever. Shut him down rather than imply you're just busy? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Helen A Posted January 7, 2015 Author Share Posted January 7, 2015 I thought pity for him when I found out that his marriage was over, so I thought I'd respond. But he obviously won't leave it there he wants to continue texting me and start up again. I don't want to do this. It's been over and done with for ages now. He needs to get over his marriage move on and find a new, healthy relationship. I mentioned about him messaging me and that what had happened was wrong ( on Sunday) and that my messages may go through on to my iPad and he said I thought you had sorted that. He was speaking in past tense as if we are still in some sort of secret texting affair, which we are NOT. I made it clear that I had nothing to sort it was wrong it was over, cut the convo short and then he STILL messages me yesterday. He's blocked now so I haven't got to think of this anymore, but it's very odd. Link to post Share on other sites
gettingstronger Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 He is grasping at straws, good for you for not getting sucked back in- Stay the course and take care- 3 Link to post Share on other sites
nikki76 Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 Good for you for being strong! I dont know your story, did your H know about you A? Link to post Share on other sites
DKT3 Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 Come on Betty this thing has never really been over, just in November you were texting him. And even now you are responding. This is what happens when you don't confess. With his marriage ending I'm guessing by spring you will once again be in a full blown sexual affair with him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Helen A Posted January 7, 2015 Author Share Posted January 7, 2015 Come on Betty this thing has never really been over, just in November you were texting him. And even now you are responding. This is what happens when you don't confess. With his marriage ending I'm guessing by spring you will once again be in a full blown sexual affair with him. It has been over, it's over. Once last year I saw them in April. I definitely won't be involved in nothing with him. I'm done. I'm just shocked at his out right cheek with these stalkingy messages. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 In November you said you would be blocking him yet he has now been able to text you. So you didn't block him then? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Helen A Posted January 7, 2015 Author Share Posted January 7, 2015 No, anne but I have last night. He is starting to get crazy sending all these messages. Sending them every other day since Friday. I won't ever have to see them again now either. Link to post Share on other sites
Selfish Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 There are people among the seasoned cheaters that believe a married affair person is a better choice than a single when looking for a chance to play on the side. Yes, it doubles the chance of being caught as there are two spouses to hide from but if you both have a lot to lose you can trust the other to be careful. Or not get all bunny boiler on you. I'm afraid now that he is single he can get even more bunny boiler on you. Things are going to get messy. You can finally get clear and firm on NC but even then he may tell your husband as he has nothing to lose. And there are all those saying about spurned lovers... I'm not a bandwagon "you must confess". But my suggestion in this situation that is is your best choice. A confession now, before he threatens you, will be far better for your husband's emotional well being than one after or none at all and the OM tells your H. Or he figures it out himself. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 Ok then guys I will. He already is on my social media. Insensitive jerk. So when you said the above, you did not follow through with it, just like the many other times when you said you would block him and then didn't. Isn't it any wonder why people still think you are still in this affair in some ways. This is still not over whilst he can get in touch with and whilst you respond to him contacting you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Helen A Posted January 7, 2015 Author Share Posted January 7, 2015 He can't contact me anymore. After the last few days it's just obvious he was going to carry on and on. I don't want any messages from him. Btw, if he was still with his wife he wouldn't be messaging me like this. He hardly bothered back then, only as and when it suited him. And now it suits him because he's bored. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 Why didn't you block him in November when you said you would? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Helen A Posted January 7, 2015 Author Share Posted January 7, 2015 He was blocked on Twitter and social media then as he was a pain on that too: always favouriting something or commenting so my phone would go off. I don't know I suppose because id hardly heard from him all year. His wife wasn't going to let me know that they had split up, it's as if she doesn't want to bother with me anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 You said that you would block him completely and that he was already blocked on social media. But you did not block him completely. Why not? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Helen A Posted January 7, 2015 Author Share Posted January 7, 2015 I had blocked him on social media. I didn't block his number. I don't know why didn't think I'd be hearing from him Now I have, or he's just going to continue to do this all the time when he is bored. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 My point still stands. You said you would block him on your phone. You did not block him. Why should we believe you now that you have blocked him and will keep him blocked? Why should we believe you when you say this is over when you allow him to contact you AND you respond? This is not NC. If you had any respect for your marriage and your husband, you would be doing NC. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Helen A Posted January 7, 2015 Author Share Posted January 7, 2015 But I have NOW. I can see what a loser he is. No more messages no nothing. He can't ring me or anything now that the number is blocked can he? Ive never had to block anybody's number before. Link to post Share on other sites
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