bonbonbabe910 Posted March 19, 2005 Share Posted March 19, 2005 [font=courier new][/font][color=green][/color] Ok, I'm worried about my boyfriend. He is an amazing, thoughtful, wonderful, great guy that I have been with for two years. He treats me wonderfully and we get along great. His only downfall is that he smokes pot everyday. He has been smoking since he was 15. He is now 20. I know he is young and boys will be boys, but I'm afraid that this habit of his will hurt him badly in the long run. He knows I don't particulary like it, but we've talked openly about it and he doesn't ever hide it from me and I've learned to accept it for now. He is a smart young man, however I'm worried that once he is out on his own, weed will take over everything. I'm afraid he will start to love weed more than he loves those that he cares about. That may be irrational, but I'm a girl and girls worry. He doesn't do any other drugs. However 3 years ago he did some acid and some shrooms. He hasn't done any since because he says its not his thing. But he also knows that i oppose that stuff because its not good! I know he sometimes wants to go back and do it once or twice more, but he hasn't. He knows i hate that stuff but i dont want to be the reason he won't do it. I want him to stay away from that stuff for himself and not me. We've talked about this and he says he understands but I still don't want to be the "controlling" type of girlfriend, u know? I only have his best interest at heart. My other concern is that he is moving in with an old friend this summer. His friend has been at college in FL. the past year and has become addicted to cocaine and alcohol. This really scares me because I am afraid he will influence my boyfriend to do bad stuff all the time. What should I do? Just let everything go? He knows how i feel and he deeply respects me for it, but i want him to be happy with our relationship and not feel "controlled". I have never been "controlling" because that is not my nature, but I feel like drugs are a definent issue to help with someone you deeply care about. Don't get me wrong, he is truly amazing. Right now everything is great, but i have concerns about the near future and his well being. What should I do? Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
life loser Posted March 19, 2005 Share Posted March 19, 2005 I would try and divert him from smoking (go for a wlk, the movies, etc.) and get him off it if you can. Same with the other bad influences - keep him otherwise occupied. If that doesn't work, the only way an addict stops is by themselves, but you may be able to help him get therapy and maybe into a rehab program, but you'd better not alienate him or offend him by being heavy handed about it Good luck, but just remeber, no one can change soemeone if they don't want to change Link to post Share on other sites
Author bonbonbabe910 Posted March 21, 2005 Author Share Posted March 21, 2005 Thank you. anyone else have help? Link to post Share on other sites
alicia24 Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 I was smoker and I recently quit. My new boyfriend is a total health freak and I am too except for the smoking. He would make me feel so guilty about smoking and told me what he really thought about it and the things he was saying were not very nice, but it sunk in and here i am not smoking. Link to post Share on other sites
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