magicalmazza Posted March 19, 2005 Share Posted March 19, 2005 well its finally happened she has started seeing someone else! i have been really silly all the way through our breakup clinging on to false hope that she will come back to me.. Now i am feeling nearly as bad as when we first broke up is this normal? Just because its like a summers day sun shining etc. loads of my memories have flooded back to me those days were the best times in my life last year! i am wondering if she will even be giving it a little thought in her head she hasnt stopped talking to me but its been a while since we have spoken... i was gunna txt her and say "Summer time memories today" would she even feel the same! i feel like crying.. I know i can live without her i just miss her sometimes thats all i have been thinking about since the moment i woke up. Maybe its just a bad day i dunno but i dont have anything to do alll day but think about her and what she is doing. I have been kissing other people but none of them are like her they dont even give me a feelig in my stomach like she did. Even though these girls were better looking just down and confused any1 offer me some support 1 month and 3 weeks we have broken up i should be getting on with my life i just cant! Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 19, 2005 Share Posted March 19, 2005 i was gunna txt her and say "Summer time memories today" would she even feel the same! No, she would not. In fact, it would probably make her feel guilty - and would manifest itself in the form of anger/irritation at you. At the very least, she'd ignore it and take great care to maintain a greater level of distance from you. It hurts because you lost her the first time, and lost all your hopes you were harboring for her the second time. When people break up, you lose two people: the actual person you were dating, and the person you keep inside their heart/head that is an idealized version of that person who sits on a pedestal built up on your own hopes and expectations for the relationship you want to have with that person. Its like an addiction. Throwing out a pack of cigarettes won't cure your addiction. She's gone, but your addiction to her is not. It will take time. Link to post Share on other sites
BrotherAaron Posted March 19, 2005 Share Posted March 19, 2005 Texting her won't make you feel any better. If she doesn't respond, you'll wonder why she's avoiding you and why she doesn't care. You'll regret sending it at all, and you'll be stuck to your phone, jumping every time that it rings hoping to hear her on the other line telling you that she misses you... but it won't happen. If she does respond, it won't be heartfelt. She might say her hellos and how are you's, but nothing will come of the conversation. Once again, you will feel crushed all over again, like the first time you broke up. You're going to miss her, but you can't make her miss you. The best thing to do is aknowledge that you miss her, and then go do something. When you've moved on, and you're ready, you'll find a girl who gives you that feeling in your stomach. It will be the best time of your life, all over again. Bad days come and go. You'll be fine. Link to post Share on other sites
search4what Posted March 20, 2005 Share Posted March 20, 2005 Dont do it! I am going through the same thing right now. It has been 3 months for me after a 3.5 yr relationship and I still have those days where I want to make some sort of contact. I actually had to really talk myself out of calling her today. Instead of calling I went to LS. I also recently found out my ex is seeing someone and man did that really hurt, so I definatly feel for you. Just keep your head up and try not to think about it. I know it is easier said than done because last night and this morning a sudden wave of sadness came over me and I cried for a pretty long time. I think that is because she passed me in her car and that was the first time I had seen her in 2 months. We are all going to have our tough times but if you can just get through those urges to call or contact it just makes the healing process that much easier. It sux when you lose hope that things will work out, I am trying to deal with that myself. When i get sad or an urge to call I either get out of my place and work out or try to read a book. Stay strong and good luck, some day soon we will find someone new and we will look back at these times and wonder why it took so long to move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author magicalmazza Posted March 20, 2005 Author Share Posted March 20, 2005 Thx all i got through my time of need thanks to you guys... Its been 5 days without contact now and i am feeling alot better i have met up with a girl i used to be friends with and even she listened to me.. I am making people feel happy about themselves again and giving advice. I gunna be a bumpy ride but i know that you all are here for me. Like my comfort zone!! Thx for all your help so far Link to post Share on other sites
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