Habs33 Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 Hello Everyone, I have been separated for 2 and half years. It has been a very difficult time but have recently been trying to date a little bit. I wonder if anyone else has the same feelings as me. There are times that I am very lonely and think I certainly do not want to be alone for the rest of my life and then there are times that trying to meet someone new scares me. It is like a catch 22. Thanks for reading and good luck. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lostgirl50 Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 I feel the same way. I do not want to be alone , but I do not want to get Ina realtionship And get hurt either. For me, I am know I am not ready for that . Dating I can do, but that could lead to a relationship and I do not want anyone to get hurt. I am so mindful of how someone else would feel now because of the pain I have endured. Yet, I am lonely.....it is awful. I would simply like to go for a beverage and sit and talk. Simple is so easy.... Link to post Share on other sites
Heartbroken Eagle Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Ditto. I would really love to have some company, but afraid of being hurt and going through this pain again. I know I have to break this cycle soon, but I guess I'm not ready just yet. Link to post Share on other sites
StalwartMind Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 It certainly can be an overwhelming feeling to most, thinking about spending the rest of one's life alone. This is intensified even more when you are of the opinion, that you have a lot to offer and give. Despite this I feel people shouldn't just be with someone for the sake of being with someone. Granted if that's what they want, that's completely fine too. It just seems like a much better idea to be spending your time with someone whom understands you, share your core values and appreciates your company. These sort of preference can be found in both friendships and relationships, naturally one of the reasons people seek a relationship is so they can enjoy the wonderful pleasure that being intimate brings. All depending on your preferences and goals in life, it can be intimidating to meet someone new, especially if you've been hurt or disappointed in past relationships. As long as you keep an open mind it's entirely possible to meet someone whom understands and feel the same way as yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
slizl Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 You gotta get back out there! Dating is scary, and most of the time doesn't work out, and some of the time will break your heart, BUT when you do find someone that you fall in love with, it makes everything worth while. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Habs33 Posted December 14, 2014 Author Share Posted December 14, 2014 Thanks for the posts. The people who said they feel the same way I hope you find happiness soon. Loneliness is a feeling I did not think I would be dealing with at 44. Like some of you mentioned, the fear of being hurt again is overwhelming sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
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