To wish Mm a happy bday or no....

[jellybean89]

Hi jellybean, just to clarify, I don't have a child.. I only wish I did..

 

Umm and my MM doesn't have other OW.. Yes there have always been women trying to attract his attention every now and then but he has also always ignored them..

 

And sorry, back to hello's thread... No, do not text him since he didn't even bother to reserve celebrating his birthday with you.

 

Not you - the original poster Hello...she has a husband and a child and the MM you are encouraging her to spend time with has OTHER OW and a wife.

 

OP --- let your husband go. Leave him. You are so focused on the MM it is beyond disrespectful and heartless to continue pretending you care about your spouse. All you care about is the MM.

[jellybean89]

Versailles, jellybean wasn't talking about you. She was explaining the OP's (hello's) situation to you.

 

Thanks sunburned.

[AlwaysGrowing]

Yes dear. You're selectively deaf, we get that.

 

Any advice to kick this guy to the kerb, block him completely, eliminate him from your life, and focus on your Husband, and him alone, just falls on deaf ears...

 

I SAID -

 

ANY ADVICE TO KICK THIS GUY TO THE KERB, BLOCK HIM COMPLETELY, ELIMINATE HIM FROM YOUR LIFE, AND FOCUS ON YOUR HUSBAND, AND HIM ALONE, JUST FALLS ON DEAF EARS...!!!

 

 

I will translate

 

Any advi 2 kix this guy t da kerb, blk hm, elim hm fr yr life, n focus on yr hub, n hm alone, just fal on def ear.

 

Maybe that will help.

[beach]

Well i dont know why i even need to clarify this, but FYI, its not like we were nc n i wanna now wish him.. Heck 'no, if we had been NC, i would never contact him first.. we are minimal contact and his friends planned this trip for ThnxGiving so he wanted to to join.. He said me n him would " celebrate" as friends when he got back.. ( if thats gonna happen or no is another topic) but ya, i never expected him to neglect his vacay n stay back.. Just FYI. I guess I will just casually wish HPBday at the end of the day, nothing special ... as we are still on talking terms.

 

So every person said no yet you still decide to do it.

 

Why do you ask if you're wasting everyone's time?

[lovinDKT3]

I will translate

 

Any advi 2 kix this guy t da kerb, blk hm, elim hm fr yr life, n focus on yr hub, n hm alone, just fal on def ear.

 

Maybe that will help.

 

Nothing will help, all she wants is for someone to tell her how to be with this MM. He is the most important thing in her life. Sad because she is a married MOTHER.

[lovinDKT3]

 

OP --- let your husband go. Leave him. You are so focused on the MM it is beyond disrespectful and heartless to continue pretending you care about your spouse. All you care about is the MM.

 

Totally agree, no way she will/can be happy with her husband after obsessing over this guy the way she has. And think its only been a couple months.

[Poppy47]

Is this person real?

I cannot understand the language at all.

[gettingstronger]

I say this as kindly as possible-you need help, now- you are so close to the edge its scary-you have a family yet you spend way too much time trying to figure out how to get the upper hand with MM-

 

He has tried to let you down easy- he wants you out of his life-he is doing it kindly because either he cares about you or is afraid of you and your crazy making-my guess is he will be relieved if you don't ever contact him again-

[stillafool]

Well i dont know why i even need to clarify this, but FYI, its not like we were nc n i wanna now wish him.. Heck 'no, if we had been NC, i would never contact him first.. we are minimal contact and his friends planned this trip for ThnxGiving so he wanted to to join.. He said me n him would " celebrate" as friends when he got back.. ( if thats gonna happen or no is another topic) but ya, i never expected him to neglect his vacay n stay back.. Just FYI. I guess I will just casually wish HPBday at the end of the day, nothing special ... as we are still on talking terms.

 

Please stop writing like you text. I don't know if you are a teenager or not but please stop and use whole words and correct english.

 

Why would you and MM get together celebrate anything when you are suppose to be NC?

 

Leave him alone, he isn't in love wth you.

[georgia girl]

hello,

 

 

You are very much about to run out of choices. You are so out of control that your husband will very likely find out the full extent of your involvement and get fed up. At that point, from what I understand, you could be under severe societal pressure and perhaps even end up losing full custody of your child.

 

 

Why are you doing this for some guy you've known a few months who is no more willing to give you what you so desperately want from him? If someone had a high probability of 1) damaging me personally and 2) not being around to pick up the pieces, I would run as fast and as far away as I could. I can't even understand how a man who would let you down can even be attractive to a woman. It's totally beyond me.

 

 

I think you really need to do whatever it's going to take to get some reality in your life. You're not seeing it and it can cost you dearly. Please take care.