Lied to make myself (a guy) look older?

[dl02]

There is a woman who I work with who recently has been acting odd near me. We work in opposite ends of the building (so I haven't seen much of her, as I have only worked there 4 months) but do occasionally have to work together.

 

Firstly, around 3 months ago when we first met she passed me and smiled. I of course thought nothing of it. This occurred a few times.

 

However, recently we've been seeing more of each other. I saw her looking at me from behind (reflection) and when I looked around, she quickly stopped looking and started playing with her hair, nervously looking away and avoiding eye contact.

 

The largest give away was when I walked past her, said 'hello' (knowing she would look away) and tried to make eye contact. She blatantly looked away, staring at the wall and after a two second pause said 'hi' in an excited voice. Almost falling over.

 

Yesterday, I almost walked into her and said sorry. She looked away, said nothing and started having a laughing fit. She then avoided entering the same room I was going in. I was also talking to the cleaner and she joined in but refused to look at or speak to me (is this a sign if disinterest as she didn't even acknowledge me)?

 

Today, I was talking to her. She seemed fine briefly, smiled and looked down. I then (later) had another conversation. She smiled looked down and had an awkward look on her face (not smiling). Why was this?

 

The thing is, she seems fine with everybody else (or at least better, as she is a nervous person). I know I could be intimidating her but I don't know why. I always smile and act friendly. Is this a sign of attraction? Why does she glance, look away and almost never make eye contact?

 

I had a conversation with her. She initiated eye contact the whole time. I just hope she doesn't loose interest as I haven't seen her for 2 days. I joked and she burst out with the most awkward laugh. I've also seen her looking from a distance.

 

She smiled the whole time and looked at me. On the way out that day I passed her again, she looked down and shouted 'hello!'.

 

Are these positive signs of interest?

 

Well, I had to spend two hours with her today (work related). She started asking me more personal questions, such as what I do etc. and made eye contact while talking. She laughed at my jokes and was generally talkative. There were some awkward pauses though, even after I said something, but on the whole it went well. Her speech also seemed elevated. Obviously, I still feel like I'm speculating. She seemed to get on with her work, more so than talking but would often stop what she was doing? I'm really not sure if she is interested but suppose some of her signs suggest so?

 

One glaring issue. She's 26 and I'm 18. Basically, I told her I was 26 (pure chance I guessed her age because she excitedly said 'Wow! That's my age'. There's only 8 years difference and I've played along with it. Not for malicious purposes. I act older than I am. I did it purely to make myself seem older and be taken more seriously. Now what?

[jellybean89]

So you lied.

 

She may just be a shy person. She may be someone who doesn't have a lot of interaction with the opposite sex. She may have issues dealing with men.

 

But you lied. That is not cool.

 

Since you posted this in the OW/OM forum, I am assuming she is married? Or did you just post in the wrong forum?

 

Before doing anything else (and really, you are way over analyzing her and her actions...there may be a very good reason she doesn't respond in a way YOU think is ordinary...I think you are way over reaching thinking she is interested in you....tell her you lied about your age. 18 and 26 are night and day. 18 is a teenager; 26 is a man.

[stillafool]

Yes she's very interested and I doubt if she would care that you are 18.