Do women lose respect for a guy or view him as weak if he cries in front of her?

[NJ123]

I've heard about this on another forum & it seems a lot of women would view their boyfriend/husband as weak if he cried in front of her. Is this really true that a lot of women would consider breaking up with them & not view him the same anymore?

[CrystalCastles]

I've heard about this on another forum & it seems a lot of women would view their boyfriend/husband as weak if he cried in front of her. Is this really true that a lot of women would consider breaking up with them & not view him the same anymore?

 

What?!?!

 

That is just...ridiculous.

 

Frankly I kinda melt when I see an actor crying on TV. Dang. Its passionate. :love: Maybe I watch too many Bollywood movies lol. Shah Rukh Khan can somehow make crying look very sexy.

 

Anyways, I think there are situations that warrants crying, and situations that do not. Nobody likes a crybaby, man or woman. But if a man finds out that his mom passed away, why would him crying be a dumpable offense?! My dad cried when he found out he got cancer, should my mom have dumped him? No! A man is allowed to be vulnerable, he's a human being. And if a woman dumps him for that, well sorry but she's a heartless b!tch.

[Woggle]

My ex outright told me her attraction for me died when I shed tears at my best friend's funeral. Thank god all women are not like her but I think most men who have dated a lot have at least one story like this.

[NJ123]

My ex outright told me her attraction for me died when I shed tears at my best friend's funeral. Thank god all women are not like her but I think most men who have dated a lot have at least one story like this.

 

Yeah, I've heard about things like this. It's pretty ****ed up, but some women for some reason just automatically view the man as weak because they think a guy should be "manly & strong" & to never cry no matter what.

[newmoon]

depends what he's crying about. if it's a death or other major issue, that shows compassion and that he's caring, no biggie. but i've had bf's cry over things i have said that hurt their little feelings. that is a total turn-off.

[NJ123]

depends what he's crying about. if it's a death or other major issue, that shows compassion and that he's caring, no biggie. but i've had bf's cry over things i have said that hurt their little feelings. that is a total turn-off.

 

lol well what exactly did you say to them......

[ThaWholigan]

What?!?!

 

That is just...ridiculous.

 

Frankly I kinda melt when I see an actor crying on TV. Dang. Its passionate. :love: Maybe I watch too many Bollywood movies lol. Shah Rukh Khan can somehow make crying look very sexy.

 

Anyways, I think there are situations that warrants crying, and situations that do not. Nobody likes a crybaby, man or woman. But if a man finds out that his mom passed away, why would him crying be a dumpable offense?! My dad cried when he found out he got cancer, should my mom have dumped him? No! A man is allowed to be vulnerable, he's a human being. And if a woman dumps him for that, well sorry but she's a heartless b!tch.

Shah Rukh Khan is the only actor I've ever seen that can look happy, sad, funny and depressing in like 3 seconds of a scene. Remarkable screen presence.

 

Yeah - as for guys crying, it's not a turn off unless you always cry about sh*t all the time.

[Rejected Rosebud]

No I don't see crying as a sign of weakness in anybody, it's just not.

[Phoe]

I have MORE respect for a man if he can cry in front of me, because then I know he is comfortable enough and trusts me enough to do so.

 

 

Men who never cry and refuse to show emotion ever, turn me off. Too robotic.

[Darren2013]

I'm an animal lover and I cry when my pets die. If a woman can't understand that then fine. Better to find that out before we think about marriage instead of after.

[gaius]

Don't listen to them, it's a trap. Keep your crying to yourself.

[preraph]

I think it just depends on the circumstances. Guys often tear up during breakups even if it's them doing the breaking up. I'd expect anyone to cry if they lost a pet and if they didn't, as Elvis said, "They ain't no friend of mine." I wouldn't want anyone around, male or female who was a drama queen or king and just losing their s**t over nothing all the time, like some drunks do. But I think it's fine if the situation calls for it.

[Darren2013]

It's okay for a man to cry if his girlfriend breaks up with him but it's probably not a good idea to do it in front of her and for one reason. That might just give her an ego boost. There's just something about human nature that kind of gets a sense of satisfaction for the ego knowing that the other person is heartbroken over them.

 

So in that case when a woman is about to end it with me I don't cry in front of her. I go home and do all the crying in private. By crying in front of her you show her that you are putting her way up on that pedastool which inflates her ego. Besides once she ends it how I'm feeling about the breakup is really none of her business anymore.

[Tayken]

@OP....Hmmmm, that is a tricky one. I am sure some will say it shows that you have a sensitive side, and others might say with an inner voice that there can't be two emotional/flaky types in a relationship.

[WomenWubber]

It depends of their image of a man. Society plays a huge role in this.

[thefooloftheyear]

I dont think a woman would feel too good about a guy that came home and cried because his co-worker called him a jerkoff or his favorite team lost the big game....

 

Deaths to close family, grave illnesses and such are different...If a guy didnt tear up a bit there, it would be abnormal..

 

I do consider myself pretty resolute and dont really cry over anything unless its really something that hits hard to someone very close to me.....The most I ever cried, though, was when I held my baby daughter in the first seconds of her life..She looked up at me and I just completely fell apart......Crying my eyes out...It was awesome and I dont feel at all less of a man for it....

 

TFY

[Lernaean_Hydra]

Is someone dead? Are you dying? If not, don't cry in front of me. I hate it, I hate it, I hate it. But this is how I feel about anyone. Crying makes me so tremendously uncomfortable, male or female.

 

Is it something I'd breakup with a guy over? Probably not but it really hinges on the why. If he's crying because of something major, no, of course not.

[Under The Radar]

Sweet Buttery Jesus ...... Not one of these threads again

 

No, there is absolutely nothing wrong with crying or sharing emotions with a female ...... Trust me ...... It's not an automatic death sentence

 

Are there some women that would laugh in your face and walk away?

 

Yes, there are ...... but do you want to be around those types of people?

 

I'm thankful I don't know anyone like that.

 

Then again, nobody likes a whiny doormat that sheds tears over everything ...... Don't be THAT guy.

 

There is a healthy middle ground here.

 

Showing emotion and vulnerability requires tremendous courage ...... and can actually be attractive ...... regardless of what gender you are.

[bachdude]

Don't listen to them, it's a trap. Keep your crying to yourself.

 

Why be somebody you are not just to please someone else?

[Rejected Rosebud]

My boyfriend's grandma died recently and he cried, I was glad he did. It showed the depth of his love for her and his sadness that she was gone which makes him an extra great guy IMO.

[Radu]

Obviously it depends on the circumstance but in general ... yeah.

[Haydn]

I am known to open the floodgates on occasion. Never met a woman who had a problem with it. (Just one) But she was horrible;)

[gaius]

Why be somebody you are not just to please someone else?

It's like when you have to let out one of those giant farts. It's fine to be who you are, just don't do it in front of women.

Is someone dead? Are you dying? If not, don't cry in front of me. I hate it, I hate it, I hate it. But this is how I feel about anyone. Crying makes me so tremendously uncomfortable, male or female.

 

Is it something I'd breakup with a guy over? Probably not but it really hinges on the why. If he's crying because of something major, no, of course not.

Doing him a huge disservice if you don't break up with him. I get such douche chills when I see a guy crying, even at a funeral, and I'm not even a woman.

[Shepp]

I know its not really something you can say without getting s**t for but - I kinda think men shouldn't cry.

 

 

I'm not a complete d**k like obviously if someones died or something then I totally get it but for me it just, but I can't help but find it a bit strange to see a guy cry and if its over something trivial then sorry its not PC but I find it pretty ridiculous - and I can understand a girl thinking the same!

 

 

I don't know.. the men in my family don't cry, I've never seen my dad or grandad or uncle or brother cry, its not their way. The last time I can remember properly crying was when I was young kid and got stung by a weaver fish....stupid fish!

I'm not heartless, obviously like when my close mate died, when I put my dog to sleep, when my son almost died, on my wedding day, even over watching a team I support win the league or something - I choked up, your eyes sting, and a lump in your throat makes it hard to swallow, and you can't talk without your voice coming out all high and broken - that's just a natural reaction, you can't help it but, for me, crying serves no purpose, it fixes nothing, so what's the point!

 

 

I wouldn't judge a women as harshly (sorry again PC control) but that said my wife hardly ever cries and she's had life tougher than most and I kinda admire that! Though I made a joke when my boys must of been 3/4months and screaming the house down one evening, I picked our Frayz up and told him "come on now son - boys don't cry" - the missus gave me hell for that "...Our son can cry whenever the F he wants to and your gonna tell him that's okay" hahah!

[most_distant_galaxy]

Don't listen to them, it's a trap. Keep your crying to yourself.

 

Hahaha thats funny, but I guess it's somewhat true.

 

Im a bit of a cry baby, so if the man is also a cry baby it doesnt work very well. That said, I had a boyfriend whose eyes would water when he saw me crying. I think this is one of the nicest things I have seen on men, and people in general.