Do women lose respect for a guy or view him as weak if he cries in front of her?

[Got it]

Oh, come on, my friend, every single post by a woman in this thread refutes that, why are you so determined to think all women are bad and out to hurt you? If you're gonna put a question out here you should be willing to listen to the answers you get!!

 

I think outside of a man who cries all the time, and frankly that would be old with either sex and I feel some what manipulative, I don't think anyone sees a problem with it. The male posters seem to be more black and white on this not the women.

 

Now I remember the first time my ex husband cried in front of me, we were 18 and just started dating, and what was odd for me was he didn't know why he was crying. That stood out to me as I couldn't figure out how one doesn't know why they are feeling something but I have no issues with crying.

 

I don't want it to be used as a tool to manipulate but as an expression of grief, I'm cool.

 

Now I HATE to cry in front of others and try not to ever do it but I am far less severe with others. I come from a very stoic family so we don't show emotion outside of anger. That was always an appropriate feeling.

 

My husband is a big softy and cries over his kids, us, etc when he is overcome with emotion. I think it is the sweetest thing. And I love how comfortable he is with himself and his feelings. One of the things I love the most about him.

[bachdude]

Very true, but the thread is focused on women respecting, or losing respect for, a man if he cries in front of her. Different kettle of fish.

 

It all relates.

[Haydn]

Watching Bambi and welling up.

[thefooloftheyear]

Watching Bambi and welling up.

 

 

Or "Old Yeller".....Thats a tough one...

 

TFY

[carhill]

It all relates.

Specify how.

 

A man's emotional state and state of expression has nothing to do with any particular woman respecting him or not if he cries in front of her. That's outside of his control. He can of course control his own emotional expression.

[GemmaUK]

I've heard about this on another forum & it seems a lot of women would view their boyfriend/husband as weak if he cried in front of her. Is this really true that a lot of women would consider breaking up with them & not view him the same anymore?

 

 

No way!!

 

 

Not at all!

 

 

Many other things will make me lose respect for a guy but not tears..unless it was tears over something inconsequential in the scheme of things/life etc..

[El Oh El]

Depends what you cry for.

[NJ123]

Oh, come on, my friend, every single post by a woman in this thread refutes that, why are you so determined to think all women are bad and out to hurt you? If you're gonna put a question out here you should be willing to listen to the answers you get!!

 

Well, not necessarily true. Since some are saying they'd be turned off. And some are saying it's only okay if it's over something serious if not they'll be turned off. But yeah true the majority are saying it's not a big deal from this thread.

[bachdude]

Specify how.

 

A man's emotional state and state of expression has nothing to do with any particular woman respecting him or not if he cries in front of her. That's outside of his control. He can of course control his own emotional expression.

 

So is your point that I am off topic from this thread?

[todreaminblue]

I feel it takes strength of character to show vulnerability in emotion......it should never be viewed as weak i dont view it as weak.....personally i get embarassed when i cry ill try to hide it or turn away because i have been conditioned to do this....deb