Armegoggon Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 What are the true benefits for females of having a male partner who is younger than you? Let's say either dating or married. No sex related reasons. Link to post Share on other sites
TigerLilly78 Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 Usually men die younger then women I do believe? so there is that I guess ide rather trade the youth for the over all maturity of a guy at least my age just me tho.. but sadly thinking about it more a lot of guys my age want to act like teenagers these days it seams anyways.. Link to post Share on other sites
evanescentworld Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 ...and why "no sex related reasons".... if some of the reasons may be sex-related? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Not dated anyone much younger than 6 years younger, but have chatted to younger guys. They come across as less sceptical or sarcastic, more open to genuine relationships, not been hurt quite so much I suppose. They are able to be more flexible and willing to travel. I suppose just generally more innocent and open. Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Younger men are more open-minded. They are less likely to have chauvinistic attitudes toward women in general; they aren't locked into gender roles like older men are. They're not looking for someone to take care of them. They are actually able to enjoy a woman's success and support her aspirations. I am greatly encouraged by the evolution of the human race whenever I date a younger man. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Usually men die younger than women That's why I do it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Reminds me of a joke... Why do men die before women?? Because they want to..... TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
StalwartMind Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 (edited) I guess that entirely depends on your perspective on life and general mindset. There are men of all ages whom display excellent skill set and values in your chosen preference or desire. It feels way to limited to me, to think that a certain age above or below your own will provide more benefits. There are many statistics like mentioned, that support women living longer than men, however at the end of the day they are just statistics and while they can be valuable information, there are so many other random factors in life that can make them completely irrelevant. In the end it all comes down to the specific individual and with that said, then there really is no reason why you shouldn't want to date younger men. We all have different experiences with the opposite sex, the only unfortunate part is if/when we let our own judgement be clouded from bad experiences and deny ourselves the opportunity to meet or be with someone whom might give our life the exact value we've been searching for. Age is just a number, it means very little to me, I am capable of being serious, silly, compassionate, understanding, loving, humble, commanding, etc. it all depends on the situation and/or person I'm with. The better the understanding of others you have, the better off you'll be. This is where people are significantly different, because each person have very varied interests of how much effort they wish to put into anything. I enjoy getting involved in whatever given subject I'm currently doing, because it gives me more meaning, but in no way does that mean I don't enjoy things that are of brief time frame. Edited December 1, 2014 by StalwartMind Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 No sex related reasons? Hmm...but dont guys like younger women for sex related reasons? Anyway, its logistics for me. Many of the men my age are already taken. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 DH is younger than I am. He's the only younger man I ever dated. I love him for him. The age thing freaked me out in the beginning but now I rarely think about it anymore. Age is just a number. You have to go by who the person is. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 (edited) Regardless of the sexual aspect, for me, the "benefits" aren't any different than why I'd date a man my age or older. As I've said in previous posts, prior to my divorce, I've always been attracted to and dated older men. Since my divorce, I naturally hung on to that bracket but as hotpotato pointed out, I found that so many men my age or older were either gay, taken or looking for their own sugar-babies for sex or for procreation. Unfortunately, my options appeared to be limited and that's when I decided to open myself up to dating younger. And just like dating someone my age or older, some younger men can be players, shallow, lazy and immature while many more were intelligent, driven, communicative, engaging and open. Age has/had very little to do with anything. Currently I'm involved with a man who is 13 years younger. Now that we've been together almost 2 years, I rarely think about our age difference because it really is a non-issue for us. We are so compatible on every level not just sexually. It wasn't his age I was attracted to but the whole package he had to offer. If we were to break-up tomorrow, I'd reset back to zero and return to dating with an open mind, age be damned. Edited December 1, 2014 by Michelle ma Belle 3 Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Most men date older women usually for short term for sex related reasons. I know of older women that are turned off by younger men hitting on them because they feel they are after them for one thing. But let's say there's an attempt made the generational differences will cause issues as well as life states Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Just my own observations as a guy.... Never would ever consider an older woman...Why?, when there are so many available my own age and I already have a mom so I dont need another one.. I cant say for sure that a 30 year old guy has some "issues" for wanting to be with a 45 or 50 year old woman...Lets face it, physically a 30 year old woman is going to be more desireable, in just about all cases..yeah, I know thats not all of what a relationship is..just sayin' I guess you can say the same for the younger woman/older man scenario..Just seems like younger girls like the security(financial or otherwise) of an older man, so it seems more mainstream than the other way around... And you also hear that the 40ish-50 guys that are good looking or desirable dont really want anything to do with the average looking women their age...They either want super hotties with rockin bods(their age), or they just go younger..So those average women, if they want something better than a fat and bald schmuck their own age will explore the younger crowd.. TFY Link to post Share on other sites
martaldn Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 I recently noticed - in the websites I am using ( OkC and Tinder ) - that people of my age dont reply or message me at all.... so the younger are more than welcome young people are much more relaxed, willing to talk and meet up without messaging for weeks ( or months ). Im not for messaging forever before meeting up. I like to date younger though, they are more open minded and they are not stressed out about settling down so you can take it easy with them and also have some fun with no strings attached ( in case you want to have some fun ) whilst you are looking for the one even if this doesnt always exclude a possible long haul relationship with one of them. Plus they dont have many personal baggage like kids, old relationships ended badly... ect ect... Link to post Share on other sites
Mysterio Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Michelle Me Belle. At your age. Being with your 13 yrs jr Man. Do you want to get married again after 2 yrs. Or do you like the BF/GF status you have right now. Link to post Share on other sites
Mysterio Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 I have never really been with an older women. They have all been basically young or close to my age. If I could controll it. I would say the youngest I would date would be 10 yrs younger. The oldest may be 7. It all really depends on the woman I am with. Superficially. As Long as we are attracted to each other and really get each other for the most part. Age does not matter. I guess I don't want the woman looking like she could be my bio mother. Or on the other hand bio mom. At this stage of my life. I am more of a face person than body. I don't think I want too skinny or fat. I keep myself in shape so I would want a woman in the same vein. Not an olympic level athlete. Someone that takes pride in their apperence. If I had to break it down. I think that the girl next door type. Betty Cooper from the Archie comics is what I am looking for. You know. The Amy Adams. Rene Zellwagger type of girl next door type that is cool chill and down to earth. No one is perfect. Its just that at age 43. I want low drama and we just love each other and are there for each other beyond the Romantic/sex aspects of the relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Younger men are more open-minded. They are less likely to have chauvinistic attitudes toward women in general; they aren't locked into gender roles like older men are. They're not looking for someone to take care of them. They are actually able to enjoy a woman's success and support her aspirations. I am greatly encouraged by the evolution of the human race whenever I date a younger man. I agree. In my experience, they're also less inclined to be bossy or concerned about relative power. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 So I guess the consensus among women who have responded to this thread is that they are inexperienced, fun, subservient/obedient, good for NSA sex....Anything else? No confident, worldly, diverse, accomplished, wealthy, driven....? Y'know, the stuff women are supposed to be attracted to?... TFY Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 So I guess the consensus among women who have responded to this thread is that they are inexperienced, fun, subservient/obedient, good for NSA sex....Anything else? No confident, worldly, diverse, accomplished, wealthy, driven....? Y'know, the stuff women are supposed to be attracted to?... TFY Just because someone isn't bossy does not mean he is subservient/obedient. That's the relative power thinking that I was referring to, the undercurrent of "supposed to" or dominant/subservient stuff. I find younger men that I've dated to be more egalitarian in mindset and less likely to believe I'm supposed to be a certain way. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Just because someone isn't bossy does not mean he is subservient/obedient. That's the relative power thinking that I was referring to, the undercurrent of "supposed to" or dominant/subservient stuff. I find younger men that I've dated to be more egalitarian in mindset and less likely to believe I'm supposed to be a certain way. There was a bit of "tongue in cheek" to my comments....Dont take it too literally.. Just interesting that the older women that consider a younger guy, seem to throw out(or be willing to accept FAR less) of all of the age old truisms regarding traits that women are supposed to find attractive in a man..Not really sure why this is...*shrug*.... TFY Link to post Share on other sites
Priv Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Just because someone isn't bossy does not mean he is subservient/obedient. That's the relative power thinking that I was referring to, the undercurrent of "supposed to" or dominant/subservient stuff. I find younger men that I've dated to be more egalitarian in mindset and less likely to believe I'm supposed to be a certain way. Yep, starting to see the appeal in older women too, but that is beyond the scope of this thread Link to post Share on other sites
ComingInHot Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Maybe younger men have more of a chance at keeping up... I am active and play just as hard as I work. I love out loud and if I find that with someone younger, so be it.* 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Michelle Me Belle. At your age. Being with your 13 yrs jr Man. Do you want to get married again after 2 yrs. Or do you like the BF/GF status you have right now. Well that's the thing. I've done the big-white-wedding-white-picket-fence-2.5 kids so I no longer feel the pressure to categorize my relationship or direct it to fit into anyone's expectation including my own. This time around it's about being happy and feeling fulfilled in my relationship and with my partner on all levels. Neither one of us is concerned with having to put-a-ring-on-it in order to qualify our relationship. We are both 100% committed to one another so as long as it works for us, we'll continue on this path. Unlike women, most men don't dream of growing up and getting married and having a family. That was never the ultimate goal for my partner. He dreamed of finding a compatible life partner and if marriage and children were part of the equation, so be it. If it wasn't, so be it as well. It's not lost on me that I would probably be singing a very different tune had I NOT had my experiences. The goal now is to move closer to each other and carry on with our relationship pretty much as is If it ain't broke, why fix it? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Why can't we talk about the sex again? I have a crush who is 5 years younger than me. He is maybe like 80-90% of what i'd wan in a man. i don't feel like I'm throwing out 'truisms." He's pretty buff. He's manly. he's take charge. He has already asked me to be his gf after a few months, but I want him to get on his feet a lil more (i'd say the same for myself actually lol). He is not subservient or obedient by any means. He's already dropped the l-bomb,too. He's not inexperienced. He's already been engaged, and that's more than I can say. Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 There was a bit of "tongue in cheek" to my comments....Dont take it too literally.. Just interesting that the older women that consider a younger guy, seem to throw out(or be willing to accept FAR less) of all of the age old truisms regarding traits that women are supposed to find attractive in a man..Not really sure why this is...*shrug*.... TFY I think it might be because the age old truisms weren't all that true, or true as often as we might have assumed, and many of the traits you listed don't have much interpersonal value. Sure, it's attractive, but it's not enough. Once I went on a first date from OLD with a guy who opened the conversation with his vast wealth and wild success in international business. To me, it was the male equivalent of your date shoving her cleavage in your face. I guess some ladies go for the worldly wealthy schtick, just as some men go for the obvious hotty thing, but not as many as we might assume. Link to post Share on other sites
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