ComingInHot Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 There was a bit of "tongue in cheek" to my comments....Dont take it too literally.. Just interesting that the older women that consider a younger guy, seem to throw out(or be willing to accept FAR less) of all of the age old truisms regarding traits that women are supposed to find attractive in a man..Not really sure why this is...*shrug*.... TFY Hi TFY*, You already know I think you're great, with regards to this particular thread topic and my personal experience... I married the man roughly 6 years older and of all LS knows how that turned out, ie; Blech For me, maybe being asked out by younger men and my accepting is situational and psychological which could lead to something more healthy in the long run.?.?. It's not about who is bossy or has control or some kind of upper hand due to the age difference but about compatibility and character traits that work for each person. ...just be nice for starters. That's the first turn on for this old broad * 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 There was actually a time where I met an attractive woman on OK Cupid...said she was 43...but when I got her on the phone she said she was older than her stated age. Mind you, she was very attractive in her picture, and even more so in person. I let the fact that she kind of wanted to keep the anonymity of her age under wraps....so I gave it a couple of dates. I finally asked, "Okay, you can tell me your age now", she said, "A lady never tells her age" and I said..."Well, figuring that we're dating, that information could now be revealed since we're getting to know each other" She then tells me that she's never told her TRUE age ever since her 21st B-day. She was a model in her day, so perhaps it had something to do with her former profession. I was banking she was in her early 50's Apparently, me digging for her age wasn't something she didn't care for. Nor did I, so I moved on. Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 Im just gonna say it. A lot of younger guys are stallions in bed! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LisaSmith_1970 Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 Well, they are fun to be around, I went out on a date with a guy 6 years younger than me. They have no expectations, they are still in the party scene, the guy was in his mid 20's. Most likely they don't want to settle down yet or have never been married. So, that's what I like about them. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 Im just gonna say it. A lot of younger guys are stallions in bed! Not according to what I read on this site....Lot of stage fright, limp dicks and two pump chumps among the young'ns...Well, gee...almost a half a century and I dont know anything about those issues....Oh well, too bad for them..... And HP...I'm gonna take this opportunity to personally call you out here.. Werent you one of the bottle throwers on the other thread where the roles were reversed? If I am wrong, apologies in advance....But I clearly remember all of the bashing of the older guys that wanted to dip their toes in that pool of the tight and younger crowd... And what about poor old SD....I dont hear any of the women on this site saying ."Go for them" "They are fun and less nagging as the old shrews your age".."Less judgemental and less bossy, too!" Yeah, high fives for all!!! TFY Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 Not according to what I read on this site....Lot of stage fright, limp dicks and two pump chumps among the young'ns...Well, gee...almost a half a century and I dont know anything about those issues....Oh well, too bad for them..... And HP...I'm gonna take this opportunity to personally call you out here.. Werent you one of the bottle throwers on the other thread where the roles were reversed? If I am wrong, apologies in advance....But I clearly remember all of the bashing of the older guys that wanted to dip their toes in that pool of the tight and younger crowd... And what about poor old SD....I dont hear any of the women on this site saying ."Go for them" "They are fun and less nagging as the old shrews your age".."Less judgemental and less bossy, too!" Yeah, high fives for all!!! TFY It's true that it's interesting when the tables "turn". .......just saying.... Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 (edited) I think it might be because the age old truisms weren't all that true, or true as often as we might have assumed, and many of the traits you listed don't have much interpersonal value. Sure, it's attractive, but it's not enough. Once I went on a first date from OLD with a guy who opened the conversation with his vast wealth and wild success in international business. To me, it was the male equivalent of your date shoving her cleavage in your face. I guess some ladies go for the worldly wealthy schtick, just as some men go for the obvious hotty thing, but not as many as we might assume. Hey, as they say...I'm just reporting on what I see/read....Never read anything of women saying stuff like ...Dont worry...Just look for a "fun" guy that is great for a NSA sex buddy...Never... All we see/hear is "go for the guy with confidence, a high achiever, worldly, accomplished, well rounded."...Those are the all the things we as men are led to believe make an ideal partner...So which is it? Y'all are confusing us here.. What you are talking about in your example is a haughty jerkoff...Heck, there are just as many younger guys that are just as douchey...I dont think Id bail on seeking guys my age, if I were a woman, because I met a dick...Id just move on to the next one... Just seems like,(and i am not casting judgement on anyone here-just making an observation), that some older women no longer feel on an even ground with strong, good looking and successful men of their age...So they pluck some naive greenie that they can mold and train to their own liking....If I am wrong in your particular case, fine, not making a blanket statement here, just my own personal experiences.. Just for the record, my stance is that I feel that its best for both if the two people are close in age...Sometimes its hard to find that person if you are an "outlier", but then you just have to look harder... Oh, and Ill take a cleavage in the face any day....Just need to be careful...You can put out an eye with some of those cannons... TFY Edited December 2, 2014 by thefooloftheyear 1 Link to post Share on other sites
beach Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 They aren't ruined yet by their history. No meaning assigned to women in general. Like innocence in nice form. Their pain hasn't tarnished the fun. Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 (edited) Not according to what I read on this site....Lot of stage fright, limp dicks and two pump chumps among the young'ns...Well, gee...almost a half a century and I dont know anything about those issues....Oh well, too bad for them..... And HP...I'm gonna take this opportunity to personally call you out here.. Werent you one of the bottle throwers on the other thread where the roles were reversed? If I am wrong, apologies in advance....But I clearly remember all of the bashing of the older guys that wanted to dip their toes in that pool of the tight and younger crowd... And what about poor old SD....I dont hear any of the women on this site saying ."Go for them" "They are fun and less nagging as the old shrews your age".."Less judgemental and less bossy, too!" Yeah, high fives for all!!! TFY Not the ones ive been dealing with. I used to casually dated a guy who was 20 when I was 23. That man...dear jeezus...was a beast. He could have sex again and again. Btw he had a job in the navy, his own place, etc. Hmm im not sure if someone dating someone 5 years younger is the same as a 50 year old man trying 50 date a 20 year old woman. If im ever 50, 60, 70 and sexually harassing youngns please slap the shyt out of me! That being saud, my other crush is like 45 lol Im pretty open minded about age gaps but not to the point of absurdity. As ive said repeatedly, I was 20 years old and dated a man who was 36 for 3 years. But im gonna get called out for crushing a man 5 years younger. Not even sating (yet) just crushing. That means I shouldnt be allowed to complain when a man who is 30 40 50 years older than me is trying his luck or flat out stalking me. :rolleyes: Edited December 2, 2014 by hotpotato Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 Ladies, listen up. If you are dating someone slightly younger and dont agree with dating someone old enough to be your grandpa, you are a hypocrite. Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 Hey, as they say...I'm just reporting on what I see/read....Never read anything of women saying stuff like ...Dont worry...Just look for a "fun" guy that is great for a NSA sex buddy...Never... All we see/hear is "go for the guy with confidence, a high achiever, worldly, accomplished, well rounded."...Those are the all the things we as men are led to believe make an ideal partner...So which is it? Y'all are confusing us here.. What you are talking about in your example is a haughty jerkoff...Heck, there are just as many younger guys that are just as douchey...I dont think Id bail on seeking guys my age, if I were a woman, because I met a dick...Id just move on to the next one... Just seems like,(and i am not casting judgement on anyone here-just making an observation), that some older women no longer feel on an even ground with strong, good looking and successful men of their age...So they pluck some naive greenie that they can mold and train to their own liking....If I am wrong in your particular case, fine, not making a blanket statement here, just my own personal experiences.. Just for the record, my stance is that I feel that its best for both if the two people are close in age...Sometimes its hard to find that person if you are an "outlier", but then you just have to look harder... Oh, and Ill take a cleavage in the face any day....Just need to be careful...You can put out an eye with some of those cannons... TFY Yeah, blanket statements don’t work, and, no, that's not my experience. I don’t think he was haughty so much as extremely insecure and going for the quick sell. I date 10 years lower or higher, the 44- 64 range. They’re all grown up, aren’t likely to be molded or to be naïve greenies. And I can’t imagine wanting to train someone, so I guess we do have different friends and experiences. Now more women can provide for themselves and have the freedom and luxury to choose by lots of criteria that they might not have before. Some love a high achiever, worldly, accomplished type of personality, so I’m sure those men will still find many takers. Some women love other personalities. There are just other personalities that appeal to women as well. To each his or her own. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
beach Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 50 here playing with 30 fun guy... Hey, it's fun. Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 You have to admit, older women don't care as much about looks. :-) Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 Ladies, listen up. If you are dating someone slightly younger and dont agree with dating someone old enough to be your grandpa, you are a hypocrite. Who is saying that? I guess the only hypocrisy I point out is that when a guy gets it with a younger woman, all the aging, older women cry foul.....If you dont believe me, Ill start a fake thread on how I met a 26 year old with a rocking body thats a "lot of fun", isnt bossy and nagging and hasnt been jaded by life experiences, etc..(just using the same criteria the women used in this thread to describe the younger guy) There will be a brigade of nasty, bitter, angry older women calling me a creep, a loser, a sexual predator, robbing the cradle, she's only with me for my money, etc...Then, they'll call the woman a tramp, has daddy issues. insecure, etc... Notice...no guy called any women any names in this thread for going younger..None... So,if a guy says something(and really, I personally dont care who anyone feels twists their knobs-go for it), he gets slammed...Makes no sense..There isnt any even handedness in these instances ...So yeah, for some of those angry mob women, it is hypocrisy.. TFY Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 Who is saying that? I guess the only hypocrisy I point out is that when a guy gets it with a younger woman, all the aging, older women cry foul.....If you dont believe me, Ill start a fake thread on how I met a 26 year old with a rocking body thats a "lot of fun", isnt bossy and nagging and hasnt been jaded by life experiences, etc..(just using the same criteria the women used in this thread to describe the younger guy) There will be a brigade of nasty, bitter, angry older women calling me a creep, a loser, a sexual predator, robbing the cradle, she's only with me for my money, etc...Then, they'll call the woman a tramp, has daddy issues. insecure, etc... Notice...no guy called any women any names in this thread for going younger..None... So,if a guy says something(and really, I personally dont care who anyone feels twists their knobs-go for it), he gets slammed...Makes no sense..There isnt any even handedness in these instances ...So yeah, for some of those angry mob women, it is hypocrisy.. TFY Who is calling it hypocrisy? You apparently. The grand irony is that you called out me, one of the women who is actually quite liberal about age differences. Also, ironic ive been called names for not wanting tge adcances of grandpas-by men and women Lets see...I date younger I get called out. Dont want to date or be hit on a 55+ year old man in my 20s, I get called out. Whats a girl to do? Thats what happens when youre in the koolaid and dont know the flavor! Did you call me out because im one of the younger women in this thread.... x 1million Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 The older women I've dated (to maximum 5 years older which is not a big age difference) were initially hesitant to date me, because I had to prove my confidence and intellect. They didn't take me seriously until I opened my mouth and pursued them. Older women care less about looks, but more about personality, compatibility, etc.. Unfortunately, just because they were older, did not guarantee they knew what they wanted out of a relationship. The single, never married, no kids, older women were just as confused and lost as their younger counterparts when dealing with romance. Link to post Share on other sites
StalwartMind Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 The sooner everyone learn they can date/be with anyone whom they desire, regardless of age or whatever and stop caring what other people think about their chosen way of living, the better the world will be. This will of course never happen, but the more people that actually do grasp this incredibly "difficult" concept the more proud I'll be of my fellow humans. Enjoy life as you see fit and spend it with anyone whom give it meaning. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 Who is calling it hypocrisy? You apparently. The grand irony is that you called out me, one of the women who is actually quite liberal about age differences. Also, ironic ive been called names for not wanting tge adcances of grandpas-by men and women Lets see...I date younger I get called out. Dont want to date or be hit on a 55+ year old man in my 20s, I get called out. Whats a girl to do? Thats what happens when youre in the koolaid and dont know the flavor! Did you call me out because im one of the younger women in this thread.... x 1million I dunno...I just remember you being one of the angry mob of bottlethrowers in the "dating younger" thread...If you werent and I was mistaken, apologies in advance... And no one is going to call you out for not accepting the advances of an old man...You are just making stuff up,now...Find me one quote or post that substantiates your claim, because I aint buyin that... TFY Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 (edited) I dunno...I just remember you being one of the angry mob of bottlethrowers in the "dating younger" thread...If you werent and I was mistaken, apologies in advance... And no one is going to call you out for not accepting the advances of an old man...You are just making stuff up,now...Find me one quote or post that substantiates your claim, because I aint buyin that... TFY No, im not. Ive been called ageist on ls for complaining about a 50something man hitting me. Once again, you know not whereof you speak. I was in those grandpa magnet threads. Why would I speak against men dating younger women when I dated a man nearly twice my age? I think you called me out because im younger than some of the ladies here and you think im an easier target. Funny how some or the examples of hypocrisy you gave, I never said or said the opposite in this very thread. Edited December 2, 2014 by hotpotato Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 It amazes me how one bitter person can high jack a decent thread and turn this into a bashing session for their own amusement. Thanks for spoiling the thread. I'm sure this wasn't what the OP was hoping for. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 No, im not. Ive been called ageist on ls for complaining about a 50something man hitting me. Once again, you know not whereof you speak. I was in those grandpa magnet threads. Why would I speak against men dating younger women when I dated a man nearly twice my age? I think you called me out because im younger than some of the ladies here and you think im an easier target. Funny how some or the examples of hypocrisy you gave, I never said or said the opposite in this very thread. I didn't/dont know how old you are and couldnt care less....But Id still love to see where anyone would knock you for rejecting an old man..But whatever.. Enjoy your holiday and have a great New Year! TFY Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 I didn't/dont know how old you are and couldnt care less....But Id still love to see where anyone would knock you for rejecting an old man..But whatever.. Enjoy your holiday and have a great New Year! TFY Oh yes, ive been called ageist. Ive been knocked for saying old/elderly men should know they are not attractive to young women. Ive been told a man has tge right to chase whoever, and so on. Its an old thread in the general discussion forum. You called me out personally and YOU can look it up. I still want to hear the logic for calling me out about things other people said about younger men. Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 Regardless of the sexual aspect, for me, the "benefits" aren't any different than why I'd date a man my age or older. . Same here. The same thing I'd want in a older man are the same ones I'd want in a younger one. If Im going to date a want a good partner-one who gets me, one who is strong, etc. i will say that I care more about the age gap than he does. It amazes me how one bitter person can high jack a decent thread and turn this into a bashing session for their own amusement. Thanks for spoiling the thread. I'm sure this wasn't what the OP was hoping for. Yup. Somebody got butthurt. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 It amazes me how one bitter person can high jack a decent thread and turn this into a bashing session for their own amusement. Thanks for spoiling the thread. I'm sure this wasn't what the OP was hoping for. It's the classic wiggie forum argument: Someone asks what you like about raspberries and when you answer, someone else decides that you're saying that you hate bananas. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 (edited) It amazes me how one bitter person can high jack a decent thread and turn this into a bashing session for their own amusement. Thanks for spoiling the thread. I'm sure this wasn't what the OP was hoping for. Yeah, Im a jerk and ill admit to amuse myself with this site at times, but nah, life is too good for me to ever be bitter, ....Sounds like some people just arent secure enough in their unconventional choices so they need validation from others...Otherwise why bother even asking?... Sorry if I raised awareness and added a bit of spice to the high five and "trophy for everyone" session ...Carry on. TFY Edited December 2, 2014 by thefooloftheyear Link to post Share on other sites
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