Do girls enjoy not replying to messages?

[guest569]

It sounds odd but that's the norm these days. In the real world I would respond if a man approached me. Online, I guess it may be a case of not having time, being overwhelmed or being lazy. I have had men ignore me too, you get used to it and learn to try not to get your hopes up until you meet them.

[smg15]

It sounds odd but that's the norm these days. In the real world I would respond if a man approached me. Online, I guess it may be a case of not having time, being overwhelmed or being lazy. I have had men ignore me too, you get used to it and learn to try not to get your hopes up until you meet them.

 

If I get ignored I just chalk it up to a bad pic lol

[Thegreatestthing]

I'll go for superiority,my guy friend messaged me two weeks ago and even though I've been thinkng about him a quite a bit I have not replied because I like having the power :eek:no not really ,maybe,it's a combination of what if he doesn't reply then I feel off,can this actually go anywhere,I want to reply but somehow I feel I can't.

 

It most cases though,it means the girl is not interested My situation is rare.

 

 

It always makes me feel inadequate. All they have to do is write something back to acknowledge they understood or got your message. Instead, often the reply is delayed hours, days, or even never replying at all..

 

Why do women do this? To make themselves feel superior? Or because they think they are playing the game of cat and mouse properly?

 

I find it extremely rude and makes me lose interest immediately.

[smg15]

I know I would get annoyed if a woman send back a thanks lol

[Haerts]

Understand something: it's all a game. Let me be honest with you, even with my exboyfriend, I often caught myself delaying to answer his texts or calls just so I could show that I have a life and I'm not staring at the phone the whole day. I don't wanna seem too easy, even though sometimes I was dying to answer, I'd still wait some. I do that with all the guys that appear in my life.

 

Unfortunately, if you show too much interest, the other one runs away. That's how it's always been for me, so that's how I see it.

 

I haven't ever not responded, blocked or anything like that, though. There are ways you can show you're not interested while being polite, ie refusing invitations and not suggesting anything, not starting conversations, ending them as soon as possible, and stuff that won't immediatly show them you're not interested, but they will get the idea. It always seemed like the best way for me, it goes slowly, the person will notice and eventually stop. Unless they ask me, then I always give them a honest answer.

[smg15]

Understand something: it's all a game. Let me be honest with you, even with my exboyfriend, I often caught myself delaying to answer his texts or calls just so I could show that I have a life and I'm not staring at the phone the whole day. I don't wanna seem too easy, even though sometimes I was dying to answer, I'd still wait some. I do that with all the guys that appear in my life.

 

Unfortunately, if you show too much interest, the other one runs away. That's how it's always been for me, so that's how I see it.

 

I haven't ever not responded, blocked or anything like that, though. There are ways you can show you're not interested while being polite, ie refusing invitations and not suggesting anything, not starting conversations, ending them as soon as possible, and stuff that won't immediatly show them you're not interested, but they will get the idea. It always seemed like the best way for me, it goes slowly, the person will notice and eventually stop. Unless they ask me, then I always give them a honest answer.

 

 

I got a message from a girl tonight saying....."can you answer your phone sometimes?"

 

lol

[phineas]

Match has a "No thanks" link you click on the message. I click that and then delete.

 

Sounds like a lot of work.

I wasn't aware there were that many butt-hurt guys on match.com.

 

Is that a new feature or something only women have available?

 

OP needs to learn care less.

women don't like guys who get upset over them not responding.

 

I honestly can't remember who I send messages to on dating sites, social media, over text ect. for the most part.

I send it, if I don't get a response within the day i honestly do just forget about them.

Focus on the women who do respond.

If no women respond, focus on yourself.

Edited December 1, 2014 by phineas

[Mascara]

Well OP. It's because you either get guys arguing back with you when you say "sorry not interested" or you get a torrent of abuse. Even those who say "please reply even if it's to say no"

[nofeelings22]

Side question.

 

What about people who purposefully delay text responses?

 

A girl I see on and off likes to delay text responses. I text her, about 24 hour later, she responds. Every time. She never misses the response. She just delays it. I've seen her do it to others when I'm spending time with her too.

 

Why would anyone do this?

 

I reply instantly to everyone because I don't have the time or patience to plan out the timing on my text messages. I get the reply out and move to the next one. How are people able to keep track when they are delaying responses?

 

And why put all the time and effort into delaying responses?

[smg15]

Side question.

 

What about people who purposefully delay text responses?

 

A girl I see on and off likes to delay text responses. I text her, about 24 hour later, she responds. Every time. She never misses the response. She just delays it. I've seen her do it to others when I'm spending time with her too.

 

Why would anyone do this?

 

I reply instantly to everyone because I don't have the time or patience to plan out the timing on my text messages. I get the reply out and move to the next one. How are people able to keep track when they are delaying responses?

 

And why put all the time and effort into delaying responses?

 

 

I think you should stop texting her

[Molly Hooper]

Women delay their reply for varying reasons.

 

I have some friends who absolutely, 100% SWEAR by not answering the first time a guy calls and not responding to his texts for a few hours. They will also cite dating books that advise on this as well. They believe that 1) this makes them appear busy - like they have a life and are not waiting around for a guy to text them, and 2) this makes the guy wonder what the girl is up to and waiting by his phone for her reply - i.e.: it keeps him thinking about her.

 

I think my friends are stupid.

They are also almost pathologically single.

So take that how you will.

 

Other women simply don't have the same accessibility to their phone throughout the day as most - certain jobs (such as a teacher) do not lend themselves to checking their phone immediately. In these cases, though, you would generally know that she has limited access to her phone and so she wont seem like a game player.

 

I tend to lean in the direction of the text-the-person-any-damn-time-you-want-to method. I want a partner who likes me and wants to hear from me. Not one who is counting the minutes it took me to reply and deciding if that makes me more desirable.

[40 Fonzarelli]

Girls are just as superficial as men. Why don't you work on yourself, buy some stylish clothes, start working out, etc. If that doesn't work, then meet girls in real life. Women on dating sites are on a pedestal.

[Jame22]

Side question.

 

What about people who purposefully delay text responses?

 

A girl I see on and off likes to delay text responses. I text her, about 24 hour later, she responds. Every time. She never misses the response. She just delays it. I've seen her do it to others when I'm spending time with her too.

 

Why would anyone do this?

 

I reply instantly to everyone because I don't have the time or patience to plan out the timing on my text messages. I get the reply out and move to the next one. How are people able to keep track when they are delaying responses?

 

And why put all the time and effort into delaying responses?

 

I think intentionally delaying responses occasionally is a good strategy but only 1 to 2 hours max. 24 hours is way too long.

 

Why would anyone do this? 24 hours later; I have no idea. But if it's 1 or 2 hours they're probably just trying to appear busy/not desperate.

[smg15]

I think intentionally delaying responses occasionally is a good strategy but only 1 to 2 hours max. 24 hours is way too long.

 

Why would anyone do this? 24 hours later; I have no idea. But if it's 1 or 2 hours they're probably just trying to appear busy/not desperate.

 

24 hours makes no sense, I would say a hour or two

[almond]

This thread hurt my head to read.

 

Chill pills guys - pop some

 

Overanalysing things like this really takes the fun out of it all, and gets you nowhere good.

[Giggle]

I'm on the keeping it real side. I reply when I feel like it unfortunately for some, other things are more interesting when their message hits my phone. My bf .. I blow up his phone. He likes it. That's just the way we are and I've never been in a relationship like this. His job actually gives him all sorts of time to reply, but sometimes there are 10 from me before he gets the chance to reply. It's long distance so not that weird one day I counted and got to 300 before giving up counting.

 

But mirroring their level of texting is just automatic. I have a friend who I text and sometimes we both chatter for half an hour. Other times I will have left a couple and it's hours before it replies because he's busy. Sometimes there are two sitting there from him that I never really replied to because I had nothing to say to what he said. And he'll be the first to message a different day because it just happens that way.

 

Another friend we mostly send memes lol. And sometimes he send the stupidest things so I don't replying.

 

A mixture of my level of interest and mirroring the other person and just how that particular "relationship" goes. Stop thinking about it so much. Whatever comes naturally. Dating rules are silly unless you aren't actually interested in finding somebody who likes who you are. If they aren't interested.. Well, they just aren't. Shrug. Their loss cause I'm awesome

[Toodaloo]

There are several reasons why I wouldn't respond.

 

1. The message leaves no precursor to further conversation so there is nothing to say.

2. I don't log on that often. Once a day at most. Not logged on since yesterday morning and have no inclination to do so for a few days.

3. I am doing something else that demands my time and can't answer yet.

4. The guy has become a pain in the ass and I don't want to talk to him.

 

That said I am generalizing for all texts, emails, phone calls as so far not had a single message on OLD. Its been days... but am I worried? Nope. My life is full enough as it is OLD is simply another way to meet new people and broaden the potential. That is all.

 

I have sent a few messages and not had a response. About half haven't logged on and about half have viewed my profile but not continued the conversation on. They don't know me at all so why worry about it? My email inbox is buzzing with offers from interflora and for adventure experiences. I am actually more interested in them.

 

My advice is go out. Do some fun stuff. Join a club or take up a new hobby. Call your friends. Then you will not notice if they call or not... Really and honestly - it will not matter and you will not notice.