A third date means she is interested?. I can't read this girl´s intentions

[rov]

Hi everyone. I met a girl on tinder exactly a week ago and dated her for the first time on monday from last week. We had a great time, she spent three hours with me. Our conversation went very well in the three hours. She asked me what plans I had for the weekend and told me that she she wanted to go to the movies to see bird man (I didn't invited or anything when she said that. She asked me what hobbies I had and I told her that I play tennis , she told me that she plays since she was a child, so she said that one day we should play together. At the end of the date I walked her to her car and asked her if she wanted to go to the movies on the weekend and she said that yes, that we could go to see bird man. She said goodbye and kissed me on the cheek.

 

At the end of the date I texted I had a great time and that i enjoyed her company and that I expected to see her on the weekend. She answered this : Me too. It sound like a good plan to go to the movies on the weekend. The next day I texted her and I asked her how her day was going etc, she answered kindly and didn´t took a long time to answer my texts.

 

The next day she texted: Good Morning!. This is the only time she has incited contact. I was surprised that she contacted me first. I proceeded to ask her out on the weekend and she accepted and told me that she was free on friday. After this I told her that I wanted to see the movie a hard day´s night by the beatles and she told me: lets go together!!, I was surprised by her answer. We texted all day long till the night. On thursday I just sent her a text wishing good day and she said: The same for you.

 

On friday she sent no texts neither me. I picked her up at 7 at her house and we went to the movies. I spent 5 hours with her. Conversation went great and we had a good time. She only took out her cellphone one time to answer texts in the 5 hours. She wanted me to sip from her drink. In the movies she whispered to my ears a couple times. I played some Mozart for her in the piano that was int he mall, she seemed to enjoy it. The only physical contact was when I told her she had big hands an i grabbed her hand softly and compared it to mine. I asked her that if she was free on Sunday so we could go to play tennis and she said to me that we could go another day instead of sunday because she wanted to rest because she had a tiring week. At the end of the date there was just a kiss in the cheek and she told me that we could go soon to see the movie a hard day´s night by the beatles. I sent her a text when I arrived home telling her that I had a great time and that I enjoyed her company, she was asleep when she received my text and she answered it at the next day´s afternoon telling me: Me too, I fell asleep quickly because I was very tired and today I had a complicated day because I awakened very late and went in a rush to my grandmother´s house to eat with my cousins.

 

Yesterday I texted her in the afternoon and told her if she wants to go to the movies with me on thursday, she accepted quickly, she said: I agree, it sounds good. So on thursday Ill pick her up at 8. I don't know where i stand with her, I mean someone that has no interest would not accept three dates in less than 2 weeks but at the same time there have been no kisses and I am the one that always initiates contact with her except for one time that she initiated first. I am thinking in buying her some chocolates and try to hold her hand during the movie and even try a kiss to see what is going on. Any suggestions? Thanks!!!

[doeblin]

• She accepts the dates, never flakes
  
• She answers your texts promptly
  
• She reinforces you to go see the movie together
  
• Sends you a good morning text
  

 

 

It is obvious she is interested.

Why would you think she isn't?

 

 

Go for the kiss.

[rov]

• She accepts the dates, never flakes
  
• She answers your texts promptly
  
• She reinforces you to go see the movie together
  
• Sends you a good morning text
  

 

 

It is obvious she is interested.

Why would you think she isn't?

 

 

Go for the kiss.

 

 

Well it leaves me wondering if she is interested because she has only initiated contact one time. There has been no kisses or physical contact in the first two dates. :S

[doeblin]

Well it leaves me wondering if she is interested because she has only initiated contact one time. There has been no kisses or physical contact in the first two dates. :S

 

Most ladies want to see you make an effort in the first month. That is why she is waiting for you to text first.

 

Same with the kisses and touching. You're the one who has to start and escalate things.

[rov]

Most ladies want to see you make an effort in the first month. That is why she is waiting for you to text first.

 

Same with the kisses and touching. You're the one who has to start and escalate things.

 

But does she sound interested?. Are chocolates and flowers ok for the third date?

Edited December 1, 2014 by rov

[doeblin]

But does she sound interested?

 

YES, she does sound interested.

What did you expect? Dry-hump you in the mall while you are playing Mozart?!

 

Are chocolates and flowers ok for the third date?

 

I would say it's a bit too much.

Just be your normal funny self.

Don't be afraid to touch her... & go for the kiss.

Edited December 3, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[rov]

YES, she does sound interested.

What did you expect? Dry-hump you in the mall while you are playing Mozart?!

 

 

 

I would say it's a bit too much.

Just be your normal funny self.

Don't be afraid to touch her... & go for the kiss.

 

Ill follow your advice and save the chocolates and flowers for later. But this time Ill try to hold hands with her at least and if things go well there should be kiss this time

Edited December 3, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Ruby Slippers]

I agree that she likes you and is probably waiting for you to get more physically affectionate and kiss her!

[rov]

And well yesterday I had the third date with her and had a good time, we laughed a lot, we went for dinner and then we went to the movies. She seemed interested in our conversations, never took her cellphone out, looked a lot to my eyes but there was still no kiss or holding hands, I tried to make a move during the movies and tried to hold her hand but she had crossed arms almost all of the time. I told her that if she wanted to go to a concert of Ringo Starr in February with me and she said yes. At first she said no because she said that she was short of money to buy the ticket but I told her that it was an incitation from me and that I will buy her ticket so she said yes. At the end of the date she said goodbye with a kiss on the cheek. Am I losing my time with her or she might be taking things slow?. She broke up with her boyfriend 3 months ago, they lasted 2 years. She told me that they became a couple after three 3 dates with this last guy and then she realized that he wasn't what she expected. Should I speak with her and ask her what are her intentions or just continue dating her?. I don't know what to do.

Edited December 5, 2014 by rov

[rdet123]

And well yesterday I had the third date with her and had a good time, we laughed a lot, we went for dinner and then we went to the movies. She seemed interested in our conversations, never took her cellphone out, looked a lot to my eyes but there was still no kiss or holding hands, I tried to make a move during the movies and tried to hold her hand but she had crossed arms almost all of the time. I told her that if she wanted to go to a concert of Ringo Starr in February with me and she said yes. At first she said no because she said that she was short of money to buy the ticket but I told her that it was an incitation from me and that I will buy her ticket so she said yes. At the end of the date she said goodbye with a kiss on the cheek. Am I losing my time with her or she might be taking things slow?. She broke up with her boyfriend 3 months ago, they lasted 2 years. She told me that they became a couple after three 3 dates with this last guy and then she realized that he wasn't what she expected.

 

 

I think you really need to make a move on her, otherwise she is going to lose interest. If she is giving you kisses on the cheek then she obviously likes you. Next time you guys hang out I would just grab her and kiss her. I fear you'll lose the sexual chemistry if you don't hold her hand or anything physical with her. Not saying anything big, but just a kiss or something

[rov]

I think you really need to make a move on her, otherwise she is going to lose interest. If she is giving you kisses on the cheek then she obviously likes you. Next time you guys hang out I would just grab her and kiss her. I fear you'll lose the sexual chemistry if you don't hold her hand or anything physical with her. Not saying anything big, but just a kiss or something

 

But the kisses on the cheek happen just when we say hi at the beginning of the date and at the end of the date when she says goodbye haha.

[ponchsox]

A third date means if you play your cards right, you will get laid. If not, she's a goner.

[losangelena]

I agree with everyone else. She is showing clear indicators of interest and is waiting for you to step up. She's probably wondering if you like her since you haven't tried to kiss her or hold her hand by now. What are you waiting for, a written invitation?

 

Women, by and large, have been conditioned to wait for the man to initiate, especially at the beginning. Go for it!

[rov]

I texted her today and asked her out on Thursday and she agreed, I told her that I will not tell her until thursday where we will hang out, that it is a surprise (I will take her to the bowling alley) , she was very curious asking where we will be going but I didn't tell her. This is the fourth date. Any tips for initiating more physical contact with her like holding hands with her and how can I initiate a kiss?

[travelbug1996]

You have to kiss her. If she rejects you then stop asking her out. We want guys to kiss us whom we like. How old are you? Sounds like you don't have a lot of experience with the first kiss. Well, just do it. Even if its awkward at first you gotta go for it.

 

Man up buddy.

[rov]

You have to kiss her. If she rejects you then stop asking her out. We want guys to kiss us whom we like. How old are you? Sounds like you don't have a lot of experience with the first kiss. Well, just do it. Even if its awkward at first you gotta go for it.

 

Man up buddy.

 

How can I initiate more physical contact and the kiss with her?

[losangelena]

Well, you're bowling, so that's good. Get cheeky with it—pretend to show her how to throw the ball (I know she knows). Instead of giving her high-fives when she gets a strike or spare, give her hugs.

 

You're probably not going to want to start making out at the bowling alley, so what are y'all doing afterward? The guy I'm dating now kissed me on our second date. We'd gotten ice cream and were sitting on a bench eating and talking. I could tell he was nervous (so nervous), but even he worked up the nerve eventually. He managed to take my hand by complementing my manicure (maybe not smooth, but it worked), and at that point, I knew what was coming.

 

If this girl is into it, she'll help things along at a certain point. I've had some guys just kind of kiss me out of the blue (like grabbing me), but I think getting into a place where you have some time to ease into it is a bit better. If you're having a lot of eye contact and smiling and touching, it's kind of a natural step. That can be on a park bench or in a booth at a bar or restaurant—wherever, really.

[elaine567]

She has gladly accepted four dates and is happy and sounds interested in you.

Holding hands is no big deal if you do not feel ready for the kiss, but I doubt she would be shocked if you did kiss her.

[losangelena]

There's a woman on here who's complaining that she's been out several times with a guy who's made no moves. Maybe you two are dating each other!

[rov]

There's a woman on here who's complaining that she's been out several times with a guy who's made no moves. Maybe you two are dating each other!

 

Buying some flowers for there this time would be too much or it is a good idea?

[losangelena]

Dude, if she likes you, they will be appreciated.

 

Spread your wings and fly, little bird. We do not have to hold your hand each step of the way.

[rov]

I do not have much experience with first kisses. Thats why I ask how to initiate more physical contact with her. Any tips?. thanks a lot!

[GSP21]

I do not have much experience with first kisses. Thats why I ask how to initiate more physical contact with her. Any tips?. thanks a lot!

 

I actually have the same concern. I'm fine with holding hands etc. but I'm a little paranoid about swooping in for the kiss. Part of me doubts whether she really wants it or not and if she'll consider it harassment lol.

[doeblin]

I do not have much experience with first kisses. Thats why I ask how to initiate more physical contact with her. Any tips?. thanks a lot!

 

Do you kiss her on the cheek when you meet her? Where I live it's customary/not that weird.

So say hi & kiss on the cheek. Now throughout the date touch her lightly on her elbows, her shoulders, her back etc. A light touch every few minutes will become normal. You need to incorporate touching in your communication, so touch her when you are saying something to her.

Hug her. And then kiss.

[Georgia2014]

You could always ask her if you can kiss her. Guys have actually asked me that before. I did like it they asked me first before kissing me.