mefisto Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Have you ever met the girl/boy who you liked very-very much and yet failed to attract them? I found this girl online, who is absolutely gorgeous and sharing a lot of my interests. I wrote to her and we started to have very warm and beautiful discussions and finally i convinced her to meet me. I thought that our date went great and we build some attraction between us, but i was wrong. She became cold and distant online, doesnt want to meet again, because she "doesnt have time". I feel so devastated and incredibly sad. How to cope with this? Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Sadly, it happens all too often, but getting over it is harder when you have less dating experience than it is when you have more. With more experience comes the realization that there are other dates as good or better, WHO ARE ALSO INTO YOU AS MUCH AS YOU ARE INTO THEM. It takes time to find such a match, but eventually you will if you keep trying and don't settle for someone just because they are into you but don't meet your standards. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 with online i think its par for the course......a lot of dead ends...makes it easier to avoid the person though...block them from all social media.......and move on in real life it makes it hard especially if you belong to the same circle.....because when you see them you are reminded on how they feel about you and it hurts......all the old feelings you push aside come back and you are conscious of them in the room.....and its not possible to avoid them......or your feelings......which really does suck.......the best thing to do is to try to eb courteous polite and respectful and go easy on yourself no matter how awkward you feel....had this situation happen and even though i have dated others since being rejected.....the feelings came flooding back...i handled myself well i thought...with a sinkign heart........i did feel awkwardness....normally the only people who are cold or ignorant with me are really quite spiteful mean spirited people.....i dont believe that this guy can be or is in any way ignorant spiteful or mean spirited....i just cant believe that he is he has a faith that is beautiful and bright...........because i have feelings for him and i dont fall for guys like that.....ever..they remind me of my father..he loathes me ........and i seek out compassionate lovers who want to spend time with me......... with time anything gets easier....and that is the mantra i say to myself in these type of situations....limit time you spend with that person.....or interact with them...the less time you spend with them ....feelings do fade....my love language is time........that includes feelings of rejection become easier to deal with....with me its not the rejection.....its the possibility of having feelings for an uncaring individual that bothers me completely, makes me feel sick.......it sinks my heart.....its not for me....i need a match ....not a sledgehammer to who i am.............deb Link to post Share on other sites
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