Stories of your ex coming back?

[love2ride]

Not sure if there is already a thread about this but I would like to hear of any stories of exes coming back after you thought it was impossible it would ever happen. Would love to hear of the circumstances, why you broke up and how long it took for them to contact you.

[NopeNah]

All of my ex's have came back,I'm awesome! Except for the fact that I allowed them to. I don't care if I ended it or they did. It's never, in my opinion, to get back together. If there was financial issues, they bailed and don't deserve to reap the rewards once that's fixed. If they cheated.. they'll do it again. People don't change, circumstances change.

[tory1012]

All my ex's come back too - My most recent ex came back and I tried to make it work but I had met somebody else and my feelings had changed. 2 months post BU.

 

When an ex breaks up with you and you are finally past the denial stage - you are actually able to see things way more clearly. My feelings for him had changed and I was trying to force something that wasn't there anymore. He was really upset when I dumped him lol. But so did I when he dumped me.

[Invictus01]

Dude, you are torturing yourself. What others did and what happened might be heart warming stories but really has no effect on what might or might not happen with you. People are different, situations are different. Who knows how things might turn out.

[SoThatHappened]

While I do agree with Invictus, I've been where you are now l2r and understand why you ask this question.

 

It gives you hope and makes you feel better when you hear about others' exes coming back.

 

I don't miss being at that stage, but I was definitely there.

 

My long-term ex came back multiple times over 17 years. Most of the times I broke up with her. Sometimes it was because we were going to different colleges or lived in different cities after school. But we kept getting back together.

 

My last ex I dated for 2 months. She left me to go back to an ex of hers that lived in the same town (we are an hour apart). I figured I didn't have any hope at all - she knew him, loved him, and could see him anytime she wants. It hurt me bad, but I had to move on.

 

Then 2 months later she came back to me, only to fool around with her coworker 7 months later. I knew better than to get back with her, but I let her come back into my life. #facepalm

 

So yes, exes do come back. But, you're better off trying to move on and improve yourself either way. From your original thread, I remember reading what you posted about her. Doesn't sound like you should get back together with her anyway. She doesn't sound like a good person.

[love2ride]

Ya I know she isn't a good person, my family sees it, my friends see it. Just something about her. I guess i'm just hoping so the very least I know that she did care. I don't know. I'm trying to move on, i'm in NC and ignoring her breadcrums she texts once in a while. One day I want her to come back so I can give her the middle finger. Thanks guys

[dumbass2]

Ya I know she isn't a good person, my family sees it, my friends see it. Just something about her. I guess i'm just hoping so the very least I know that she did care. I don't know. I'm trying to move on, i'm in NC and ignoring her breadcrums she texts once in a while. One day I want her to come back so I can give her the middle finger. Thanks guys

 

Kinda of funny, my friends say the same thing about my ex and even I question deep down that she may not be right for me, but I still care about her and have feelings for her.

 

Here's the thing and I've learned this first hand, she DID care about you when you were together. I guarantee this. she may not now, but now doesn't matter. You two are not together and accept that you wont be again. No need to feel like you want to give her the middle finger. you had plenty of good times when you were together and neither of you will forget them. Work on yourself going forward and improve yourself for your next relationship and that will come in time, but prepare yourself now for it so you'll be ready. Do not wait around on her. She is still controlling your mind, but in actuality you do. Don't let this happen to you. I wasted a good 3 months just thinking about my ex and wondering if she ever cared when I could have been improving myself, which I finally did. It's not easy, but nothing worthwhile in life is. Take care of yourself and stop worry about her or what she thinks or thought about you. My ex finally contacted me out of the blue months down the road after I went NC to heal and I found out that she thought about me all the time and remembered so much that I fell on the floor. Again, I wasted so much time wondering and torturing myself over this and all for nothing. I should never have worried about what she thought. All that mattered in the end was that I new I had a great time and I showed that I could love someone.

[IfiKnewThen]

i have had ex's come back too. 1 in particular....took 10 years but did. and i didnt know but he tried to contact me several times in that time period.

 

also, i broke if off with someone and came back. so i know it does and can happen

[me85]

All my exes came back but I'm not with any of them today. Nuff said about that.

[radiodarcy]

He came back to tell me his girlfriend was pregnant with his kid. And this was after 7 months of my having been NC. Exes can and do come back - - but it's not always in the way we envision.

[xUnknown]

Mine came back. 3 months later. I took a month to think about it, started dating again for 5-6 months. Became official again, broke up in October.

 

She still wasn't happy with herself. Lots going on in my life and her life. She didn't want to break up, but said she couldn't ask for a break, because she knows I wouldn't give it to her. She said she needed to work on her, I broke it off.

 

Ex's are ex's for a reason. I regret taking her back. All it did was push another person who I've cared about my whole life away even more. I'm not starting to rebuild that friendship. Lesson Learned.