How To Handle These Guys

[Leigh 87]

Hey guys,

 

I have met a lot of guys who happened to live "long distance" and I am just curious about a few things.

 

I have had a couple of experiences with long distance relationships and now I find myself meeting guys who don't live in my location but at least 2 hours away lately.

 

Guy one: I was 18, we met once, he lived a plane flight away but yet we were still excited about one another and he called me every night and we saw each other again and he moved in with me and we remained together for over 2 years.

Guy two: recently:sick: he lived four hours away and yet made the time to see me every week - although he did only work 2 days per week as he was on a disability pension and didn't need to work more then 2 or 3 days to have a decent enough income.

He was also the type who really wanted a girlfriend I think and wanted to make it work with me badly due to being really into me.

He also didn't have much on - no sports or band practice or anything, and therefore he has ample time and he wanted to spend it all with me...

 

I recently met a guy at a concert and he lives 4 hours away. The first week we were both high on excitement and couldn't wait to see one another. We saw each other again and ever since he still texts me daily but we both realise that he just lives too far away.

Unlike the recent ex, this guy has kids one week on, one week off, has band practice once per week, he takes his son to basketball once per week and he works full time so there is no way he can visit me during his work days and travel 4 hours to work....

I cannot do weekends due to having a demanding job on weekends.

 

The first two guys who made long distance work with me didn't have busy lives or commitments really. When a guy has a busy life and has actual commitments, how would he act towards a girl he may well be into? This thread isn't about the current guy I have met, as I am sure he just isn't into me for more than sex. But it did spark an interest in me, I want to know how to go about meeting men who live a few hours away. How do I better go about things?

 

I meet men when I am away for work on weekends - I travel for work - I don't mind long distance as long as it is within the same state and within driving distance.

 

Any advice on how to handle long distance situations as I seem to run into them a lot?

 

I tend to want to go for men who have full lives and are therefore busy, how will I know if they are still into me when we cannot practically see one another more then once every 2 weeks or even less?