How to deal with this girl...

[blue17]

I've posted about this girl before on this board, and I hope this will be the last time I will need to mention her.

 

About a year ago I started spending time with this girl at school (we never really knew each up untill last semester of senior year of high school.) I enjoyed hanging out with her, she was attractive and she was fun to be around. I wasn't sure whether she liked me beyond a 'in-school buddy' kinda relationship, and I wasn't sure whether I wanted a gf or not or if I wanted to take the relationship further. In all honesty, if she would've made the move I would've gone out with her, but I wasn't gonna go out of my way to do anything drastic. Anyways, I didn't do anything till the last day of school (late June) when I sent her an email (I didn't get it directly from her) asking if she wanted to talk or hang out sometime perhaps. I wasn't sure what I wanted really, but I really liked being around her so I figured I could use that as a building point. She never replied to the email, so I chalked it up as disinterest and I was just an 'in-school buddy' afterall. I saw her a couple days after the email (I kinda pretended like nothing happened), instead of her acting friendly towards me she was almost dead quiet and I had to force words out of her to even get conversation going.

 

School starts next year in September(we go to the same local college) we see each other but don't say a word. I would see her once every couple of weeks, we would make eye contact with one another and then just look away. This goes on for a couple of months, till I was bored one day in class and I realized all the signals she had given me which I had missed from her. These were pretty OBVIOUS signals which showed she was interested in me, but for whatever reason I didn't realize it at the time. So i decided to talk to her, breaking the 4-5 month silence between us. Again she was given me the silent treatment, hardly saying anything. I told her it didn't seem like she was interested in talking any more even tho we used to hang out and everything. She totally denied that, and I asked her 'so we're cool?' and she said 'ya we're cool '.

 

So January comes by after the christmas break, I see her with some mutual acquiantences of ours (she knows them a little bit better than I do) so I stop by to join them at the table. We actually say hi to each other this time, but after about 2 minutes after I sit down she makes a comment about 'her bf' to her friend. Of course I'm sitting right next to her, so she knows I can hear what she is saying. This was all news to me because I knew she hadn't had a boyfriend when we used to hang out, and I just assumed she was still single. Cept the thing is, she was just completely ignoring me. Like...I would make a comment and everyone in the group would laugh/agree with what I said. She wouldn't even look at me. So I just started ignoring her, I wasn't sure why she was acting this way but it was making me feel uncomfortable and I didn't wanna be a part of it anymore. I see her in the halls as i'm talking with a friend...I walk right past her and don't even look at her. She was totally out of my system, I felt so refreshed. Couple days later, she starts trying to talk to me all of a sudden so I figure maybe she wants to work things out between us so we can be friendly again. I see her at a table with the acquaintences of ours...she's doin the same bs. Pretending like I'm not even there, mentioning her boyfriend often (knowing i can hear her) so I just said I had it. I started ignoring her again. So this time...I'm talking with my friend and she comes by and says hi to him (and not me). I didn't even look at her. If I was a stranger I could understand saying hi to only one person, but it seems like she was TRYING to SHOW that she was ignoring me instead actually not caring, if you get my drift.

 

The point of this story is I am wondering where do I go next? She's really starting to ruin it for me. I stopped hanging out with those acquaintences because I knew she'd be there, and I know she'll do the same routine of pretending i don't exist. But they're good people and I'd like to be able to chat with them, I just wish she wasn't there. I see her around like twice a week or so, and it seems like theres lots of tension still between us. I hate having to ignore someone completely as if I don't know them, especially when we used to be pretty close. This whole situation is making me feel uncomfortable. I really hate how this girls goin to my head, but I don't know what I should to or how to deal with her.

 

PS - oh ya i still like this girl, which is probably why I still even give a damn :/

[caramelbrownchick]

Ok this is an interesting situatuation you are in, either this girl really likes you and is trying to make you jealous, or this girl is trying to get a point across that she doesn't like you anymore and she has moved on, the whole fact that she is totally ignoring you seems some what weird and immature, I mean you have to ask yourself would you even really want to be with a girl like that?? Seems to me that she has a few issues, you seem like you have your head on straight, I think you can do better sweetie.