Ignoring Men Who Are Hot

[GemmaUK]

Ignoring the FWB debate here.

 

 

When I approach a guy and ask him out I will go for men who are facially on a similar level in attractiveness to myself. Unless they are extremely overweight or very very skinny then their build/size/height all matter less to me than how attractive I find their face as that is what I'm mostly going to be looking at.

I think there have been studies to show that those of similar facial attractiveness or similar facial features have a greater chance of lasting relationships.

 

 

Maybe go for guys who have a great smile Leigh, you say you have a great smile so look for that in a guy and not just a guy who is 'hot' in the broadest sense of the word.

You might find that Mr Great Smile is actually hot to you and you are equally hot to him.

[Rejected Rosebud]

I am sure they thought I was hot enough to date seriously .

 

People do not seriously date other people because they are "hot enough"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Being hot enough will get interest, a date or two or sex, not serious dating, can you understand that?

[Leigh 87]

People do not seriously date other people because they are "hot enough"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Being hot enough will get interest, a date or two or sex, not serious dating, can you understand that?

 

I do get it.

 

I said: fwb don't think lowly of me simply because I don't sweep them off their feet enough for them to want to date me.

 

Fwb can still think you're a decent and quality person who is highly attractive.

 

Just because a fwb doesn't have a high enough degree of romantic inclinations towards yyou that doesn't mean they don't think you're good enough in theory to date.

[Leigh 87]

Ignoring the FWB debate here.

 

 

When I approach a guy and ask him out I will go for men who are facially on a similar level in attractiveness to myself. Unless they are extremely overweight or very very skinny then their build/size/height all matter less to me than how attractive I find their face as that is what I'm mostly going to be looking at.

I think there have been studies to show that those of similar facial attractiveness or similar facial features have a greater chance of lasting relationships.

 

 

Maybe go for guys who have a great smile Leigh, you say you have a great smile so look for that in a guy and not just a guy who is 'hot' in the broadest sense of the word.

You might find that Mr Great Smile is actually hot to you and you are equally hot to him.

 

 

 

Excep the guys I find cute aand with a nice smile haven't been into me.

 

Going for the cute men hasn't landed me more than lukewarm interest from their part. Although long distance guy was very into me based on my looks but lost interest once he got to know me.

[GemmaUK]

Excep the guys I find cute aand with a nice smile haven't been into me.

 

Going for the cute men hasn't landed me more than lukewarm interest from their part. Although long distance guy was very into me based on my looks but lost interest once he got to know me.

 

I thought you had lost interest in the LD guy and told him you wanted to explore other men from another post I saw of yours?

 

 

It's best to gauge it and find someone who is clearly equally interested in you - but for a RS it isn't all about looks, personality, values and compatibility are all crucial.

[Leigh 87]

The long distance gup said : he had an instant intense chemistry with me, that's rare and therfore despite the distance he'd like to chat daily..just a few texts and a call sometimes. ..and see where it goes.

 

We have mutually agreed to get to know one another via phone calls each week and then if our conversation is compelling enough, we will meet up again.

[GemmaUK]

Sorry, I thought you meant the LD guy you broke up with a few weeks back.

[Leigh 87]

At work atm.

 

I'm seeing so many cute chubby guys that I'm into look wise..With women who are all significantly less attractive than me ( yes if you were to ask 100 men they would mostly agree. ...)

 

The cute looking chubby guys who have eyes that I'm drawn to make me go nuts.

[Rejected Rosebud]

At work atm.

 

I'm seeing so many cute chubby guys that I'm into look wise..With women who are all significantly less attractive than me ( yes if you were to ask 100 men they would mostly agree. ...)

Why is it any of your business how their dates look in comparison with you in your own opinion and that of 100 imaginary men!! I'm sure they are with those girls because they LIKE them! Sheesh all you care about is looks and especially your own looks!

[Leigh 87]

Sorry, I thought you meant the LD guy you broke up with a few weeks back.

 

 

 

No my ex is delusional looks similar to me and I had instant sparks but he turned out to be someone who I absolutely didn't want to be with.

[Leigh 87]

Why is it any of your business how their dates look in comparison with you in your own opinion and that of 100 imaginary men!! I'm sure they are with those girls because they LIKE them! Sheesh all you care about is looks and especially your own looks!

 

I am pointing out that they are within my reach providing the guy actually likes my personity.

 

Hot guys have hotter than me partners. Hence out of my league.

 

I feel chemistry and attraction with chubby cute men just as much as I do with stereotypically hot dudes.

 

May as well shoot for my own league.

[chimpanA-2-chimpanZ]

Is anything actually happening in this thread? It seems like any and every subject or tangent just comes back to how (incredibly, shockingly, stunningly) beautiful the OP is and how the world should orient itself accordingly. Is this real life? I'm so confused. I need an adult.

[Leigh 87]

Is anything actually happening in this thread? It seems like any and every subject or tangent just comes back to how (incredibly, shockingly, stunningly) beautiful the OP is and how the world should orient itself accordingly. Is this real life? I'm so confused. I need an adult.

 

 

I'm not beautiful. I'm a 7/10 on average. Sometimes more according to some people. Sometimes less.

 

I never said that I was all that. I have actually stated that I don't think I'm special or beautiful but I do have a great figure ( I must do since I earned thousands if dollars using my body to model. People also tell me constantly).

 

I am aiming for my own league. And since I'm just as into chubby and over weight guys who are cute, as much as I am into hot guys... I will likely have more success at dating chubby and overweight men with cute faces.

 

I avoid hot guys because they tend to date girls who are of their equal.

 

Where as the chubby cute guys I enjoy just as much ( as hot guys) tend to have partners that are less attractive than me and so I obviously have more of a shot at finding a chubby or overweight guy who also finds me attractive.

 

 

 

 

I'm talking about why I should avoid hot guys.

 

This isn't a discussing about internal beauty. I could also write an entire thread about what I am seeking on a deeper level and I'd be able to talk about a lot more than I can in a superficial thread.

[Leigh 87]

I'm looking for a partner who I have an instant spark with and where...Two people meet and they are both really excited about going on a date together.

 

There for this is looks focused. This thread.

 

It is a whole other story once you get past that initial meeting stage. The of course I also need a decent man with a good character where he adores me and me him.

 

So far I've had much better luck at finding men who are chubby and cute : so far...these men have all thought that I was very attractive.

 

I've yet to encounter a hot guy who also found me to be all that attractive.

 

I want the instant attraction so it's probably fitting that I avoid hot guys.

..who are less likely to be attracted to me.

[Conners]

Leigh, I don't want to offend you however it seems like your approach to dating is really off.. Going for less attractive guys because they would have never had a girlfriend as hot as you!?

Is that what you really want? I get the feeling you want to feel like you have the power in the relationship and security that you will not be dumped.. Love is about taking risks and sometimes vulnerability.

Also please please stop talking about your modelling and body, it would be a turn off if you bragged about it this much in real life. I hope you don't. Also you said you were a model before you were Sick in your early 20s, aren't you nearing 30 now!? I had a very good body when I was 18-20 but I've put on a little bit of weight now and I'm only 23.. You need to stop tooting your own horn, it would be a turn off to anybody regardless of how "chubby" they are.

[Leigh 87]

Leigh, I don't want to offend you however it seems like your approach to dating is really off.. Going for less attractive guys because they would have never had a girlfriend as hot as you!?

Is that what you really want? I get the feeling you want to feel like you have the power in the relationship and security that you will not be dumped.. Love is about taking risks and sometimes vulnerability.

Also please please stop talking about your modelling and body, it would be a turn off if you bragged about it this much in real life. I hope you don't. Also you said you were a model before you were Sick in your early 20s, aren't you nearing 30 now!? I had a very good body when I was 18-20 but I've put on a little bit of weight now and I'm only 23.. You need to stop tooting your own horn, it would be a turn off to anybody regardless of how "chubby" they are.

 

 

 

I'm not tooting my own horn. I readily admit that I'm not attractive enough for the " hot " guys.

 

I will avoid much rejection if I aim for my own league look wise.

[Conners]

I'm not tooting my own horn. I readily admit that I'm not attractive enough for the " hot " guys.

 

I will avoid much rejection if I aim for my own league look wise.

 

I meant tooting your own horn in regards to the modelling and your body etc

Guys like modesty! Repeating it over again is tooting your own horn.

 

And that's fine you don't want to set the bar too high but I think you are too focused on looks. I know my boyfriend has been with better looking girls than me, he loves me though and even though he thinks I'm beautiful, it's more my personality that he loves which is so much more important in an actual relationship. I just think you focus on a specific type of guy to avoid rejection which isn't really healthy. This may be why you get bored of guys quickly (like your last relationship) their obsession with you gets annoying and you want validation from someone new.

[brakco]

I wanted to believe that the OP was trolling (because it seemed so obvious) but then you look at her history of threads some 12 pages long and it's just a lost cause. I don't know what to believe anymore but either way, I am seriously entertained.

[Conners]

Let's put it this way; if you saw an amazingly hot guy who you thought was out of your league and you started seeing eachother or whatever and he starts narcissistically talking about his male modelling, gym sessions and how much female attention he receives, would you not run for the hills? I would be so turned off by it.

[Leigh 87]

I at least want a guy to be initially attracted to me.

 

I don't expect to be the hottest thing he's ever had.

[Leigh 87]

I don't mention modeling to men. A few ask me or recommend doing I do it so at that stage I tell them that I've dabbled in it before and my ship has long sailed. .......

[snowflakes88]

At work atm.

 

I'm seeing so many cute chubby guys that I'm into look wise..With women who are all significantly less attractive than me ( yes if you were to ask 100 men they would mostly agree. ...)

 

The cute looking chubby guys who have eyes that I'm drawn to make me go nuts.

 

FFS, Leigh. Who cares what their gfs look like in comparison to you??? Most people select partners based on factors beyond the superficial. Shared interests. Similar senses of humor. Common goals & ideals. All you talk is looks, looks, looks, looks, looks, looks. Everyone isn't like you.

[anne1707]

I'm not tooting my own horn. I readily admit that I'm not attractive enough for the " hot " guys.

 

I will avoid much rejection if I aim for my own league look wise.

 

So basically it comes down to you wanting a "hot" guy but you will settle for someone from your own league. You do realise that you will still be rejected regardless of how hot or un-hot the guy is? Especially when they realise you prefer the hot guy next door.

 

The way you post about how you want a relationship to start and develop.... I feel as if you have watched too many films Leigh. Life is not always perfect and that is what makes it so great. Stop dreaming and get living.

[Rejected Rosebud]

You do realise that you will still be rejected regardless of how hot or un-hot the guy is? Especially when they realise you prefer the hot guy next door.

Probably also when they realize what your idea of a "relationship" is because I don't know any guys who share that with you or any girls either actually! I hope you get around to learning about how people connect, honestly I do.

[Leigh 87]

So basically it comes down to you wanting a "hot" guy but you will settle for someone from your own league. You do realise that you will still be rejected regardless of how hot or un-hot the guy is? Especially when they realise you prefer the hot guy next door.

 

The way you post about how you want a relationship to start and develop.... I feel as if you have watched too many films Leigh. Life is not always perfect and that is what makes it so great. Stop dreaming and get living.

 

 

 

I am not more attracted to hot men than I am not hot men.

 

I feel a spark based on chemistry not hotness.

 

The greatest sparks I've ever felt were towards non hot men who TO ME just did it for me.

 

I avoid the men that I know many other girls crush on because I know such men are above my league. I am not fighting back any urges for said men : I just won't initiate contact and " flirt" with them.