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Are you more/less attracted to your wife/husband now than when you met

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Alright, and take that anyway you'd like. Attraction can be sexual, emotional, etc. I still find my wife as attractive emotionally as before. But I am going to focus on the sexual/lust side of things.

 

 

I will say this, my wife was beautiful when we first met. She was 22 and is now 30. Young, nice body, good enough to rock a bikini. I was very attracted to her when she was my girlfriend. Lots of sex. Then still the same as my fiancé. Then still the same as my wife. She didn't lose or gain any weight at all. Looked the same. The sex stayed the same, which was great.

 

 

She got pregnant with our son. Maybe weighed 155lbs. when I got her pregnant. She's 5'5" or so. Very curvy. After our son she looked great still, began to get her old body back and then some. By the time I got her pregnant again her tummy was flat again and she was 135lbs. She had lost 20lbs from before she ever got pregnant. She had our second child and is back to around 140-145lbs. She's in great shape, does NOT look like she had two children. Gets that all the time.

 

 

Here's the thing, our sex life hasn't changed much at all with our two kids. We still do the same things, with the same frequency. But I am even more attracted to her from a physical standpoint than ever before. I don't know why. I find her more irresistible now than ever. I still look at her when she's coming out of the shower or changing her shirt like I am a 13 year old kid who gets the chance to peer into his neighbor's window. I still have that excitement.

 

 

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Congratulations...you hit the lottery.

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I'm happy for you OP :). That is very sweet.

 

Though I must admit that it seems virtually impossible to maintain the same level of physical, sexual, lustful attraction that one has at the beginning of a relationship. At that point, it can be very lust-driven. And then the relationship grows and changes. I wouldn't say there's necessarily "less" or "more" attraction, I would say that it's different in some cases.

 

Either way, your case seems sorta rare. Especially on LS!!

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I'm the same weight as I was when we met, when I was 17. I'm over 40 now :bunny:

 

If my H has lost any attraction, I haven't been able to tell....

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More. I really feel like I hit the lottery by finding her.

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I'm happy for you OP :). That is very sweet.

 

Though I must admit that it seems virtually impossible to maintain the same level of physical, sexual, lustful attraction that one has at the beginning of a relationship. At that point, it can be very lust-driven. And then the relationship grows and changes. I wouldn't say there's necessarily "less" or "more" attraction, I would say that it's different in some cases.

 

Either way, your case seems sorta rare. Especially on LS!!

 

8 years so far and the fire is still there like when we were dating. I've bypassed all of the things where people say the sex slows down

 

 

"it will change when you marry her......"

"it'll change when you have kids..........."

 

 

Honestly, I am still waiting. Right now our children are young, I assume there will be new challenges when the kids are teenagers and they are awake as long if not longer than you. They know what mom and dad "do" with each other, so I suspect it might be harder then since our kids right now sleep from 7pm to 7am all night. Lots of time for sex then.

 

 

But the desire for sex hasn't changed yet either.

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Alright, and take that anyway you'd like. Attraction can be sexual, emotional, etc. I still find my wife as attractive emotionally as before. But I am going to focus on the sexual/lust side of things.

 

 

I will say this, my wife was beautiful when we first met. She was 22 and is now 30. Young, nice body, good enough to rock a bikini. I was very attracted to her when she was my girlfriend. Lots of sex. Then still the same as my fiancé. Then still the same as my wife. She didn't lose or gain any weight at all. Looked the same. The sex stayed the same, which was great.

 

 

She got pregnant with our son. Maybe weighed 155lbs. when I got her pregnant. She's 5'5" or so. Very curvy. After our son she looked great still, began to get her old body back and then some. By the time I got her pregnant again her tummy was flat again and she was 135lbs. She had lost 20lbs from before she ever got pregnant. She had our second child and is back to around 140-145lbs. She's in great shape, does NOT look like she had two children. Gets that all the time.

 

 

Here's the thing, our sex life hasn't changed much at all with our two kids. We still do the same things, with the same frequency. But I am even more attracted to her from a physical standpoint than ever before. I don't know why. I find her more irresistible now than ever. I still look at her when she's coming out of the shower or changing her shirt like I am a 13 year old kid who gets the chance to peer into his neighbor's window. I still have that excitement.

 

 

Share your story.

 

As life progresses you continue to fall in love with your wife over and over again. With each stage of life you admire her on a whole new level.

 

Please, tell her. Often wives have no idea how much their husbands lust after them beyond the physical (which is nice to know too).

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Mal78 Established Member

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8 years so far and the fire is still there like when we were dating. I've bypassed all of the things where people say the sex slows down

 

 

"it will change when you marry her......"

"it'll change when you have kids..........."

 

 

Honestly, I am still waiting. Right now our children are young, I assume there will be new challenges when the kids are teenagers and they are awake as long if not longer than you. They know what mom and dad "do" with each other, so I suspect it might be harder then since our kids right now sleep from 7pm to 7am all night. Lots of time for sex then.

 

 

But the desire for sex hasn't changed yet either.

 

I have 4 teenagers, I was told once that your children hearing you make love is much more healthy for their psychological development then hearing their parents fight. Yet, we are careful to not be loud in the bedroom but have no problems arguing in front of our child (in general, not everyone per say).

 

It's not suggested that we purposely have our children hear us however if it happens... oh well ;)

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I have 4 teenagers, I was told once that your children hearing you make love is much more healthy for their psychological development then hearing their parents fight. Yet, we are careful to not be loud in the bedroom but have no problems arguing in front of our child (in general, not everyone per say).

 

It's not suggested that we purposely have our children hear us however if it happens... oh well ;)

 

My room was next to my parents' room. I'd hear the odd noise, but the second I'd hear what I perceived to be the slightest act of sex my music headphones would go on. I didn't want to hear even a bed squeak anymore than they did. So yeah, it won't scar you.

 

 

But I am guessing with teenagers they are out of the house so often and the last place they want to hang with is their parents so I would suspect there would be some opportune times to have plenty of sex as well. Maybe not the traditional "the kids have gone to bed" type, but if the chance presents itself I suspect that is often how it goes when you have teens.

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My room was next to my parents' room. I'd hear the odd noise, but the second I'd hear what I perceived to be the slightest act of sex my music headphones would go on. I didn't want to hear even a bed squeak anymore than they did. So yeah, it won't scar you.

 

 

But I am guessing with teenagers they are out of the house so often and the last place they want to hang with is their parents so I would suspect there would be some opportune times to have plenty of sex as well. Maybe not the traditional "the kids have gone to bed" type, but if the chance presents itself I suspect that is often how it goes when you have teens.

 

This is true, they come and go like the wind. Sometimes (like the wind) the come when you might think they are gone. Our bedroom is by the main bathroom. I might have been particularly loud and then we hear the toilet flush or the water running and I quietly ask my dh, "was I really loud"? CRAP!

 

I feel bad for like 1 minute.

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I was so attracted to him the second I saw him at 16. He was so confident almost arrogant, ok more arrogant then confident. He was a good looking guy and he knew it.

 

Now a few greys peppered into his thin perfectly shaped beard, slight wrinkles around his eyes he is oh so sexy.

 

24 years and wildly attracted to him. On top of his great looks he is an even better person. I feel so blessed that he is the father of my children.

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I still find my wife to be physically attractive, despite picking up some weight. However, I'm not sexually attracted to her anymore.

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Clockwork Established Member

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I still find my wife to be physically attractive, despite picking up some weight. However, I'm not sexually attracted to her anymore.

 

Ouch, sorry about that brother. Why is that? What has changed?

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I am more attracted to my husband today than I have ever been, and we have been together more than 20 years. Our kids are all grown and out on their own now, so we are acting like young lovers again. It has been amazing. (Although we are currently experiencing issues with ED - I posted about it in the sexual health section). We seriously act like horny teenagers. ;)

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Definitely more attracted. Over the years I've gotten to know him more deeply, and gotten to know his family and friends much more deeply too, and the more I see, the more I like.

 

Yes, he's older - we both are - but when I look back at pictures of him in, say, his 20s or 30s, I think he's so much more attractive now.

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