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I have been absolutely NC with x MM for 6 months now.

 

Unlike many of you, I always spent my birthday with him for 5 years... gifts, seafood meal, wine, etc.

 

I was holding my breath today as I checked my mailbox. There was nothing there from him. I am SO relieved that I didn't have to deal with receiving a communication from him after so long. He used to be unpredictable and respect no boundaries.

 

This evening I feel as though I have moved even further away from the man and there is no connection at all now. I feel much more at ease than I did this morning.

 

It seems my NC silence has finally worked for me and he gets the message at last. It's the only way to go.

Poppy.

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Happy Birthday! Sounds like he still is in your mind. I hope he's more of a fond memory.

 

As much as you might be tempted, don't check up on him. Don't erase 6 months of healing.

 

Treat yourself well today. :)

 

 

Don't forget. Today is about YOU.. not him. Celebrate yourself. NC is a commitment to love yourself. Always put yourself first.

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still_an_Angel

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Happy Birthday!!!

You're doing really well with NC, keep working on it, you'll reap the rewards sooner than you thought.

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I think it's GREAT that you were relieved and not sad, because he didn't contact you! :D And Happy Birthday!!! :bunny::bunny::bunny:

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Happy Birthday! Sounds like he still is in your mind. I hope he's more of a fond memory.

 

As much as you might be tempted, don't check up on him. Don't erase 6 months of healing.

 

Treat yourself well today. :)

 

 

Don't forget. Today is about YOU.. not him. Celebrate yourself. NC is a commitment to love yourself. Always put yourself first.

 

Fusion,

I wasn't tempted at all. I didn't want to deal with getting any kind of communication from him after so long.

If I had received a card, it would have gone straight to the paper shredder without being opened. NC don't you know!!!!!

It was a five year A so he is still in my mind a lot and I won't forget him in a hurry.

It's more difficult to get one's SELF back the longer the A goes on.

 

You have been very supportive to everybody here. Thank you so much.

Poppy.

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I have been absolutely NC with x MM for 6 months now.

 

Unlike many of you, I always spent my birthday with him for 5 years... gifts, seafood meal, wine, etc.

 

I was holding my breath today as I checked my mailbox. There was nothing there from him. I am SO relieved that I didn't have to deal with receiving a communication from him after so long. He used to be unpredictable and respect no boundaries.

 

This evening I feel as though I have moved even further away from the man and there is no connection at all now. I feel much more at ease than I did this morning.

 

It seems my NC silence has finally worked for me and he gets the message at last. It's the only way to go.

Poppy.

 

Sounds like you are moving forward in a positive manner. I'm glad for you. Enough of your life has been spent as an OW. Positive thought for you as you continue your life journey.

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MM/MW cake eat.

 

You can eat birthday cake and your NC cake. NC cake doesn't taste all that great but at least is good for you. ;)

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Poppy,

 

 

When my relationship with my commitment-phobe boyfriend - who I thought was the love of my life - ended, I used to tell myself that being alone was better than being lonely in a relationship. I also told myself that I was one step ahead in the game - that I had at least shed the dead weight so that I could be free and available when the right guy came along.

 

 

To me, it was a little bit like taking off your coat that you love to try on another heavier, warmer coat. The new one's better in the long run, but the new one was all snuggly warm to start with.

 

 

In the end, I met the real love of my life. At 38, I thought I had seen/dated them all and that the previous guy was it. He was just my starter guy. My husband has exceeded all of my expectations.

 

 

One thing I learned was that with my hubby, I clearly stated what I wanted and what was acceptable to me. I had avoided that in the past to not appear needy. What I've learned is that he respected very much that I knew what I wanted and that he had to live up to my expectations.

 

 

So, go forward - coatless - to find the new one. The one who will exceed expectations. He's out there and for your birthday, I wish that you find him!

 

 

Hugs, GG

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MM/MW cake eat.

 

You can eat birthday cake and your NC cake. NC cake doesn't taste all that great but at least is good for you. ;)

 

Yes Fusion... NC cake is on of the new SUPER FOODS. It's very healthy.

LOL.

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