tim505 Posted December 4, 2014 Share Posted December 4, 2014 So I started talking to this girl who went to my school. She was in some of my classes. I recently starting messaging her last week and told her we should get together sometime. We hit it off right away and she was always messaging me. She would even reach out to me the next day. We eventually hung out about a week later. Two days later, I told her I would like to take her out to dinner. Also told her that I liked her picture on Facebook and that she was pretty. Since then, I have been the only one reaching out to her. She did say that she was really busy this week and that's why she couldn't hang out, but thought its a bit odd that she doesn't text me anymore. I don't know if she is legitimately busy or if I was being to aggressive. Should I wait for her to reach out to me? Last time I talked to her was Tuesday briefly. She said she was going out to dinner but I never heard back from her after saying I hoped she had a good time. Starting to get worried. She also posted on Facebook that its okay for women to reach out to men. Not sure if that was some message. I really like her and want to have the best possible chances. Thanks, Tim Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted December 4, 2014 Share Posted December 4, 2014 Hello Tim, I think you should wait until next week (since she said she is busy this week), then ask her out on a date. Don't ask her to "hang out". That is lame. You've got her number - CALL her. Don't text/facebook. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tim505 Posted December 4, 2014 Author Share Posted December 4, 2014 That's a good idea I will do that. I didn't actually say it like that I said that I would like to take you to dinner one night this week if you are free. Do you think I was being to aggressive though? Link to post Share on other sites
PogoStick Posted December 4, 2014 Share Posted December 4, 2014 Yes, less frequent contact. You don't need to respond and comment on every event in her life. Contact her when there is actually something important to talk about, most important being: Let's go out to dinner at XYZ on Friday. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted December 4, 2014 Share Posted December 4, 2014 How can asking her to dinner be considered too aggressive? Were you gritting your teeth at the time, or holding a knife in a menacing manner? Link to post Share on other sites
Author tim505 Posted December 4, 2014 Author Share Posted December 4, 2014 ha Pete well by being aggressive I meant liking every other post on her facebook, telling her she is pretty, and contacting her every day. Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted December 4, 2014 Share Posted December 4, 2014 That's a good idea I will do that. I didn't actually say it like that I said that I would like to take you to dinner one night this week if you are free. Do you think I was being to aggressive though? You weren't being aggressive, at least not from what you've said in your initial post. Some girls are just flakes. But stop talking to her via Facebook. Only talk to her occasionally via text and phone conversation. Be assertive and ask for a date, don't sugar coat it as "hanging out". Link to post Share on other sites
Author tim505 Posted December 4, 2014 Author Share Posted December 4, 2014 thanks. i will call her next week and ask her if she would like to go out to dinner. wish me luck! i feel better now that someone doesn't think i was being to pushy Link to post Share on other sites
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