DRStone Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 So, a few days ago posted a thread about how I'm not getting any replies from my matches and had a few good responses. I actually ended up doing an experiment to see if it's the messages I'm sending, or indeed... just my looks? My original thought was that my messages were getting filtered out because I consider myself to be below average - average looks, and my highest rated matches across all 3 sites were completely out of my league. Someone suggested it may actually be my profile or my messages. I have read a lot about writing a good profile and tried to follow some of the tips about what type of information to include but made it my own! Put my own somewhat whitty jokes in and tried to make it resemble me as much as possible.. So for me, it came down to the messages. Since I'm 19, I don't have a great age range to go with, but I messaged 100 girls between 18 and 22, with a lot of variety. Black, white, asian, tall, short, outgoing and sociable, introverts, what I consider above average looks - below average looks and much more! I went for a complete range. Some girls I used a simple "Hey, how's it going?" as someone pointed out it was the most responded to message on OK Cupid (Which is 1 of the 3 I used) and some were ever so slightly referring to their profile to let them know I read it. Others were a little bit longer and I referred to their profile 2-4 times to show that I really read into it. Another thing I should point out is that I met at least 60% of the "My ideal match" criteria. 2 of the sights I pay for so I can tell when they've read my messages. From those 2 sites, I messaged 70 people, as of right now, 59 have read them and out of the 70 I have had ONE, yes, ONE reply. The 3rd site I messaged 30, don't know who read it, but have had TWO, yes TWO replies. So all in all I have a 3/100 response rate and I refuse to believe it's down to my messages or profile as I've followed all the tips people have given me and tried all different kinds of approaches! It is 100% down to my looks and there's nothing I can do about that. I don't have many pictures as I'm not that photogenic but I gave 15 pictures to 2 friends and 5 strangers I met online (Don't ask, long story) they picked out my top 3 and funnily enough, all bar 1 person picked the same photos so I decided to use them... WHAT ELSE CAN I DO?! It's really bringing me down now and I have no idea what to do since I can't change the way I look! Thank you for reading the whole damn thing and thank you for any responses in advanced! Link to post Share on other sites
ponchsox Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 I set up a troll account and used my exact same profile with a picture of a male model. It's amazimg how many more women were suddenly interested. I'd even say stupid, off the wall stuff and they would giggle and say they wanted to meet me. I canceled my account after. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 People may have picked the best photos but that doesn't guarantee you are any particular woman's type. What do you perceive as your physical flaws? Link to post Share on other sites
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